I am curious. From the tittle, I was curious if any of you ever had post orgasm depression? I was recently denied for six weeks. One night I was edging myself over and over. This is something that I was doing without Masters permission. Master and I are online at this time. I know a big no no. This was the first time I had done so since I got my PA at about the last time I had an orgasm. I don't know what came over me to play with Master's property but it happened. I got the edge several times. Then I just rubbed the head a little bet and ohmyyyygosssshhhhh......it was so intense. I had not had anything like that in some time. To make matters worse, that orgasm was so unbelievable that I tried to repeat the feeling all over the next night. But it was not at all. It was just a squirting. There was no real emotional good feeling to it. I felt horrid having done this. I pretty much shut Master out for the next week. I was depressed. Lately, after an orgasm, I seem to feel this way. So my question, do any of the rest of you get feeling of overwhelming depression after an orgasm? Or is it the act of disobeying that had me feeling this way? BTW....because I shut out Master for that week, I am now dealing w/ the punishment. Master has cut off all communication w/ me for the next two weeks and I'm to be prepared to answer for my actions of cumming without permission and worst of all shunning and crawling into a hole and not letting him into my feelings and thoughts. So, any thoughts on any of you getting so depressed it leads to even worse choices? Thanks, elliot
What an excellent explanation to why I have fully accepted that my wife has kept me in permanent denial for so long - close to a full year;-) The depression and grumpiness and the wipe out of the Master/Wife/KH's Halo is very common, so what You are feeling should tell You not to touch yourself, right?
Blue Eyes, You said "so what You are feeling should tell You not to touch yourself, right?" Yeah...sometimes much easier said than done right? But I was sooo good for six weeks then it just hit me. I did forget to mention though, I did this six weeks w/o a device. It was the honor thing. Then all of the sudden wham, I broke that rule.
I sure don't want to said like a saint, cause I am not. I know from personal experience that what is the obvious is not always the path chosen. We have constant struggles inside ourselves, and fighting the beast inside is sometimes a very uneven battle My wife's awareness of my struggle, not to mention her attention, and edging, helps so much, and refuels willpower to conquer the beast.... Without it - we are heading for a fall....
Hello Jemima, I was kind of hoping to hear from you on this. I kind know what you are saying about the post feeling. What happened afterward and still going on with Master, just is not worth the few seconds of wonderful feeling of orgasm. Parts of me can't wait for the Lori's to be ordered...money is going out this week for it. Then who knows what may come...or not
Yes, I broke my chastity against my wife's wishes before, and the following day I felt so down and miserable. Partly because I let her down and partly because my body seemed to go into a slump after. I became lazy and irritable and wouldn't do my usual chores.
I find that I do have a "down" right after a orgasm when I have been in my device for a period of time. Almost to the point that I wished I didn't orgasm. Much of that is the fact of getting to the edge of the orgasm and not getting to orgasm/being told to stop. Yet my wife has not ever done that, would love that feeling-being locked back in. Think it would help on the "down" not ever being there lol
I would think it is the norm as it is a hard wired basic response to get the genes spread far and wide. However with in this context it's a bit more extreme as you have the two sides the length between climax and the reasons why you are not playing with your winky . So I would expect it to be almost universal . Xx Wendy
Yes I know what you mean when I have sex with my wife I am fine, but when I take care is myself I get that depressive feeling back again, like the weight of the world is down on my shoulders again. And I hate this feeling, that it's why I want to go down the road of male chastity, I just need to convince my wife, Yes
Been there done that too! What happened to the days of not caring and going for another? On top of which the backlash of your top or keyholder. We are all human, we walk in the flesh trying to satisfy it. Once at the top walking on a high of abstenance (from being locked in chastity or not) and after to the valley below. I personally call this the roller coaster and is why I crave being locked into chastity under her authority.
Update: On Saturday, Master and i talked....I'm back as his boy. Those two weeks were long.....really long.
My last penile orgasm was 30/09/14. Took me ages to get hard, kept going soft, managed to finally come after half an hour's furious wanking. Not a very good orgasm, & felt quite depressed for 2 days after. Haven't bothered since. Been locked in my HT MkII since 15/10/14.
The effects you feel are for many reasons with a physical response, emotional response and a physiological response. Read this article that is well written about the physiological response of what happens with orgasm. http://www.reuniting.info/node/4865.
I never have depression, just a drop in energy. Orgasmic sex helps me reset and makes me feel very close to my Mistress. I take pride in chastity and self control, but I never ruin rewards with bad feelings.
I think most will go through this, i researched it a little after i had a big downer and its called SUB DROP. There is lots of information and advice on the net but the short of it is that your hormones and endorphins are unusually high during play and then drop rapidly after you have cum. It can have an affect on both you and you key holder/master. The good news is now that you know about it and you know you are likely to get it again a good bit of research by you and you master can better prepare you both for dealing with it in the future. Hope this helps and remember in a good sub / dom relationship you will both know when the discipline ends and the emotional support begins.
the trouble is that when you has a spurty it makes you very lazy and not wanting to do things that you shud do and that what makes you all down and depress. its best not to have one. cos you still has to do chores.
i felt like that too, but only when i was locked for several weeks already and came without knowledge/permission of my kh, kinda felt like wasted all these weeks, dissapointed in myself and feeling guilty about it, so i'm strongly trying to avoid that now.
I just hate the orgasm feeling. The big downer is the messy ejaculation thing- it is a reminder that I am not properly female and cleaning up is horrid. So glad that I don't want to do it any more and that when I have milked my prostate hardly anything comes out..
For me having a male orgasm is not what I desire. In the past feeling the intense pleasure of ejaculation only lasts only 5-10 seconds felt great before being chastity, but now I hate the “fall off a cliff” feeling. The "Devotion Refractory Period" where I'm cranky, irritable and have lost the feeling of devotion is too long for me. I absolutely love being a chaste male mate, always happy and that powerful feeling of devotion, lavishing attention on Her and the powerful feeling of wanting to help, perform useful services and pleasure and serve my Hot Wife as She should be. We have discussed my orgasms and now both agree that She should deny me orgasms. Since then I've gone over 300 days with no ejaculation and we both love it! I'm so proud that my Hot Wife/Mistress/Key Holder has total control over me.