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Give him some rules... one of them being every time he asks to be let out more time will be added. With possible extra punishment if he argues that the rules are unfair. You are in charge. Let him know it.

 

Miss Donna, glad to have you here. I need a wife like you. Ive only been here a short time, everyone is supportive. Hope to hear more from you.

 

Decide together how long he will be locked and hold him to it. When he's more used to it, you will decide how long. When he gets frustrated, support him, understand what he's going through and give him lots of love to help him through it.

 

@Donna keyholder wife Welcome to the world of chastity Mistress.

A lot of men dream of chastity but when reality sets in they wonder if it really live up to what they expect. I would suggest that you let him out but edge him to an orgasm but don't give him one and tell him you need to lock him up again, and that you will grant him his orgasm when you are ready and he stops pressuring you for it..
Good luck
Lucy x

 

Welcome to CM

Every couple goes through their own process.

How, who, why etc get you started in this journey?
When you could give us some more info, I'm sure there will be members who can relate to your situation and give advice from own experience.


Thanks,

 

Welcome to CM Donna.
I hope you find the site interesting and entertaining.
I'll drop you a line with some tips as soon as a have a spare minute ;-)

 

Welcome Donna, I hope you find the answers you are looking for here.

As a starting piece of (hopefully helpful) advice; that kind of behaviour is always likely to happen after he has orgasmed and he goes back in the cage. Whenevr I've recently orgasmed chastity is the last thing I want. So maybe try taking him out for sex but make sure he doesn't orgasm then relock once you're done with him for the night. After about 2 weeks from his last orgasm he's likely to become better behaved and stop pestering. It's going to be a matter of persevernce and strong will on your part but well worth it should you push through.

Hope that helps and have fun.

 

Great to see you here. Depends a bit on what sort of cage you have and the dynamic in your relationship in other ways. He shouldn't be pestering youand needs to learn it won't help. One way could be to get a kitchen safe and tell him it'll be set for max 10 if he does it again.

 

I believe these:

http://www.thekitchensafe.com/

Are the devices that @Joroincharge is refering to.

 

@Donna keyholder wife welcome to the Mansion. You've certainly come to the right site for help with your problems. A search facility is on here and if the members suggestions are not enough then you can always try that.

 

I'm sure my wife @DREWife can give good advice on how to make the pestering stop. She has completely altered my mindset, and today I'm certainly not proud of the days when I thought that chastity was all about my cock.

 

Quite so. And if that's not enough there's s similar product called 'captureddiscipline.' Same principle, but option for even longer period - max 999 days which'll be WAY beyond his expectations. One of those in your bottom drawer as your bottom line back up if he gives you any further bullsh** could be just the handle you need. But basically, if the arrangement is you be the KH then he shouldn't be trying to make the rules himself - it's called toppong from the bottom and NOT where you or he need to be.

 

In addition to and expanding on @Kontraband suggestion, ruined orgasms might help. That way he can cum, but it isnt nearly as satisfying for him. You could try that, saying that he will only orgasm on your time line.

I love love the suggestion by @Joroincharge of the kitchen safe!

 

For me the first 3 days are the tuffest. Teasing helps weird right don't understand it my self. Maybe leave key at work so you are not tempted. My wife adds days on to cum date for begging. What would you do to a pet that begs or a kid that whines.