My path to chastity

Please bare in mind Joro that we don't do this as a lifestyle. It is rare that I am actually locked up, usually for a couple of weeks for a bit of fun. I probable spend no more than one or two months locked in any given year. The longest in one go was four weeks when my current keyholder had control, the idea being that she would deny me longer than my girlfriend because she wouldn't be so 'nice' as to give me a release so soon.

 

That's true, my girlfriend isn't against the idea of finding someone to Domme both of us but it certainly wouldn't be her best friend.

 

No I don't think its something we'd do long distance with someone we hadn't met. I'm certainly not keen on it with someone I haven't met in person again and I think she feels the same. Just have to see if we meet someone we both like.

 

I'm already exploring in the local community through muches and fetlife so I'm happy to leave it at that for now. But thanks for the suggestion.

 

I'm content with what I'm doing for now. To be honest I have bigger focuses in my life right now that I need to focus my energy on, I've had an unpleasant couple of years and it's more important I get back on my feet properly first.

 

So my last lockup ended sometime while CM was down and I thought I'd give a brief update on what I've learned; chastity as lifestyle improvement didn't seem to work for me. I don't know if that's because I had a fairly inattentive Domme or just part of my nature but it didn't work out this time; maybe I'll try again in the future but it will be with a different Domme I think. Chastity still interests me as a fetish but I think I'm coming to realise some of the limits of my interest in it.

 

I do plan to stick around @BlueEyes as I said I know I do enjoy chastity play just didn't work out this time. I think I'm starting to feel more and more that an on-line KH dynamic just doesn't work for me. Realistically I should probably restrict my chastity to either a keyholder I see regularly or self locking when I feel I need to indulge in chastity/deserve it for a bit.

The limit I was referring to there was I guess related to the dynamic I had with the Domme this time. She had a very hands off approach (I know why she did and I respect and accept that), however it meant that I did not enjoy the process and as a result didn't see the benefits I was hoping for.

 

Well I thought I'd update this with some good news; I have a new KH and am locked up. So that's fantastic news for @LadyFedora my new keyholder. I am still with my girlfriend and we have discussed how this dynamic may work with a new online keyholder. Very excited to be going into chastity for a new keyholder who is very experienced and truly dominant. A final note; she has a local sub and seems to revel in playing us off against each other to impress her the most.

Will update when I have more to share.

 

Well time for an update on a subject that is close to my Lady's heart; anal training. I have limited experience of this, this is attested by the fact that today I still have only ever owned one bottle of anal lube. So I have a small and a medium butt plug and the longest I'd ever worn one for continuously is probably an hour, until today.

Now for some back story; @LadyFedora has started setting challenges for myself and her local sub to score points. The latest one was that we were to bid on how long we could wear our largest plugs for her. A point would go to the highest bidder and 2 points for every 15 minutes we spent plugged when we paid our bets. Well being brazen and inexperienced I rashly declared I'd take 2 hours as a starting bid (little did I know Lady Fedora expected this to be where the bidding ended not began, she laughed her head off at the bidding process.) In the end I had bid up to 4hrs 15 minutes and the other sub to 4hrs when bidding was closed except for a final sealed bid which the other sub would not know about. Determined to keep the bonus point I bid up to 4hrs 45mins. Then the bidding closed and it hit me what the hell had I just done? I was terrified by what an amount of bravado and a competitive nature had caused me to do.

So today was the day and I was very nervous, not least because I ran out of lube getting the plug in (I had exactly how much was needed.) So we began and it was initially ok, I was terrified about how the plug may change over time; would it become more noticeable or painful? The other sub and I encouraged each other and we got on with it. After a while the fear started to dissipate and I was able to enjoy the experience of completing a task for my Lady. The time passed and I completed my task quite happily. I'm still not using a very big plug and that will likely change over time at Lady's request but the experience has made anal play less daunting to me.

I hope that helps anyone curious about extended anal play.

 

The plug had a girth of 5 inches and 4.6 inches in length and is rubbery. As for how it felt over time; I learned early on not to sit down hard whilst wearing it! Other than that, it was mostly a case of getting used to it really I'm not sure the feeling really changed much more my attitude towards having it inside me; that I began to relax and accept it with in me rather than dread it an notice it all the time. Towards the end I think it was starting to get uncomfortable and I wouldn't have wanted it in much longer.
ps I actually ended up being 5hrs total. Lady Fedora decided the round number was better after I made a mistake over sharing with the other sub and needed a punishment.

 

Yes narrowed to a neck and then a flared base. It had a rubber like feel to it.

 

So its ten days since my last orgasm and something was different this morning. Up until now everythin has been very enjoyable; I think @LadyFedora and I have a great D/s dynamic and I've enjoyed relinquishing control of my orgasms to her and have not really been thinking about masturbating. Well this morning was different right now there's nothing I'd want more than that orgasm which I know is still at least a month and a half away. I can't really say what brought on this change but all I can say is that clearly my levels of frustration are starting to rise and that can only mean one thing; more fun for @LadyFedora !

 

Yes the trouble is those thresholds aren't predictable; they change every time depending on how much stimulation you receive etc. I think what I described above was just a transient blip in a moment of boredom because that's what I used to do when bored; masturbate. I'm curious to see what the next threshold will be and what new ones I will encounter as this lock up gets longer and longer.