So this is a different type of post that what I usually do.
How do Keyholders who are naturally caring types turn it off when needed? I’ve had a Sadistic streak in me as long as I can remember but never acted on any of it until @thatguyonbtheinternetand I began our Chasity lifestyle however many years ago.
That said, now that we are effectively living a 24/7 FLR, I’ve noticed that from time to time he can get moody or sullen in general, and if there’s no obvious external cause for his mood I’ve found it’s usually just him trying to cope with the much, much longer lock-ups and periods of denial.
I’ve also noticed that when he is in one of those moods, and then happens to receive a fairly aggressive punishment, although he hates pain and doesn’t like punishment, his mood seems to lift noticeably.
This tells me that when he’s struggling in that way, what he may actually need (even if he doesn’t see it) is additional structure and a firm reminder that just because he’s in some kind of mood doesn’t mean he gets to be pissy with me.
So I wonder how other Keyholders, whose natural response might be to be extra accommodating and caring when their sub is in a mood, override that instinct and instead allow your inner Domme to come out even more so when you know that it is needed?
How do Keyholders who are naturally caring types turn it off when needed? I’ve had a Sadistic streak in me as long as I can remember but never acted on any of it until @thatguyonbtheinternetand I began our Chasity lifestyle however many years ago.
That said, now that we are effectively living a 24/7 FLR, I’ve noticed that from time to time he can get moody or sullen in general, and if there’s no obvious external cause for his mood I’ve found it’s usually just him trying to cope with the much, much longer lock-ups and periods of denial.
I’ve also noticed that when he is in one of those moods, and then happens to receive a fairly aggressive punishment, although he hates pain and doesn’t like punishment, his mood seems to lift noticeably.
This tells me that when he’s struggling in that way, what he may actually need (even if he doesn’t see it) is additional structure and a firm reminder that just because he’s in some kind of mood doesn’t mean he gets to be pissy with me.
So I wonder how other Keyholders, whose natural response might be to be extra accommodating and caring when their sub is in a mood, override that instinct and instead allow your inner Domme to come out even more so when you know that it is needed?