Been away for a while. Kind of disappointed.

Interesting post. I am new to this forum and I am guilty of some of what you say. I am writing from my own perspective though, at the moment I am still in the first stages of getting used to wearing a chastity device. I do however write about my Wife and the impact this is having on our relationship extensively.

I do however take your point and will try to write more about the impact this is having on our relationship as this is very much about improving it and making it more about her.

 

Well, I am all with You @chastingfun more focus on the outcome than the process and handling itself would be most welcome - but Perhaps you would get better impact from your cry out if You started out somewhat differently. How about starting a thread about the the outcome.
Lets say a thread that goes like this:
"I have asked my KH/Mistress/Wife about the 5 best things that this lifestyle has given her, and here is what she answered:"
- and invite subs around the world to chip in. And of course there are manu variations of that survey
Just a thought....

 

I would be very happy to ask my Wife that question next Saturday. (if she starts a conversation about the chastity exploration I will ask her then, but her rule is I only get to start a conversation on a Saturday. That way she does not get overwhelmed with all of my thoughts and ideas.)

 

I actually agree with like half of that, although just starting a discussion about it instead of outright accusing everyone here of "wrongdoing" would've looked better, i think.
Also, it's not "about her" - it may be for you, but not for everyone. For some, it's "about us", or "about him" or really just "about the equipment" and so many other things. And there's nothing wrong with either of that as long as everyone's happy with it.
Honestly, i can see where you're coming from, but don't paint everyone here with the same colors as yourself - You'll always end up disappointed.

 

While I agree that there are ... some anoying postings where you can see in your mind's eye how the poster is wanking of I wouldn't agree with the criticism that it's all about her.

To us / me chastitiy is just another kink we are into and maybe you could call it a symbol for the kind of relationship we are living, but most cerainly chastity is not a tool to change my partners behaviour. - that is if one would even belive that chastity could be used in this way...

 

I have often said there are many avenues for chastity.
Femdom Chastity
Self locking Chastity
Permanent Chastity
Experimental Chastity
Deviceless Chastity
Sisssy Chastity
Long Distance Chastity
Occasional Chastity
Couples Chastity
Young Chastity
Old Chastity
etc., etc.
Every couple or individual has a different idea of how they will incorporate Chastity into their lives or not. This of course is what makes chastity so interesting. How people from all over approach the subject. If everybody thought that chastity should be just one way or the other it would be pretty boring.
This forum to me has been an excellent place to explore and learn about the subject.
Nine years ago I could not have told you what chastity was except that it was used during the Crusades, and now the wife has the key and yes it is all about her, but it has always been about her and my kids. Just now their is an added element to our excitement and intimacy. All of this of course is just my opinion, thanks for reading, and thanks to all who post their trails and tribulations to this forum.-----Michelle

 

As with Jasmic, I am trying to track Mistress Wolf and my relationship and the changes, twists and turns it takes. Been here a while, and have tried very hard to keep my journal honest rather than creating a fantasy life online.

Yes there are posts that fit what you are talking about, and a few of them i have posted on and tried to help the posters look at and rethink their stance. i try to educate and help new members... it's what we should be doing.

 

I have to somewhat agree with chastinffun's point. That was one of the reasons I stayed away from here part of this last year, but I also agree with the administrator's comments to make it poistive and not negative. Let's all take a good look at what we are doing here. I for one, enjoy sharing experiences and appreciated the diversity. And discussing issues wifh people that share commen interests.

Besides, meeting new friends and reading their posts is enlightening.

 

Four or five years ago the site struck me as having a large percentage of crossdressers. While that element still runs strongly through here, it strikes me that lately we're seeing an influx of normal (non-kink) married men who are younger and primarily only interested in chastity. Whether or not this is a good thing remains to be seen.

 

You know, i really don't like making my own thread for it, so i'll write this down here just for your sake:
I started the whole chastity thing half a year or so ago (really, just to see if it's something for me.. boy, is it ever!), have been in a cage 24/7 since then and for the last 2 months i had a serious Keyholder; my best friend(-with-kinda-benefits).
And so far, this is the happiest time of my life. It helped our trust in each other immensely, it made me way more productive, it's actively working against my abandonment issues (because if i feel alone, i just have to remember that she cares enough about me to step out of her shell to be my dom). And she has a blast teasing me and making up punishments.
That the orgasms are way better on the rare occassions when i am allowed one (and when i actually WANT one, which is surprisingly rare) is really just an added bonus.

Locking my dick away and including her in the whole experience was the best thing that happened to my life and my friendship to her in years.

There ya go. Positive enough?

 

Perhaps the vast majority of people are not into the kink for the reasons you are? Maybe YOU are the outlier? Food for thought.

 

It is so great that we post period! I love reading everything except the few word stories, but I am not complaining about them.
This forum is by people and their many thoughts and experiences.
To stay away then come back bitching is like calling your dog over then kicking him.
There are so many permutations (ok I'll call it facets) of chastity!
Wouldn't it be neat if more lurkers would express themselves? One thing that might prevent that is fear of criticism for their ideas or writing skill or spelling.
Lets hope everyone participates.
Ss

 

Here are two versions:

for Domme/Doms ONLY!!
and
for submissives

 

The Forums tend to go through periods when subjects are discussed that you like and visa versa. Returning from an absence and then saying its all changed is a little harsh.
Many members are single males so you can't expect them to write about their devotion to their wives and lovers.
New members who have only recently discovered chastity are bound to be excited and eager to relate their frustrations and thoughts in here.
As Admin has said, if you feel so disappointed then start your own thread.