Hi, my name is Kasaru. I am based in Norfolk, in the UK, married to Paul, my submissive husband over whom I have complete authority in all areas, the most fun one being sexual. We are monogamous, although I have two other long term subs over whom I exert authority in a slightly more limited fashion. All three are under my sexual authority as that is one of my biggest pleasures. Paul and M have been my subs now for thirteen years, K for about four and they keep me occupied so I am not looking for any subs/slaves. I have been actively doing bdsm for about twenty years now. The first website I really enjoyed using was the now defunct 'Informed Consent' and I am active now on FL. I do go to local munches and parties but generally consider my relationships to be private and unique, so I do not tend to follow bdsm norms or protocols unless I particularly like them. I have come on here to join in with discussions, make friends, learn new things and lastly offer advice or guidance is asked.
Welcome to Chastity Mansion! It will be great having you join in on discussions. Having another opinion is always nice.
Is it ok for a male to say "welcome to the Mansion"? seems the prominent ladies are only represented here(lol)
The chain and lock are definitely what he wears. He has worn the chain permanently ( except for cleaning) for nearly eight years. Symbolises our D/s very nicely.
Enjoy it here. It's a great site. Do you have the other 2 locked up 24/7? And what devices do you use? I recommend something steel!
Certainly seems like an interesting place here. My two other subs are quite different in their personalities and styles and I tend to be happy to use or not use devices according to the sub. M doe snot have a physical device, and lives quite a way from me now, and is only allowed two full orgasms maximum per year, one must be in my presence between beginning of November and end of Jan, the other must be taken in the month of June. Otherwise, he is instructed to tease and deny himself according to regimes I put in place. He is made to practice countdowns to ruined orgasms and he can now regularly perform them on time correctly. He has been unable to travel to see me for a while due to a very bad back injury but is gradually getting better. K is in a MM jailbird ( like Paul) but unlike Paul, K keeps his on all the time. He is allowed brief periods out for cleaning, teasing, ruined orgasms and his monthly full orgasm. He also lives a way away and we see each other when he is home from his job which takes him abroad for about twelve weeks at a time. I would only ever use MM devices now as I used CB ones from when they first brought them out until a few years ago, then I splashed out on MM devices. Brilliant things, just the best ever in my opinion. I have seen cheap Chinese devices and had a brief mentor relationship with a sub who had unwisely (in my opinion) bought a Lori when he was not a suitable candidate for their style of device. MM's all the way for me
Thanks and I like it. I quite agree: the cb series are OK for starters but to do the job properly defo needs a steel one and MM are excellent. Lori V good too but not for everyone: also nearly all types need as piercing and being custom made take a time to arrive as well as being expensive. But you get what you pay for! Not sure how you can enforce on M without a device but K sounds perfect. He's OK I take it then when travelling abroad with it (security at airports etc.)?
I don't have to enforce chastity and obedience upon M. He wants to obey and disciplines himself to do so. It isn't the way everyone can do it but all my three can be trusted 100% to do exactly what I say regarding any sexual touching and ejaculations. K is an Officer on a ship which goes around the world, so he doesn't always have to catch a flight. When he does, he is allowed to remove it temporarily and put it back on at the first opportunity. I have found that it has helped enormously knowing I can trust my boys because if they do have to be out of their devices, they still act as though they are in one. The device is a symbol and that is all. It is in their minds where the real restraint resides.