My first post. I'm happily married and in my late 40s. Usual story (I assume), busy lives meant little time for my wife and when i did get some spare time I'd rather masturbate than spend it with her. I had been reading about male chastity and the science behind it. The typical cycle of masturbation and orgasm leading to less desire to spend time with my wife struck a chord, so i confessed to my wife, told her that i wanted to do something about it and asked for her help. After getting over the initial shock and reading the same great article I had found, she agreed to give it a go.
So I am now 14 days into chastity, my first spell having lasted 17 days before my wife took pity on me and allowed me to cum. But we have encountered some challenges
1. I have a CB6000s and after much trial and error I have a combination that fits well during the day. My problem is at night. Every time I have tried to sleep in it, I have woken up with serious pain in my balls where the base ring cuts into me. So we are currently working more on trust than a lock that i have no control over. Which is working OK but i am worried about how i will be when i get several weeks into chastity (our agreed goal is to get to a pattern of 3 months at a time). My question - does anyone use different settings on a CB for night time lock ups?
2. We have never been very adventurous in our sex life and to be honest, I am amazed my wife agreed to this but I respect her so much for giving it a try. She is struggling to get her head around the fact that I can get satisfaction from her pleasure. I think she also feels guilty about controlling me. Hopefully the ruthless streak will devellp over time. My question on this - can anyone recommend good keyholders who post regularly in the forums for my wife to follow?
So I am now 14 days into chastity, my first spell having lasted 17 days before my wife took pity on me and allowed me to cum. But we have encountered some challenges
1. I have a CB6000s and after much trial and error I have a combination that fits well during the day. My problem is at night. Every time I have tried to sleep in it, I have woken up with serious pain in my balls where the base ring cuts into me. So we are currently working more on trust than a lock that i have no control over. Which is working OK but i am worried about how i will be when i get several weeks into chastity (our agreed goal is to get to a pattern of 3 months at a time). My question - does anyone use different settings on a CB for night time lock ups?
2. We have never been very adventurous in our sex life and to be honest, I am amazed my wife agreed to this but I respect her so much for giving it a try. She is struggling to get her head around the fact that I can get satisfaction from her pleasure. I think she also feels guilty about controlling me. Hopefully the ruthless streak will devellp over time. My question on this - can anyone recommend good keyholders who post regularly in the forums for my wife to follow?