I've been one horny dude most of my life. Discovered masturbation at age 13, and from then on did it at least once a day, frequently twice, sometime had a binge where I did it several times over the course of a day (an erotic novel usually the trigger). But there's something about hitting your 50s that slows you down, and in the last couple of years I've found that I have had a hard time making love with my wife. No problem with porn in front of me, but not with her. The Tenga 3D and it's intense sensations - well, my wife couldn't compete. But we've been an "item" for 34 years, married for about 32, and I love my wife. I've missed the intimacy, and she had withdrawn a bit. A little over a week ago I failed, again, and said "Maybe it's because I'm masturbating too much." She said "Well, what can we do about that?" implying that there wasn't anything. I of course had read about the Chastity lifestyle (deserves a capital C) so I dug a little deeper. Then while doing dishes the other night, after being a bundle of nerves for two days, I brought up the subject and suggested locking up my cock. I showed her the picture of a Holy Trainer, and she said, yes! I was surprised and delighted. I had already measured for the A ring, and had one ordered from Kept For Her within the hour. But they are back ordered for about two weeks, and I didn't want to wait that long. So the next morning I ordered one from eBay - the one in the picture. It arrived yesterday and we went to put it on immediately. I got hard of course, and had a hard time getting in. A stocking I found out is essential - large as it is I'm a snug fit, and need a larger ring I think. Never one to do things half way, I've also ordered a Jailhouse. In the mean time we had a good talk yesterday morning after my wife read material that I've printed out for her, and I think likes the idea. A visit to our bedroom in the late afternoon, how wet she was, and how quickly she came (and how hard) says as much. I was locked up the whole time, and it was wonderful. She knew that she didn't have to worry about me getting soft and not cumming, so she just enjoyed.... We had to go out, and then I was hit with a bug over night so not locked up, but I am now after shaving in the shower this morning. MUCH easier to get in this time, and more comfortable. She's out at the moment, with the keys, and this is the first time in months that I haven't taken advantage of her absence to jack off. I think that she'll enjoy this, and little hints she's dropped make me think that she won't hesitate to lock me up for an extended period once we get the fit right and I'm used to the cage. But no more masturbating or sex without her consent. I like that.
For me, after 6 months of being locked up, I am no longer locked and no urge to masturbate anymore. We started chastity play to get rid of my need to masturbate daily. That habit was broken so no need to be locked up anymore since we only go a few weeks at a time between my orgasms. A result of our chastity play, my libido has decreased dramatically. I do not even get horny until almost two weeks after my last orgasm. I do not know if that is a good or bad thing at my age. I only have so many orgasms left inside of me.
Day one completed - 33 hours in the cage in the avatar. Slept through the night without pain, but it got harder to wear as the day went on today. Fortunately the JailHouse came arrived today. Took the first one off immediately, put the JH on. Same size ring but several steps more comfortable. I like the shorter cage - it just fits and I don't feel like something that belonged to King Kong is hanging between my legs. It doesn't hang out of the leg of my underwear either. I was willing to wear the other just so I could be locked up, but this I can live with. Still waiting for the HT to arrive, but I rather like the idea of being able to clean and try myself easier in this one VS the closed tube on the HT. We will see.