how to do you manage the difficult time when you are in chastity?

Well you can't let yourself out when someone else is holding the keys so you are stuck, after a few days it does change from this is fun to restrictive but I do still find it enjoyable just not in the same way when I would rather have an orgasm.

My advice would be just keep yourself busy, when you would normally be playing with yourself, you just can't, so go load the dishwasher or washing machine, do some work and just keep yourself busy.

 

yea I know it's tough but like #sanalock said find ways to keep busy around the house and trust me it gets easier
and wat kinda of device do u have cuz it shouldn't be causing u any pain

 

I agree with the other response's as well. You have to find things to keep you busy, rather than just thinking about how frustrated you are. Before you get into longer lock ups and hand the keys to someone, you need to find out why your device is causing pain though. Best of luck to you in chastity.

 

I have been wearing a Jailbird for over 3 years and am so used to it that when I go out I forget I am even wearing it. It just is my normal. I am allowed an orgasm every few months and quite frankly, I do not even want one anymore because the first 2-3 weeks after my orgasm are the only hard times. That is because we have a slow and steady buildup of hormones that urge us to orgasm again. That is nature's way of insuring our species survives. After about 12-14 days the hormones stop and that is when it becomes very easy for me. It took 4 years of conditioning me to longer and longer denial periods and this year I may have 2 or 3 orgasms but I may not want that many.

During the tough times we just have more sex and after all of this time I have learned to share my wife's orgasms. Even at the age of 64, she still has 2-3 orgasms when we have sex. She says that since we started chastity and she does not have to focus on me as she has done for most of our marriage, she is having her most intense orgasms of her life to the point of being painful and totally exhausting. Tonight we had to wait 10 minutes for her to recover before we could do orgasm number 2. That is 10 orgasms in the last 10 days and we only had sex 3 times. This helps me out a lot. When I hold my wife tight while she is having her orgasm, I feel like I had one two and feel calm afterwards. This is something they also teach in Tantric sex.

Right now, when my wife goes near my penis, it retreats inside my body. I am so used to not cumming that it reflexively tries to hide because it knows it will just be teased. It now takes a lot more effort to get it hard too. Just keep at it and add a few days after awhile to go longer without an orgasm. If you stick with it, your body will be conditioned to do without. As for the first two weeks after an orgasm, just have more sex or divert your attention to something so that you do not even think of sex. It does get easier if you stick with it but the majority of people stop doing it because we men are so used to having lots of orgasms whenever we want that we cannot bear to go without. Been there and done that. It took me 4 years to get really comfortable to the point where I do not even want an orgasm. I enjoy the edging and teasing a lot more and after sharing me with her girlfriend for over 30 years, my wife finally gets to have sex focus only on her orgasms and this is how I pay her back for the sexual freedom she has given me over our 44 years of marriage, even engaging in all of my fetishes and playing with others as a couple.

Wanting to forgo an orgasm for a good reason is also very helpful. If I was locked up by someone I was not madly in love with, I would not have made it this long since I do, did, enjoy my orgasms. This is also a reason why guys who self lock tend to disappear after awhile. When we fantasize about chastity we do not feel the hormonal urges to have orgasms. We only feel the sexual excitement in our brains. Let's get real here, none of us are locked up against our will. That is illegal and mean. We ask to be locked up so it is really up to us to determine how long we go without an orgasm. If that is one week or 1 year, that is fine because chastity has to be fun for both of you. It should not be torture against your will. We have always treated our sexual fetishes as sex games. We set the rules and limits which we renegotiate each year. I am the one who wants to see how long I go without an orgasm.

My wife is the problem because she eventually gets caught up in the middle of good sex and lets me cum. I think this time she will not do that again but never say never. Believe me, if I was younger I would not be looking for less orgasms. I think 3 weeks would have been more than enough for me. Two weeks of hell and then one more week to anticipate my orgasm. We do not even really keep track of how long it has been since my last orgasm. We will know approximately how many months it has been but we do not keep score. We just keep on doing it as long as we are both enjoying it. I feel lousy after I orgasm. I lose my energy and feel bored until I am denied for about 3 weeks. I like the constant sexual tension. Even porn does not excite me anymore. My wife has trained me well but it took years so take baby steps. Go as long as you can and then after a few weeks of that, add a day or two and keep on doing that at a rate that you are both comfortable with.

We each set our own goals so don't try to do chastity like anyone else. We tried that at the beginning and failed at it so we rebooted and tried Chastity 2.0, then 3.0 and finally 4.0 before it jelled for us. As I said, start off with what you both feel comfortable with and stick with that if you cannot go longer. There are no prizes for being denied longer than anyone else. Do it slowly and that will make you keep wanting to do it because you are not suffering beyond your enjoyment level. Just increase your denial period a little every few months and your body and brain will adjust. Good luck and don't forget to enjoy it.

 

It all takes time and lots of effort from both the wearer and if you are lucky enough to have one the keyholder to make it an exciting experience, being locked is one thing but it being sexually stimulating whilst you are locked takes lots more effort from both parties to keep the fantasy growing. Its a great feeling putting on a device and that lasts for a while but without ongoing stimulation either verbal or physical taking place it will soon become more of a hindrance and the weak minded wearers sometime give up and remove the devices and then have to begin the slow trek all over again.

 

The longest I have gone was 7 months. Right now my wife wants me to go a year, at which point we might try for two years.

I had some really hard times during that 7 month period. Times I would have done anything just to feel a full erection, let alone an orgasm. My wife waking me up in the middle of the night because I was trying to hump the bed.

I think some of the hardest times for me, though, were nights when my wife just didn't want to do anything. Too tired or whatever. I would be super horny and desperate just to touch and kiss her, to feel her body pressed up against mine. And to have her not want to do anything was hard. No relief at all. It's a very helpless feeling to be pulsing and even sometimes shaking with desire and have to go to bed unfulfilled.

How did I handle it? I'm not really sure. I just had to accept it. I'm in chastity, I can't do anything about it.

 

After you are locked up for long enough, quit thinking about it and really submit to Her control, the device won't be too bad. If fact, when I am out of the cage for any period of time, I seem to want to be locked up once again!

 

Whilst it's extremely difficult, frustrating and at times painful to endure being teased, tormented or being expected to stimulate your wife or girlfriend to numerous orgasms when you are restrained and locked without the possibility of any relief. For me it's the pleasure and ecstasy one experiences when you are eventually allowed relief that makes it so worthwhile.

 

I found the first week to be the hardest and then week 2 then week 3 all seem to happen quicker with less fuss. But around week 6 is when I start to want to cum and my penis becomes very sensitive. I agree with everyone above. Each person is different but the longer you are locked the easier it becomes. I also agree that once you cum it seems in many ways you are starting over. Myself, I rather not cum and just stay locked.