I do not like to humiliate him. It's not his kink nor mine. And I have loads of respect for what he has done to make my introduction to this lifestyle a very pleasant ride. But yes there is a chance you loose respect If he crawls too much. I have never allowed him to do that, but of course I expect him to do as told. The veto power is all mine, and I have become very addicted to it over time;-)
I have humiliated male subbies but that was because it was wanted by them. I don't purposely humiliate my own sissymaid.
I think a little humiliation never hurt anyone. As for losing respect for them, why would you? They are offering themselves to you on a plate and being devoted to you, giving the power to you to explore your sexuality and all of the sweet rewards that come with it. To me it's a win win
While I can't say that I enjoy humiliation at the moment it is done, in retrospect those moments have been pretty frightening and exciting for me, too. All in all, It is something I do to show Mistress my love and devotion and I do enjoy seeing her enjoy my humiliation so much! We do have safewords if She comes up with something that's completely risky or objectionable for me. (Never have had to use one yet)
Of course you must use your position to get the maximum. If it's offered to you, and you don't take it, then either you don't want him, or you're not the Dominant for the situation. Either way he'll not respect you again. So it's a no-brainer: go for it!:spank:
The interesting thing for me about humiliation is it depends on really knowing what makes the 'subject' tick. I wouldn't be humiliated by wearing women's underwear, for example. Equally, someone telling me I'm stupid or have a small penis would not humiliate me. It's either true or not, and what can I do about either? Yet find the right lever, and it's incredibly erotic and tense, producing an amazing feeling of trust and vulnerability. In my mind, it doesn't lead to a loss of respect as humiliation is granting the power to say what is thought, but left unsaid. In a way, it's a compliment both ways- strong enough hear the worst, and confident enough to say it.
Humiliation is a relative term True humiliation has a slight flavor of revenge or ego satisfaction Humiliation for one could be a pleasure for other I do not think any key holder would 'humiliate' a sub in the true sense because they have love / affection between them Whatever my wife does to me is for her pleasure, and my satisfaction lies in her pleasure!
Humiliation isn't for me. Not in a relationship. It's super disrespectful in my opinion. Perhaps if I were a practising Pro-domme I might enjoy it.