Chance to come out... Should I take it?

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    Well we have been invited to a Halloween fancy dress party and I instantly thought of going as Elvira.
    I have been looking at costumes etc. and thnk I can do it justice.
    The problem is my WIfe does not know and generally does not seem to approve when she sees other men in drag on TV.
    So should I persue this idea as a way of introducing myself in female form?
    I was even thinking of keepng it a secret untill reveal on the day.

    What do you think ?

    DIanne
     
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    Might end up good or really really bad
     
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    if your wife doesnt like it then yeah it could end in a big fight.
     
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    Perhaps you should ask her what she thinks of the idea.
     
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    Yes I think Iwill do that and see what the response is, I was probably going to do that anyway but just needed to see what other thought.

    Dianne
     
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    i'd do what She prefers... it'll be best in the long run, y'know?
     
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    Sounds like a whole can of worms might be opened and after a can is open it can never really be closed.

    If your wife is disdainful of men she doesn't know in drag on TV, what will she think about her man doing it? It certainly needs to be explored with her at some point but she seems some way off any acceptance if what you say is right.

    My good lady has always dissuaded me from even thinking about doing such a thing because I would take it too seriously. I wouldn't be doing it just for a laugh.

    Up to you in the end of course :)
     
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    It sounds like you're wanting to tell your wife about something that you obviously like and the Halloween party is a fun way to do it. It might be a good idea or might not...that all depends on your wife's reaction I guess. Don't get too worked up about the costume and the party. Its just a costume on Halloween...so have fun with it whether you use it "come out" or not. :)

    It's always a good idea to be true to yourself. If you like something...then you LIKE it...simple as that. Hopefully your wife will be accepting of your likes or at least understanding of them. When I say understanding, I think of it like this (prepare for a weird off-the-wall example). If my wife likes me to massage her left forearm because that really gets her going and turns her on....I don't get it. I don't care about forearms or anything about them...doesn't do anything for me. But she's my wife and I love her and if she really enjoys that...then why not? I'll massage the hell out of her forearms.

    That make sense? I think this logic applies to all couples especially in the bedroom or in regards to different fetishes. Your kinks and your likes/dislikes will not always be the same. But you should approach each other with love and understanding when it comes to those situations. I wish you the best of luck :)
     
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    EDIT: No, my wife does not like for me to do that lol. I was just using something different to make a point.
     
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    Thanks for sll the replies, I will need to approch this in the next few dasy if it is going ahead so I can prepare.
    At least it will give me the chance to raise it under the guise of a party scene.
    I am really unsure what she will say as she sends me a lot of mixed messages over some of this stuff lately.

    Dianne
     
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    Hi Dianne

    Ohps sorry I seem to have missed this thread.

    Mixed messages is the worst situation ,one or the other is so much easier but then looking from partners points of view they might not know themselves.

    As others have said probably be better to ask and sooner rather than later as it may lead to a bit bigger descusion!

    As it's for a very specific occasion and more or less anything goes it might be a very good excuse to bring out your feminine side for her to see.
    If you do it nicely and controlled then could be worth doing .

    Lot of difference between stage drag stuff and a tv/ts looking like the woman thay really are. I think lots wives /gf are worried that their husband is going to cut the front lawn in a skirt and heels from day one .
    Obviously the skirt is nice during the summer but a little impractical ,whereas the heels good for a aireating the lawn .

    So as usuall it's good to talk and soon show her some out fits on the net and see what she says.

    Good luck
    Xx Wendy
     
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    [QUOTE="Wendygirl, post: 140016, member: 32128"
    Obviously the skirt is nice during the summer but a little impractical
    Xx Wendy[/QUOTE]

    Did I miss something here.....have skirts now been deemed impractical?
     
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    Lol nooooooo just for mowing the lawn .
    Too long get caught in all the wizzy round bits and get pulled off.
    To short when you bend down to empty the grass box who knows who's looking.

    Obviously for partaking of after noon tea once your gardener has mowed said sward to perfection and your maid has placed on beautifully ironed linen , a wondrous variety of comestibles , skirts are obligatory.

    Xx Wendy
     
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    i just mowed ours and i hope its the last one now till next spring.
     
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    I bet the bloke next door is disappointed not seeing those legs this side of next spring .

    Xx Wendy
     
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    ooh well Mistress says he's a nuisance.
     
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    Well I mentioned today that I was thinking of going in Drag without going into great detail and she did not pass out or make a big deal of it.
    I will query her further on it tomorrow bt so far so good.

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    My advice would be not to pester her with it too much.
    Try to imagine you were a normal person planning to dress in drag (rather than someone who's obsessed about it) and take things from there.
     
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    Depends on the out fit. If we leave out the adjective drag and use Halloween costume seems little bit less scary in the trans gender side of this agenda if you understand .
    Drag implying some outrageous out fit.

    As the idea you have is actually quite reserved all most all in black and could be quite covered up and nice long wig slightly ott make up you could actually look very cool and quite subtle but classy . Just practice the heels !

    Xx Wendy
     
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    Yes that is the line I am taking with it and I have already said it was just black and not over the top although I dont want to reveal untill the day
    if possible.
    As for the heels I assume you mean practice before hand so as not to seem to proficient when supposedly going out for the first time ;-)

    Dianne
     
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    Cool if you just look the part and not go laughing stock route I think so much better.

    One of the worst bits is to get partners to understand what your GD is and that as it becomes more mainstream, it's not such a bad thing.

    The heels just to be comfortable in for more than 5 minutes . ! Look natural and at ease with your self.

    Xx Wendy
     
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    i went to one as a witch once, some folks who goes dress up in very very scary things.
     
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    I think its a great idea if other people are dressing up as they do on Halloween....go for it
     
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    Keep in mind that your choice of costume does affect her to a great extent. You will be appearing as her partner and escort. Have an appreciation that her friends may end up talking about both of you behind you and your wife's back. If she's not comfortable with it, stand down and choose a different costume.
     
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