Just wondering if Chastity attracts men with small penises like me. I have not had intercourse with my wife for longer than we can remember. I would say about 2o to 30 years or more. She says my penis is too small, too limp and too quick to go off. I cannot remember a time when she was able to orgasm by just intercourse alone. I always finished her off with my mouth and still do. Chastity allows her to limit my orgasm so she does not have to deal with them and takes the pressure off of me to get hard and even cum. Just wondering if others are in the same boat as me or am I the only guy with a small penis into chastity.?
Very similar to my experience but never thought I was that small! My wife rarely climaxed from intercourse and since my journey began six months ago I have had sex once and it was over in a flash! She prefers oral so just as well!
With respect to size, there are two things to consider. There is the "blood cock" and the "meat cock", also known as the "grower" and "shower" respectively. Meat cocks will stay the same size, more or less, whether flaccid or engorged. A tight device will always be tight, whether experiencing an erection or not. Blood cocks, or growers, will tend to start out small and grow when engorged. i have a blood cock. It is quite small when i am not aroused, but grows to what I have been told is a very satisfying 8" when i am. Any Chastity cage that fits me when i am not erect will be incredibly painful (unless there is lots of room to grow) if i am aroused. When my former Owner and i played with Chastity, She was fully aware of this, and sized things accordingly. Some cages are sold with spikes (fairly dull protuberances designed to quell growth through pain). i never needed one of those, as the process of growing for me was always excruciating. Many nights, i woke up with a half-erection and a fair amount of pain caused by the device, which always really amused my former Owner. She loved teasing me and did everything She could to try to elicit a response from me—but She is a Sadist, so that is something one would expect. i simply cannot imagine how a full erection would feel—it certainly would not fit. Thus, in my case, vaginal intercourse for Her orgasm was always an option. The Chastity regimen for me was always about taking the device off and taking me to the edge, only to deny. This included frequent vaginal intercourse to Her satisfaction and my eventual denial, followed by an ice pack and reinsertion. Additionally, oral sex was frequent as well. She knew that i tended to get aroused by Her scent and that arousal, and the pain it caused me, was always a goal. To answer the original post, one does not—of necessity—need to be small to enjoy Chastity play. One should never assume that small penises=Chastity, large ones=freedom. Certainly, in my experience, my ability to grow, combined with my own masochism and Her outright Sadism created a wonderful dynamic.
I have not assumed anything but was rather asking if guys with small cocks were attracted to chastity as I was. I have been in many group scenes so I am more than aware of the various penis conditions. I am either turtled so that you cannot see it outside of my body or, if it does show, it is about 2" flaccid. Erect it grows to about 4 inches. It was a little bigger when I was in my early 20's, a shade over under 5". My first sexually active girlfriend ended up cuckolding me with strangers and all three of my best friends. She said that everyone else could make her have multiple orgasms vaginally but she never had one with me. The girlfriend after her did not mind not having an orgasm during intercourse, or the size of my cock. She is now married to a woman so she was never into cock to begin with. After her is my wife who was never with a man and never saw a cock except for her little brother's. Those were the days before cable TV and the internet. If you wanted to see naked people you had to mail away for nudist magazines. She did not know that I was smaller than average. She also thought her failure to achieve orgasm during intercourse was her problem. I felt bad for her so I arranged a wife swap. She learned a lot of things that night and nothing was the same. When she saw that I could not get the other guy's wife off, had trouble getting hard and could not cum despite the efforts of an experienced swinger, she knew that I was the problem. There was one other woman, one of my wife's girlfriends, that I had intercourse with. She had to stuff a limp cock into herself and when I came, it had fallen out and she did not realize that I even came. She laughed and a week later I got an envelope in the mail containing an ad for a penis enlarger. There were a few other woman but for the most part, they preferred oral so it was not a problem. Many were married woman who preferred oral and when it came to trying anal, what is better than a small cock for your first time experience. As bad as it sounds, my small cock was never really a hindrance. I made up for it in other ways and a few times I gave women their first orgasm with another person using my mouth and the things I said. I was also eager to cater to all sorts of kinks or fetishes that did not involve intercourse and word spread so that I got all the freaks. I ended up in BDSM for most of my life where intercourse was not even an option so I coped and had fun anyway.
I forgot to mention that even with the CB6000s, I do not even get close to the end of it when erect. I barely feel it get tight. I have read posts by others on CM that have the same problem. When you gain weight you get a sort of pouch at the base of your cock and you cock retreats into it at times and all that is holding your CB on is the ring. I got the Points of Intrigue due today to try to stop the turtle effect. I am and have lost weight and am still losing but combined with old age, my cock is more useless that it was in its heyday.
Just had wife measure my cock. Yikes, it was smaller than I remember. About 3" erect and if I want to be generous, maybe 3.25 inches but that is cheating a little. I am not exaggerating when I say that my cock is small and have not had intercourse in more than 20 years. No point in it as I really never feel any pressure on it to provide friction. Oral has been my thing for most of my life.
I think the reason some women choose a ''cuck'' is mostly because of her hubbies penis size being small, and not satisfying her. I am a size queen when it comes to cock. Just my personal fetish.
I think It would be fair to say that there is a correlation for a reason between small dicks and male chastity. It is no different then the often mentioned reason for men to introduce their vanilla wives to chastity in the first place, - an unbalanced sex drive. Once you are locked up, what to do with your bigger sex drive. Not much... Lol! - - but to wait for her to request for oral service or penetration without release for you... There you have another correlation. Unbalanced sex drive can be the gateway to male chastity as well... And one for the record: I consider the size of my member to be the best protection against cuckoldry. Yes I believe there is another correlation between so called useless smalls dicks and the craving for Cuckoldry. Often as the "useless sub" being the one fantasizing the most about it...
This raises an interesting philosophy, now just because a a man has a small dick doesn't make him a submissive, nor if boasts are large one does it make him dominant, although this does tend to be the norm. I've also seen several submissive who are shall we say are hung, but it's the other end of the spectrum that intrigues me. Are they any dominant males with small dicks? Does anyone know of one? Would the dynamic still work?
What an interesting question! - I would love to see my personal prejudices being torn to pieces...;-)
Well, the only time I seem to see kinky males discuss the size of their genitalia is: "I'm so 'dominate' because I have a large dick, so all you subby girls better form a straight line with no pushing!" *shudders* "I have a small penis, and as such should be humiliated." Discussing how to best fit a chastity device to it. I do recall a porn clip with lots of women dancing and entertaining a guy who was slowly masturbating his rather small penis, and he seemed to be in a rather Dom-ly attitude (though it wasn't an explicitly D/s or kinky clip).
i disagree with the stereotype or, perhaps i should say my own desires run counter to the stereotype that all men with small penises are submissive and all Women with large breasts are Dominant. i know that i am big enough to please, either through oral sex and other manipulation or through vaginal intercourse. i believe this stereotype is set up by the porn industry and one can pretty much be assured that the actions depicted by pornographers run completely counter to actual practice. For example, i have never actually had a session with a Dominant Woman, not my significant other, where i got anywhere near Her private parts. If one is to believe what pornographers portray, Women strip off at the drop of a hat and moan as men achieve orgasm as if they are achieving one themselves. Variance with reality? You bet! With respect to Chastity play, it has always been something that allowed the Woman to harness my desires and use them to please Her own Sadism. To a certain extent, then, Chastity has been the same thing as a good caning or whipping: A means by which a Sadist may enjoy Herself. But Chastity does not create an endorphin rush like a good caning will in me. Its effect is subtle, frequently disagreeable to me and, thus, a means by which a Sadist's urges may be fed continually over time. She may, in the middle of the day, reflect on my status as locked for Her amusement and derive a lot of pleasure from that—even though we are not physically in the same space and She is not active in Her Sadism. I received ample communication from my former Owner that it thrilled Her to Her very core knowing that i was denied for Her amusement and that, every time i became aroused, it was a painful process for me; one that i could not eroticize.
I was totally unaware of "small penis humiliation" until I became more active here. Personally, it's not my cup of tea and I would probably just chuckle if someone tried to humiliate me because of size. I'm no Ron Jeremy, to be sure, but I've never had a partner not orgasm or seem dissatisfied. But as to the original question @Max51 , I'm certain you are not the only one drawn to chastity out of size or perceived size. Society, being male dominated as it is, is fairly phallo-centric so we are conditioned to acknowledge size as some kind of standard by which to measure manliness or masculinity. The validity of this is surely debatable, but I think generally speaking those who view themselves as small or below average are set up to think of themselves as less masculine than the average or standard, and this seems to have some correlation with a "submissive" identity.
@Living Curious :size does count and not just for men.Chastity and the D/s dynamic allows small males to find their place. It's not equality that matters but equilibrium.
I only had luck with women who could not have orgasms from intercourse as they were happy with just oral or one of the many vibrators I kept in my night table drawer. Of course, over time they all left me for other men. I can remember the size queens I dated. Totally humiliating when your penis flops out of her because it cannot stay erect and shrinks to nothing. I got used to the looks on their faces and moved on. I fed off of sexual humiliation so I would go home horny as heck and take care of myself thinking about the reaction on my date's face.
Two former girlfriends and my wife cuckolded me. Only my wife wanted me to watch and would not do it without me watching. My girlfriends would just come home late and basically sit on my face so I could taste them. One used to like to tell me how many men and how many times they came inside of her as I licked her to an orgasm and then then make fun of me. She was also into humiliating me in other ways, best left unsaid. We never called it cuckolding though. It was considered part of our BDSM lifestyle.
I am submissive but my few experiences with one night stands while on business trips prior to getting married, have been with me as the dominant one. The reason is that I could avoid showing my penis by either blindfolding the woman or telling her that she has not earned the right to view or touch it. Submissive women ate that up and I avoided seeing "that look" I knew so well. I also noticed that married business women were fine with avoiding intercourse and the dangers it poised for their marriage with disease and pregnancy. I made a game of it saying that I wanted them to just concentrate on their own pleasure. So I played the dominant when it served my purposes.
I agree with all but your second statement. Wanting to be humiliated is a defensive mechanism to avoid being hurt by the laughter and looks of disgust. If you train yourself to enjoy the humiliation, it does not hurt you. If you make fun of yourself, others will not do so because it will not elicit any reaction from you other than agreement. Favorite line I have used: "Do you like big cocks? (pause and wait for reaction) If so, then you are in for a big disappointment but you will feel like the best oral sex queen in the world.". Do it with self depreciating humor and they always laugh and play along. Women have always found my humor attractive and were willing to overlook my shortcomings.
I get both chastity and a good paddling. Before my wife left for the evening she had me get into full makeup and female panties and blouse because when she gets home I am to be punished for forgetting to do my morning chores despite a very good excuse. She said that she did not care. She feels that I am more submissive and less macho with makeup and frilly panties. Unlike some, I am not turned on by this but rather feel humiliated. I hate lipstick as it gets on everything my lips touch.
I didn't say there was a problem with it. I just said that that's one of the reasons why I see kinky males discussing the size of their penis.