KH Benefits ?

I see your point, but Cecilia B really isn't asking for any advice on how to up her game with BF. Their relationship seems to be doing just fine for them. Others here may feel that she is not maximizing her potential with BF, but that's up to her. Others may want her to do things that they think would better their relationship, but it's her life and her relationship. Also, not to be merely argumentative, but a 'flat out refusal' is a limit, and needs to be respected. Others may see benefits for BF in submitting more fully to Cecilia B, but that cannot be imposed on him. Game or lifestyle, consent matters. Just as many wives are not thrilled with the idea of chastity when it is first presented, their consent needs to obtained, their limits respected. The same is true here. Cecilia B and BF seem to be enjoying the heck out of their current arrangement, and that really is the goal. Of course their relationship will evolve, perhaps even in the directions suggested here, but that is up to them to decide and agree upon.

 

I know full well she didn't ask for advice, I just offered it, it's my right to do so. She and her boyfriend have a right to do whatever they feel comfortable with. Nobody is forcing her or anyone else to do anything, so no need to make an issue where there isn't. I still feel that we owe it to ourselves to try and do something that takes us out of our comfort zone. There is nothing wrong with being a proponent for that. I know if I was never pushed to go out of my comfort zone, I wouldn't have done so and realized the benefits. If people are happy staying in their comfort zones, then that's fine too, it's their decision. I wish her and her boyfriend nothing but the best and hope their relationship keeps evolving and gets better and better to their liking.

 

ChasteHubby2015, I agree with you 100%

 

Now, back to those KH benefits...

 

I saw a few of the threads / caught up ... chastity is her primary kink not his (but for a good reason). If we draw an analogy from BoyfriendInChastity's thread ... this is like stating she should just go cuckold him ... Pushing longer terms and sentences external to their agreed framework is the equivalent of topping from the bottom vis a via thread wise.

It is obvious he loves her as she does him, and they worked out an amicable method for this. I would let it lay as is ....

Now if she asked ... how do I up his punishment using chastity given his limits .... one could say .. raise the time limits in an exponential function for every offense ... but that would be a different thread all together ..... *peace out*

 

Well, you can't really compare cuckolding to adding more days to his chastity; besides, it's the key holder that should be dictating those terms. I'm just saying, I can tell she's happy, but sure wouldn't mind more control and so my hope for her is that she eventually achieves more and more control for her benefit, that's all. She sounds terrific and I can't give her enough kudos on how much she's already been able to accomplish with him.

 

Do those numbing creams and condoms really work? I've seen them and some other stuff advertized or even in some shops, but BF seems to think it's all what he calls "snake oil" and I'm inclined to agree with him. He told me about some of the stuff they used to advertize in comic books back when his dad was a boy. When I asked some people at the hotel who are about his dad's age, they confirmed it. If they do really work, I can't see he'd say no to them. Keeping him hard isn't a problem, he's young. He gets hard when I dress him up, even if it's in his discipline dress or just his discipline lingerie. He associates it with ejaculating.

I've talked to his bosses, so he's not making up anything about not being able to wear the cage at his job. They're anal about safety. I didn't mention the cage, but asked about stuff like waist chains under their pants. It's a no-no, there. He's always honest with me, even if it means I won't like his answer/ I was worried about him sneaking into the bathroom at work and masturbating when he's under discipline. He told me even if he had time, he didn't think it would be worth it. I asked him one time out of the blue if he;d ever done it while I had him under discipline. He told me he bought one of those men's magazines while he was at lunch and sneaked into the bathroom, but it just wasn't worth the hassle and being rushed. I asked him if he thought he'd get away with it because he admitted it. He told me he knew he might get a penalty, but it was more important to him to be honest with me. I sent him to get dressed right away in his disciplinary lingerie and gave him 25 strokes of the tawse. I asked him if he still had the magazine and he said he did. I told him to bring it home the next day and he did. He got a supervised masturbation session, 50 more strokes of the tawse, sissy maid service that Friday and chastity that Saturday. He doesn't keep anything from me. He doesn't delete out his history on his computer and doesn't stop me from looking at it. I find porn there all the time, so he gets spankings and chastity for it. I didn't find any for 2 weeks after his last session with my new paddle, but I just found some, so he's getting one in front of my best friend next week. He's going into chastity Sunday. Since I unlock him every morning, I'm not outside the first 24 hour limit. So, I can lock him up again Monday, let him out Tuesday morning and lock him back up that evening. Maybe he'll have nice load for us to watch him eat by Wednesday.

If his bottom is so worn out he has to have chastity and it's a week or so, if I'm working afternoons at the hotel, he has to come there and I put it on him and send him home. If I'm working overnight, he has to get up early and come to the hotel so I can take it off before he goes to his job. He hates having to get up earlier than usual, so that's another penalty he pays.

When I say 'give him a way out', it's not an 'easy' way. Sissy maid service for Miss Cecelia is very demanding. He'd better be quick to my calls and bring the right stuff quickly. He has to be fast in 5" heels. If my friends are there, they're just as demanding. I think him masturbating humiliates me, so he can wear a maid dress and petticoats in front of my friends. There's always something wrong with his service, so he gets spanked in front of them, too. He always ejaculates at least once when he's across my lap, so they get to see him eat it, too. They get to make comments, too. Oh no, sissy maid service isn't an 'easy way out' for him.

I have to understand his limits. I never thought he'd agree to any of this. He said he'd do it if it made me happier. Understand, I started this because I have some insecurity issues. The cage and me disciplining him has helped me to get over alot of them. I'm bossy at work, but was always mousey in relationships. I knew I couldn't hold on to him if I was mousey, but didn't know how to get away from it. Chastity and discipline has helped me get over it.

 

Miss Cecelia, I can assure you the numbing condoms do work, I've used them many times before and they make it very hard to achieve ejaculation. I do believe you'd both benefit from longer chastity, but as long as you're happy, that's all that matters. It's amazing that you've gotten him to agree to all this already, so many accolades to you.