orgasm denial with no device?

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    Hi everyone,

    i'm exploring my orgasm denial fantasy with my girlfriednd, but we don't want to rush things up, so we don't have any device ... yet. as for now, we agreed on short times without my orgasms (2-4 days).

    last night (after being denied for 3 days) my gf allowed me to tittyfuck her and cum on her breasts (which we both enjoy). but after that she said she wants me go progress this time ... and that she wants to deny me for a full week this time.

    i'm very excited about this and I love the fact that she enjoys my fantasy, too. I used to masturbate every 1 or 2 days before we started denial. I've enjoyed those couple days of denial and have some amazing orgasms afterwards ... but i'm a little bit concerned about going for a full week.

    have any of You tried denial without any chastity device? any thoughts or suggestions how to manage full week without orgasm?
     
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    If you go without a device, you will eventually spontaneously explode.
     
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    Whilst the custom made, expensive devices are worth every penny, I fully understand that when starting out it's hard to justify the expense. I started with a £20 steel device, which if I'm honest, was fine to "try out" and see if it worked for us before spending the money on a made to measure device.
     
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    thank You for replies.

    @HZX - i'm pretty sure it will happen. question is ... when it's gonna happen? and will my gf react?

    @maff2k - i'm going to buy some cheap device and give it try, as You reccomend. I just don't want to rush things up, so next couple of weeks are going to be about denial without the device.
     
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    If you're in the UK you can have my old cheap device - PM me if you're interested.
     
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    Some people here do orgasm denial without being locked... One of them told me giving up masturbating is like giving up smoking. I guess the urge is always there but you learn to deal with it.
     
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    @yanmaslanka
    In my small experience I had a few situations not had a chance to stop explode without the device. Only the device has helped me.
    You can try the cheap Chinese CB6000 (original made in Taiwan - not a very big difference). It costs approximately $15-20.
    It has a lot of adjustment options, and also allows you to try. After this device, you may want to consider one that you have on your avatar.

    !Before exploring chastity, make sure that this is what you want! It is addictive.;)
     
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    But that's fun too. I had three completely spontaneous ejaculations last year while unlocked. Not a single touch, just my fevered brain, and one "clench" down with my pelvic muscles. I shouldn't have clenched, but I did, and I started to pour out without warning. Amazing, as I was still very very horny.

    I'm currently in and out of my MCN devices, and on honor system. I'm swimming at the gym and that makes wearing chastity devices, and even my PA ring problematic. It's not an issue, I've done the honor system most of last year - one period of 160 days until May, and I just reached 190 days yesterday. The key is not to masturbate at all. If you start edging your hind-brain starts convincing you... just a little more.... and you get disappointed. This year we've promised that I won't masturbate for all of 2015. This is after a long 2014 of consistent effort to be "fun" and not a nagging handful. It's been well worth it.

    You learn to enjoy your untouched erections, and keeping yourself "always on" for your girlfriend, and fun to play with. :)

    I haven't been locked longer than a week straight, so I don't know if I could spontaneously cum in chastity (yet, ha!). I've gone 24 days now without a full orgasm, with two ruined ones since the new year. My last release was just over 2 weeks ago.

    Stay strong, but don't get discouraged if you don't meet some goal. The journey and sharing your entire libido with your girlfriend should be the reward.

    Good luck!
     
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    Attempting orgasm denial without a device is inviting failure. It can be done, but the security of a device can achieve the results without the need for so much self-control. Yes, I agree that it can be compared to giving up smoking.

    Try an inexpensive device, and tell her that it's because you so much did not want to disappoint her.

    Just my humble opinion.
     
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    chastity uses a device.
    mental chastity is celebacy.
    two different things.
     
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    thank You all for Your kind comments and useful suggestions.


    @Sub Bob, certainly i'm going to buy a device, and Your opinion was more than useful on how to convince Her to use a device.

    PS. She's taking a shower now. Before going to the bathroom she said i should expect some heavy teasing ... without telling if she wants to let me cum, or keep denying me. such a tease : D
     
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    I could never control myself whenever I was unlocked
    My KH wife knew this
    That's why she always kept me locked 24x7
     
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    @yanmaslanka well i disagree with all of the above . I'm married to the fantastic @Mistress Deborah and we regularly do denial without a device and I have done 4 months this way and would have gone longer but Mistress wanted me to orgasm :)

    @BlueEyes has gone even longer.

    It's all mind over matter!
    Good luck
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    Obviously it's mind over erection, and it's the first few days maybe 2 weeks it takes to get you out of the habit. Also easier if you lay of the porn !

    You just have to say no I am not and get on with something more productive than playing with your winky.

    I was about to put if the two boys but @BlueEyes case it would be true @philfred I am not two sure !

    However if both of them living with the extreme provocation they have to endure from the ladies in their lives you should have no problems.

    Xx Wendy
     
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    I was trying to honor system, for a maximum of 40 days (healing circumcised, piercing). Is it possible.
    But I am confused by the body can spontaneously explode if you do not have relief a long time.
    Excuse me for my curiosity. Just a technical question, you did not have any discharge of these 4 months?
     
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    well, thanks again for inspiring comments. last night was very intense - i caressed my gf and fingered to cople of orgasm, and after that she kept teasing and edging me for like an hour. and she kept saying that she wants me to go full week without orgasm.

    also, we talked a bit about buying a device and she's very enthusiastic to this idea ... so i gues in the next few weeks i'm about to be caged.

    @philfred - I'm anywhere near going 4 months ... i just began my first full week of denial, and my gf doesn't want me to go for much longer ... as for now. but I must say, I'm impressed by Your achievement :)
     
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    All three of my subs either do go without devices permanently or must be able to. I like to use physical devices because they are fun and exciting for us, not because they have to be locked up to get obedience.

    Learning self discipline and obedience was the first step for all my subs. I only allowed a physical device to be used once they had been able to prove they could be trusted without :) Devices were treats I allowed them once they had jumped through the 'obedience hoop' for me.

    So, use a device if you want or carry on without. One of my subs has never wanted a device and he has been on a very strict denial regime now for the last couple of years. He loves the fact he has to be strong mentally to not disobey me. We all have to find out what works for us and we are all different.
     
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    In my mind, it's not celibacy if you have an active sex partner. Perhaps some categorize it as tease-and-denial or orgasm-denial when you refrain from orgasm or ejaculation when having sex. I think chastity devices are great (as I own a number of them)... but I think this can be done without a device.

    In fact the device becomes a fetish, and attracts attention to itself. Self control ends up being gratifying, and requires a strong personal desire to keep yourself in that blissful state - always ready.

    A constant low fire on the back burner to keep yourself at a low "melting point". Melt her slightest touch. It can be romantic and sweet, hot and fiery, warm and wriggly, overwhelming and frightening, etc etc etc.

    To the OP, have fun with your first chastity device. If you both enjoy it, it won't be your last. ;)
     
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    I agree with the comments around not having to have a device. I frequently go without a device, in fact my wife prefers it as she has immediate access when she wants. I've gone over a month with no device, the only concern is self control which you have to develop so you don't orgasm/initiate an orgasm/etc. Truly mind over erection...but in my case after a couple of weeks you don't WANT to cum as the turn on/sensitivity is so high, that any touch is like a mini-orgasm and drives me wild. Ultimately the orgasm itself is a bit of a let down, and you get "hooked" on the constant energy level (and there is a definite spike in energy between us). My .02 is try it without....the device if introduced later will be merely a tool in the kit that provides additional stimulation control/energy ramp up/play time, but with our without your still abstaining.
     
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    As we all know security of most devices is questionable. Most trapped ball type devices will allow you to slip out the back. The path to security is to get PA piercing, urethra tube, or a full belt. Wearing a device is a constant reminder of your choice of chastity. I wish you luck in your decision to go with a device or not. If you go the path of a device just remember to go slowly, get good lube, and check often for any problems (skin abrasions or edema for example.)
     
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    @HZX no explosions despite Mistresses constant teasing. The biggest tip is to learn to exercise the right muscles. When you wee stop and start the flow and repeat frequent. These are the muscles to use.

    @yanmaslanka go longer buy a strap on and use your tongue more you both will benefit more from it!

    @Wendygirl Yes I lasted as you know. ..

    @Kasaru very interesting Mistress ...

    I'm possibly going back into a device but only because I find a device makes me notice and speed up the process of denial and not because I cannot stop myself.

    Good luck.
    Lucy x
     
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    @philfred - well, that's some nasty advice ... thank You!

    but to make things clear: did You think of strapon as toy for pegging, or as substitute to male penis while locked in chastity?
     
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    @yanmaslanka Yes you can use it on both of you. Maybe a bigger more cock like attachment for your partner and a big dildo for you.

    And yes a nice vibrator and a big strap on and you may not be required so often !
    Regards
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    that seems like a nice idea, but ... i'm not sure if that works this way for us.

    of course i'm very much into pleasing my girlfriend and want her pleasure to come firt (or instead of mine). but she likes my orgasms, and knows that denying me for couple of days only makes them more intense. plus we both enjoy sex and she's very satisfied about my size, so it doesn't look like we're going to progress much farther ... as for now.

    i guess it takes all sorts to make a world. we're happy because of this fantasy and this is most important.
     
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    Lol
    Never say never the denial aspects bring some interesting feelings and sensations both in your willy but even more complex ones in your biggest erogenous zone your brain .

    The use of dildoes both you useing them on her but also her on you is something not to be missed as a lovely experience.

    As has been said on other threads you bum ,once you get over the possible initial reluctance , can become a wonderful source of pleasure .

    Xx Wendy
     
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