So, I've been lurking(ISH) on here for years. I've always been into chastity since I heard about it before the internet. I've played with devices for years, and over the past 2 years I even (occasionally) got my wife involved (she called my device a "constrictor"), although she never agreed to hide the key. But she recently died. Sad. But still want to honour my commitment with her using chastity. I haven't touched myself for 2 weeks, so, I suppose I'm now experiencing honour chastity as I have noone to hold a key. So... How do I move forward? We had recently talked about me getting a PA.. I'm talking to a piercing place on Thursday about it. Basically I want to remember my wife everytime I see my dick and see a ring. Perhaps, once healed, I'll lock myself away until I find someone else. Anyway, sorry to bring everyone down. Actually I'm happy due to the times we shared., Just full of loss. And I certainly don't feel as though I should touch myself (other than cleaning). I'm also being naughty and I've always loved the idea of being a sissy. And wearing the few pairs of sexy knickers she bought. It feels good... And I've never been really into that, but is that my sisdy side coming out? So... What to do? Should I pursue a PA? It would certainly mean I can't touch myself until it heals... Anyway. Love you all. Paul X
First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. I know being alone after having someone so close for so long, is very hard. I can imagine why you might want to do the things you talk about. For me, I've recently lost loved ones and I know with some time my views have changed. Things I might have done in the immediate wake of loss, are not what I choose to do eventually. So I would advise some caution. Keeping your chastity pledge on an honor system, actually to me is more of a commitment that any device. Best of luck in your decisions and i hope you will look to our community for support as you need it.
Yeah, maybe a PA FOR chastity, at this stage IS rushing into it. But it always turned us on for so long, and it was something I had said i wanted to do, but we/I never got around to it.
It’s just a piercing, not castration. It’s really not a big deal. When you are locked with no access to the key it gets real. And if you buy a nice custom cage/tube that fits like a glove, cutting it off isn’t an option because it will cost you $700 and 3 months to replace.Then you can leave the key at work or somewhere else that is inconvenient to get to. So just get a PA done with a half inch set back at 16g. Go on Amazon and buy curved barbells from 14g to 4g and buy a taper to gently stretch. You will be ready to wear the tube in 3-4 months. Just be upfront with the piercer about chastity so you have the proper setback (my biggest regret). I love having my Lori 8a vs any ball trap device.
@paulsavin1701 well I hope that you soon be happy and im sorry that your Mistress has died and if you want some pretty panties for Christmas then Pretty lttle thing as got some lovley ones.
My condolence. A PA isn't irreversible (well, you can't undo it, but as Jessica says it's not like your permanently getting rid of it. So, if it was something you both wanted to do, and you think it will help with your grieving process, then by all means give it a go. Basically, there will be no harm done, and it may help in some way. Good luck