Hi, new to your community

Hi, I am new to the site. Thank goodness it is here. I say that because it seems more relationship oriented and saner than most of the sites I am aware of or visit.

I am a middle aged person with a good marriage to a great wife. I have a lot of kinks and fetishes, I enjoy them all. We are monogamous, married for over 20 years, no children. Wife is not interested in anything kinky or Femdom at all. She is so totally awesome, I really don't mind. I explained almost all of my fetishes and kinks before we got engaged. It just was not her cup of tea-none of it. none of the flavors interest her. After we were engaged I bit the bullet and explained I am a Dominant too-don't know why but that has always seemed more embarrassing than being oriented toward the pleasure and happiness of others. She was accepting of that, but not interested in any role play there either. Our agreement is that I can surf net for porn and forums, I just CANT join paysites. I am more sympathetic to Femdom and LFA, but I do enjoy so called Bull and Maledom fantasies. I actually have more experience (all of it now almost 30 years old) as a Dom than as a Sub in what was then the Femdom scene.

So, I the uber kinky and pervy partner have lived my Dom/Bear and Sub/Femdom and Fetish life through fantasy and internet communities such as this one. I appreciate the fact that people make and run these forums, and that all of you who post share your lives. I am very much for after care, and romance, and respect for others, even if their kinks require us to be kind of cruel or neglecting towards them in the session or for a period of time afterwards.

Thanks again to all of you, Vic aka OldBearSwitch

 

PS my avatar is from an Old Edie Gorme album cover. I picked it because she was a great artist and Mas Fina que Nadie. Also because they are songs of romance and elegance . Also because she was one Elegant and Fun Lady.

 

I found this site because I wanted to spread the word that my former pen pal Maria has her diary up, and this place was one of the hits when I searched Marias Diary. I was super excited and pleased to see so many reasonable posts emphasizing Love and Caring and Respect, even when things had gone wrong in a relationship or situation. kudos to all of you who share your life, I guess you could say I am a romantic relationship voyeur

 

Hi Locked, yes so much of non-rutting sex is in the mind.

 

Hi Jemina, thank you. Cute avatar.

 

Thanks Kendra. How is your boy's recovery from his motorcycle crash?