A couple weeks ago my wife said she was going to unlocked me for the last two weeks of her gradate program, since she would be too busy to give me any attention. So i have been unlocked these last 2 weeks, and she just wrapped up her program this past Friday. But now it has been a couple days and she has not locked me back up. Should I asked to be locked back up, or keep enjoying my freedom until she decides it is time for chastity again?
From my view it depends on the dynamic you have with your key holder. If she is the one to decide and you have agreed to that, then i would suggest waiting for her decision. If that is unclear then you should discuss this with her. One thing that seems evident but often needs to be remembered is that she is not a mind reader and will not know your wishes and desires until you share them with her. Once shares then choices can be made by all. There is joy in freedom, but there is also satisfaction in being locked by her will and dependent on her wishes. Which is of greater value is a personal choice for each.
I think waiting for her to decide. The waiting and not knowing is part of the thrill for me. As soon as Mistress Jules locks me the waiting starts again not knowing how long I will be locked. There have been times I have thought about asking.
When I do get released we have kind of worked out a "routine". BTW, caged for over 7 years, get quarterly releases and on vacations. Sex for us is my head between her legs and me dripping. Anyway, when I am released for rare PIV, she allows me to go free overnight. She has told me she wants me to feel what I'm missing - morning erections, my jewels having free motion, her pussy. But - when I wake up and take a shower, she requires that the key be left on the bathroom counter. It is expected and the way it is - for us.
I am required to do housework nude. She can see if I'm locked or not. So, no reminder needed and I dont ask. It's more submissive that way, I think.
IMVHO, and it is only an opinion, asking to be caged is wrong. It should be at her discretion and her timing. Otherwise she is not dominating you, she is indulging you. But I know how the longing to be caged can take hold. Each to their own I guess
As I nor most on here I imagine know neither you nor her I don't feel that most of us are in a position to advise you. What I would say is she has just finished a graduate programme cut her some slack FFS
I've only outright asked my wife/KH to lock me up a couple of times. But several times I've dropped hints about it... leave books about chastity laying around, or talk about how I love being in chastity for her, etc. If I tell her that I've been masturbating a lot, that's often enough to trigger her locking me up.
Thanks everyone for the good advise. I took it and have not asked to be locked back up. But when I mentioned to my wife yesterday that is has been 35 days I have been out of the cage, she saiid, "It is not a matter of IF you will be locked up again, it is a matter of WHEN."
I hope you've been enjoying your freedom and your erections. My wife has also left me unlocked for 9 days now; I'm telling myself I'm not going to say a word, she'll relock me when she wants, I want it to come from her. I need her to seize control even more than I need to offer it.
It depends on the chastity dynamic. The fact that you are asking suggests that this is newish for both of you. If that's the case, I would suggest reminding her that it's still a game that you would like to play, otherwise she may assume that you don't want to play anymore. If you are both more experienced, then let her do it on her own schedule.
Of course there is an alternative. Lock yourself back up and leave the key where she will find it or just give it to her. Tell her its until she wants to use (the key) again... and take it from there. You will not doubt potentially either generate discussion or merely have initiated your next period of denial. A combination of both would I think be the ideal outcome.
Even better, is to refer back to what she said that you'd be unlocked for two weeks, making it HER decision that you should be locked up again. So something like, "I suppose I should do as you said and be locked back up now now that you've done your two weeks program?"
This morning my wife gave me an ultimatum: Either put the cage back on before the camping trip, or right after we get home from the camping trip. We leave for the camping trip tomorrow morning and return Monday. What to do!
If you can wait till Monday without a cage then do that. I don't even wear a cage. Some can do it; some can't.
In 2016 I initiated chastity by locking myself and offering my wife the key. She took the key. Yeah! All subsequent breaks from chastity we have taken I have been the one to ask / plead / pressure to be locked again. This break was different. What she said was going to be a 2 week break ended up being a 5 week break but I did not ask nor pressure my wife but waited until she was ready to once again take on a key holder Dom role. I have been locked back up for a week now, on a 1 release/month schedule, and loving the feelings of devotion and being controlled. She just left this morning for a week-long outdoor adventure with her girlfriend (plutonic friend) and left me behind locked, with the key secured with a numbered lock I can cut in an emergency, and a plugging schedule to follow, and I also recieved maintainence spankings 3 out of 7 nights last week. The morale of the story: Good thing come to those that wait and really being submissive and giving up control works.