male virgin seeking to be chastised

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    #1 python17, Oct 21, 2014
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    Hi,
    I'm a virgin, 29 and i've never had penetrative sex ever. Looking for a a woman to serve for the rest of my life while i'm locked away for her pleasures.
    She can use me any way she likes.
     
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    If this is a serious thread...

    DON'T

    I'm sure it's a nice fantasy and all, but you can't miss something you've never experienced.

    Go out, get laid a few times, and see if you still want to do this.
     
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    That's like telling someone not to ever have sex because you can't miss something you've never experienced.

    If this is a serious thread, I would suggest finding an inexpensive but effective cage to try out and maybe getting an online or local mistress to try things out with. Spend a period of time immersed in the game and see how you really feel about it. Take the time to experiment and try out different scenes and submissive activities. Explore your innermost fantasies, don't repress them. Learn what things you really enjoy and maybe find someone to really help push those boundaries.
     
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    yes its real ! I'm a bit shy and can't go all the way .. get nervous and all !
    now that i've come so far waiting all the while.. just want to go all the way :) i've been in chastity for months.. i think i know what i'm looking for,,
     
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    OK I'll try again.

    So if you weren't shy and confident and could get a woman to sleep with you.. you'd turn her away?

    Shyness/nervousness aren't a permanent state of being. You can overcome them both. Don't take the easy "I'll be chaste" way out of solving issues you think you have.

    In my experience, Dominant women are in high demand, and tend to be attracted to guys for the same reason non-dominant women are - they just like to control him instead of the other way around. Dom women are also extremely rare. I take it you're looking for someone not just to dangle a key around her neck, but also more relationship-y stuff right? Dom women are extremely rare and hard to find, so you have the odds stacked against you.

    If you are looking for a Dom woman to keep you virgin forever, and that's a tall order, then you have to fix the reason why you aren't attracting women in the first place. That's why I said go get laid first.
     
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    be careful what you wish for......
     
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    I don't get it and if this is real, some professional counseling may be a better path than a Mistress. It almost sounds like you want to be chaste so that you do not have to worry about having penetrive sex with a woman. If you can treat your underlying problem you may discover that you do not want to be chaste. Sort of feels like you cannot have sex and view that as a negative but want to turn it into a positive by calling it chastity.

    I too used to get nervous and not be able to perform with new women. The solution was easy. I just dated them until I got comfortable with them then had a few drinks/tokes and was able to perform after that. The first time we wife swapped, I could not get hard despite being turned on by a good looking woman who was willing to do anything I asked. I suffer the same problem as you except I am not shy. I would just come out and tell my date that I was too nervous for intercourse and would like to get to know her better before we tried that. If they were looking to build a relationship it was not a problem. If they just wanted to have sexual intercourse, it did not work out. You can also try Viagra and tranquilizes. My point is that instead of fixing your problem, you are trying to accommodate it with chastity.
     
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    I don't think you all actually understand him. He doesn't view sex as a negative, he just can't get any. The problem is that he gets turned away, not the other way around (now I don't know that, I'm just assuming here). Considering the shy personality, it's just really really hard to get into a relationship, and that's not because you get too nervous and aren't able to perform, it doesn't even get to that stage. If anyone even agrees to go on a date with you, which is in itself rare, they'll just tell you they had a nice night and never see you again, or if you happen to work together or something, they act like it never happened, etc. After too many tries and fails you begin to realize that the problem is that people don't like you, and you can't really help it. So what's left to do? Hell, I don't know, but what this guy is seeking is perfectly reasonable, so please don't tell him to just "Go out and get laid" as if that's just an easy thing you can just go out and do... Try to understand his situation first please.
     
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    I think you hit the nail on the head! And to be honest, I can see the attraction of chastity... but it's a false choice. Let's take your very own argument. You say that a shy personality prevents someone from going out and getting sex. How would that get him a lifetime relationship with a Domme? Most Dommes are women too. They like being courted, just not in a typical male douchebag kinda way. How many Dommes actually have complete socially inept subs? if you look at this forum, even the most strict ones don't like their man to be submissive to the world - just to them. So how would someone who can't attract women attract a Domme, who actually is woman+++?

    And would you want a relationship based purely on chastity alone? How long will that last? there's so many dimensions to spending time with someone... chastity + lock up + tease .. how long is that, out of an evening? an hour? 2? what about the rest of the time, what are you going to talk about?

    every Domme I've been with (and it's only been a few) did NOT start out with her tying me up and beating me silly. It started out with getting coffee. To expect someone to lock you IRL without even a basic connection is kinda silly.


    And finally, I disagree that the you can't really help it. I was a shy loner all through college too, and I realized there are ways to get over it. It's not easy, it's hard work, but it can be done. Social skills/success with women is a SKILL. it can be picked up. Unless you have some sort of hideous physical deformity, and who knows, even then.. you can learn to "go get laid".

    There's a pickup artist who's in a fucking wheelchair and he gets laid.
     
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    To simply "Go out and get laid" actually involves courting women in that male douchebag kind of way you speak of. At least most of the time. It is rare to find a dominant woman, see. And this is why sites like this exist which people like the OP can utilize in order to increase his chances of finding that one woman who's like him for who he is. Your argument is all correct and good, but it's a little off topic.
     
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    Hey I agree with most of what you say except for this point. Yes, this site is for advertisements, for a specific woman who shares your interest.

    Going out and getting laid does NOT mean courting women in a douchebag kinda way.

    Look, I'm assuming that OP wants a relationship where the Dom woman keeps him in chastity for life. That's all fine and dandy, but about 90% of the relationship is NON chastity/sex related. In my experience, women like men who are self confident, humorous, strong, and can make someone feel comfortable. This is true whether she is dominant or not. OP can only get those skills by actually courting vanilla women. There's a wide range of courtship, and not all is wearing a muscle T shirt at the local club and screaming, so you're presenting a false equivalence.

    If he's uncomfortable doing that, then how is he going to court a Dominant woman? You're telling me all a dominant women needs is a sub telling her he wants to be locked up for life, and they'll be flocking over him?

    And if OP can get this skill, how do you know he would even like chastity afterwards? Isn't that worth finding out?

    So anyway we're arguing speculatively here, I don't even know the OP's own story. I'm arguing in general terms. My point is that chastity isn't a way out of a personality weakness! What's the point of submission when you're giving up powers you don't even have?

    What would the Domme even do here? She doesn't need to do anything to keep him a virgin because he's can't get any anyway! He's even got the chastity belt part figured out. So what else does he present to a relationship?
     
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    Hey OP, sorry to have derailed your thread. I do hope the discussion gives you food for thought too. Best of luck.
     
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