It seems there are very few dominant males here on CM. I have received several questions about why I’m here and how I got started. There have been a few rude comments about me being here lol but that’s fine. I will keep the names of people out of this post for their respect and privacy. I’ll try to keep this short but I may ramble on. I’ve always been kinky at heart and one day a friend of mine suggested I go to a BDSM event in Dallas. I would say I had a decent amount of knowledge when it comes to BDSM and other kinky activities but I learned SO much more. When I met this friend, everyone thought he might be gay and some people picked on him or said inappropriate or rude comments. I’m straight but I know the difference between right and wrong so I stood up for him. Fast forward a while and after he got to know me, he confided in me that he wasn’t gay but he was just very feminine and submissive. He was into chastity and some other things. So I then started researching chastity and I loved it. Now back to the BDSM event in Dallas. He took me there and introduced me to his mistress. She was a professional mistress as her career. We were all just relaxing and talking…nothing intense and they were not in character of “Dom/sub”. She started asking a lot about me and what I like. I have to admit I became nervous but I answered her honestly and explained I’m not submissive but more likely dominant. We talked for a while and for whatever reason she liked me. She eventually offered to let me observe some of her sessions with other clients. From there the rest is history. I learned a lot by watching her and talking to her and her clients. From time to time she would “test” me or get me involved a little bit but nothing too crazy. She only had a handful of female clients, most were male with a few couples thrown in there. I never participated or watched any sessions with my friend. Fantasy is fine and great but this is real life. I didn’t want to make things awkward. I only “worked” alongside her for a few years here and there. That was about 7 years ago now. I don’t watch or participate in any of her sessions anymore but we are still good friends. I’m in a relationship and my girlfriend and I are extremely happy together. We don’t have a 24/7 power exchange but we are pretty balanced when it comes to chastity play/BDSM and regular day-to-day life. She does wear a chastity belt but not for long periods of time. A female wearing a belt presents a lot more challenges compared to male chastity devices. I have enjoyed my time so far here on CM and have spoken with some very interesting people. I have a lot of personal and professional experience with the lifestyle of chastity and other BDSM play. I enjoy talking to others about the fun they’re having and helping with any issues or concerns. Sorry for the long story, but it’s easier to post this than to try to explain it all each time someone asks me. -Trey
There are rude people everywhere you go. I have seen a few Doms here, but it may be because there are so few females in chastity. Or at least they are a much smaller number compared to the men. People tend to see CM as a "sissy" site, but if you take the time to look beneath the surface, there are all kinds here. I'm not a sissy, but I don't mind them, either. So do what you do, scratch your own particular itch. Hopefully the few who might say rude things won't deter you.
Great to have you here Trey. I'm not sure about any rude comments, I feel everyone who brings something positive to the community should be welcome!
Sorry to hear about you receiving some rude comments @Trey Jones . I'm afraid there are always one or two on any site. If they are too offensive, then use the report feature on this site and the moderators will look into it. Dominant males are most welcome here.
Trey Jones, it's a pleasure to have you as a member here. Whatever you do don't take any of the rudeness to heart. Some people here do take the site and its content far too seriously. Any preconceived notions and prejudices addressed to you should to be ignored. Your input here is valid and you are very welcome
Thanks for all the welcome messages. I hope my post didn't seem too negative. I've only had a few rude comments, most were very nice.
As @Strict Sir told: Variety is the spice, and all that. Welcome to the Mansion! That is it exactly! Welcome