Chastity controlled weight loss

[LUMM]

Hi,

New member here - although have browsed on/off for a while. I am actually not new to all things kinky and first acted on my interests (when I thought it was wrong to have such thoughts!) around 2004. Thankfully a random search on the internet revealed I wasn't alone and the world is wonderfully kinky! I would not describe myself as submissive generally, but definitely enjoy being caged by my wife for many different reasons.

I am now married with 2 kids. I am overall very happy, love the family life, but my weight has crept up the unhealthy level of 136kg. My wife really tries to engage with my attempts to keep our sex lives going, but is very hard to encourage and motivate - our sex life is pretty non-existent. It's understandable as we both work long hours and have all the other general pressures on top....and my wife gets really tired, which I completely sympathise with. Sadly I've gone down the route of porn and taking care of him myself - which is something else I wanted to kick out. I really struggle normally going a day without having an orgasm whereas my wife never really seems to care (which I am not saying is her fault).

So I approached my wife with the idea of being locked up in a cock cage to guide losing weight (we have played with cock cages before - but only for the odd couple of days or so). Lately the extent of my wife's interest in sex was just a quick hand-job to keep me quiet. We talked about how best to approach this and come up with the following:

• No blowjobs or handjobs until I am under 100kg (still technically overweight - but 90-100kg is the weight that suits my frame).
• A weekly weigh-in with dynamic actions based on weight lost (currently 1kg+ = uncaged sexual act of her choice, 0.5kg+ = milking, <0.5kg or gain =caning).
• I am not to be let out at all other than for cleaning (currently once every couple of days) or for health reasons - this will likely be 6-9 months.
• I am to do as she asks and we use Google Keep for sharing her lists of tasks and demands (she does like massages and oral/rimming - so I'm still able to regularly enjoy my wife's lovely body thankfully!

That's the intro. Today marks 1 week since we started my weight-loss program - so will start a new post to describe how the last week has been. I found it really interested reading about the experience of others and hope someone finds this useful in some way. I'm sure we'll make lots of mistakes, but so long as we work on them and do things to satisfy both I think this is going to be a very rewarding journey.

Thanks,

Mike

 

[LUMM]

Week 1 completed

Hi.

My cage was fitted on 30th January 2021. For the first 2 or 3 days I had periods of discomfort, but nothing a little bit of adjustment wouldn't sort. After 4 or 5 days I must say things felt as comfortable as I would expect them to get. We have a few cages, but this week have been in a Holy Trainer style resin cage and been let out twice for a couple of minutes for cleaning.

I secretly love the feeling of being caged both physically and psychologically. I know I could get out of my cage if I really tried, but could never put it back on. The feeling of knowing my wife has total control of when my next orgasm will be is amazing. Yes, I am often awake at night as he frantically throbs trying to grow - I quite enjoy this but of course is extremely frustrating at the same time. It's such a mismatch of emotions!

General negative points:

I do miss orgasms naturally!
I have not had the greatest sleep some nights
Encouraging my wife to embrace the challenge

General plus points:

Have had loads of time eating out my wife - love that
Have lost weight - and avoided lots of beer!
Spent lots of time massaging my wife and enjoyed it more than ever because it no longer has any hopes of ending in sex which just puts the whole experience on a much nicer level.

Saturday evening was my first weigh-in after my cock cage was fitted the previous Saturday. I am not allowed to weigh myself during the week to check on my progress so it was quite an anxious moment. I lost 0.9kg, which was really disappointing as I was expecting more like 1.5kg.

According to our own rules I had earned a milking. This is yet to be actioned and I've found the last couple of nights quite frustrating as my wife seems to have lost interest a bit, but tells me she hasn't. She was working this weekend so understand and she assures me she will take care of it.

So we are definitely heading in the right direction. Can't believe I've gone an entire week without an orgasm - I'm pretty sure the most I've gone without is 2 days since being a teen in the 90s!

Thanks,

Mike

 

[Lazlo Toth]

Week 1 completed

Hi.

My cage was fitted on 30th January 2021. For the first 2 or 3 days I had periods of discomfort, but nothing a little bit of adjustment wouldn't sort. After 4 or 5 days I must say things felt as comfortable as I would expect them to get. We have a few cages, but this week have been in a Holy Trainer style resin cage and been let out twice for a couple of minutes for cleaning.

I secretly love the feeling of being caged both physically and psychologically. I know I could get out of my cage if I really tried, but could never put it back on. The feeling of knowing my wife has total control of when my next orgasm will be is amazing. Yes, I am often awake at night as he frantically throbs trying to grow - I quite enjoy this but of course is extremely frustrating at the same time. It's such a mismatch of emotions!

General negative points:

I do miss orgasms naturally!
I have not had the greatest sleep some nights
Encouraging my wife to embrace the challenge

General plus points:

Have had loads of time eating out my wife - love that
Have lost weight - and avoided lots of beer!
Spent lots of time massaging my wife and enjoyed it more than ever because it no longer has any hopes of ending in sex which just puts the whole experience on a much nicer level.

Saturday evening was my first weigh-in after my cock cage was fitted the previous Saturday. I am not allowed to weigh myself during the week to check on my progress so it was quite an anxious moment. I lost 0.9kg, which was really disappointing as I was expecting more like 1.5kg.

According to our own rules I had earned a milking. This is yet to be actioned and I've found the last couple of nights quite frustrating as my wife seems to have lost interest a bit, but tells me she hasn't. She was working this weekend so understand and she assures me she will take care of it.

So we are definitely heading in the right direction. Can't believe I've gone an entire week without an orgasm - I'm pretty sure the most I've gone without is 2 days since being a teen in the 90s!

Thanks,

Mike

Keep up the good work! On the downside, I think the simple wearing of the device (skin issues and such) will be a challenge for 6 to 9 months. On the plus side, let's not underestimate how much our wives dislike us being overweight. She will likely be a little less "tired" once you are below 100kg.

Do you consider the milking a reward or a punishment? And is it a de facto reward or punishment for her? I know my wife would consider milking me a FAR bigger chore than just jacking me off.

 

[LUMM]

Hi,

Yes agree - we are more prepared to have nights, days off for physical wellbeing. Health definitely comes first by a long margin. I do apply a little Savlon each day and we are keeping a close eye on things.

I'm sure losing weight will make me more attractive to my wife. I'm also shy about my body these days so am looking forward to having confidence around my body again.

I know there is a (mass) debate to have about the health implications of not orgasming for long periods, so in part we thought we'd include milking to be play safe in that regard. For me I think milking is generally a reward as it relieves pressure and gives me some peace of mind re. the health risks. Milking is also a punishment though as I like an orgasm as much as the next man! Milking for my wife is a chore for sure, but she doesn't want me to have an orgasm unless I've lost the target weight and she is prepared to do it - just by her timetable.

Thanks for your input!

 

[Lazlo Toth]

And thank you for the prompt and sensible clarification! Good luck brother!

 

[Isopropylforyou]

This... actually sounds like a good idea.

Due to everything that has happened to me in the last 6 months, I do need to lose some weight as well.

What are you doing to lose the weight?

Is there a program that you are following?
Special diet?


Iso.

 

[LUMM]

This... actually sounds like a good idea.

Due to everything that has happened to me in the last 6 months, I do need to lose some weight as well.

What are you doing to lose the weight?

Is there a program that you are following?
Special diet?


Iso.

Hi Iso,

Give it a try - I think it's a great way to lose weight and satisfy other desires at the same time.

My biggest problem is/was alcohol. I've drunk every night for years - not to excess, but just a few each night...every night. I've tried to stop drinking several times over the years but have always found it so difficult, especially after a stressful day/week......well there's always an excuse to grab a cold one! I've only gone a week without a drink (actually 10 days because I'd stopped in anticipation of our chastity program) and I have to say the chastity and the threat of my wife getting out her cane has made it so easy! We also have more time for the basics such as cuddling, massaging and me going down on her - all things I really enjoy doing but neglected doing lately. As I mentioned above, these things are even more enjoyable when there's no prospect whatsoever of it heading towards sex - knowing she's satisfied and made sleepy by powerful orgasms as I lay awake feeling him doing his best to burst out really does something for me (and I can't really describe why - just does).

So as to what I'm doing.....not a program, just reducing what goes in and doing more exercise. Diet-wise cutting out alcohol (drinking water instead), cutting out biscuits, reducing portion sizes, some weights, bike rides and general walking. Just cutting out the beer (and inevitable snacks) are a huge decrease in my daily calories.

I've never eaten silly things really - it's mainly alcohol and my role at work gradually shifting towards the desk whereas it used to involve lots of fieldwork in very mountainous places!

Thanks,

Mike

 

[young88]

This is something that was one of the first reasons why we chose chastity. over 10 years ago, I was very overweight and struggled to commit to getting it off.
We both enjoyed the idea of chastity and incorporated it as a way to keep me on track.
Initially I was only allowed an orgasm if I had reached a weekly weight loss goal. D would keep the weigh in records and if I lost 2 kg a week I was unlocked for an orgasm. At each 10 kg I would be allowed a PIV orgasm.
However if I didn't reach the goal a punishment would be administered, via whipping or cropping, the device would not be removed until I was able to get to the next goal.
The end result was that I lost 52 KG over 18 months. As I got closer to the end goal, getting that 2 kg loss a week was extremely difficult.
D did not offer anything else as it was up to me to achieve the weight loss, via more careful eating and lots of exercise. It was very strong motivation.
D still checks every month that I am maintaining the weight loss, but after 10 years the orgasms are no longer offered. However the punishments are administered. For each kilo I put on is 10 hard whipping and 10 crop strokes. Very affective motivation. We are talking punishment not funishment. The later being something that we both enjoy.

 

[MissyB]

I can see how your program will work. Reducing intake, including all the calories from alcohol, and increasing activity makes it a fairly healthy process too. Involving wife and chastity should also give you greater chances for success. Good luck and hope you get to your goals.

 

[Jessica Alexander]

I’d suggest focusing more on keeping you on the plan than just weight loss. Commit to a workout schedule and eating plan and let her keep you accountable. You should be lifting weights a minimum of 3x a week and endurance/cardio another 3-4 days a week.

You will likely hit a plateau at some point and the workouts will help with that. May want to get your testosterone checked because low t and high E (many overweight men have high levels of estrogen which lowers t and other things).

 

[LUMM]

This is something that was one of the first reasons why we chose chastity. over 10 years ago, I was very overweight and struggled to commit to getting it off.
We both enjoyed the idea of chastity and incorporated it as a way to keep me on track.
Initially I was only allowed an orgasm if I had reached a weekly weight loss goal. D would keep the weigh in records and if I lost 2 kg a week I was unlocked for an orgasm. At each 10 kg I would be allowed a PIV orgasm.
However if I didn't reach the goal a punishment would be administered, via whipping or cropping, the device would not be removed until I was able to get to the next goal.
The end result was that I lost 52 KG over 18 months. As I got closer to the end goal, getting that 2 kg loss a week was extremely difficult.
D did not offer anything else as it was up to me to achieve the weight loss, via more careful eating and lots of exercise. It was very strong motivation.
D still checks every month that I am maintaining the weight loss, but after 10 years the orgasms are no longer offered. However the punishments are administered. For each kilo I put on is 10 hard whipping and 10 crop strokes. Very affective motivation. We are talking punishment not funishment. The later being something that we both enjoy.

Wow - that's a great result! My weight has gone up and down quite wildly over the years but I've learned as you age it's harder to shift!

Thanks for sharing that.

 

[Jinkyu]

just my .02 cents, have you looked at keto? I was able to go from 200 to 170 in 6 months very comfortably. one of the side effects was it really changed the way I look at food, understand carbs, etc. once you see it, it can't be unseen! I don't drink sodas anymore due to it. cheers!

 

[LUMM]

Week 2 completed

Hi,

The last week has been pretty good. Had a couple of cage issues - both times was a lock problem which meant the cage came off. We bought a new Holy Trainer V3 style cage and this is proving to be the most comfortable cage I've ever worn. I get the odd reminder it's there, but each day gets more comfortable and if my mind is occupied I completely forget it's there.

Because the previous week I lost 0.9 kg I had earned a release. I was allowed to masturbate myself as my wife watched. It was very underwhelming and I can't really say I enjoyed the sensations - but good to release some pressure (quite a load!). The next day I was instructed to put on the strap on and give my wife an orgasm (she loved it!). I loved it too as it's the first time I've ever been in that position and being able to watch her body as she came without being distracted by having my own orgasm. I've always tried not to, but sometimes it's hard after a long day not to orgasm, roll over and go to sleep. Cuddling after sex is now my favourite thing! Also I've been giving lots of oral in a morning, which sets the day off great! I'm really enjoying being able to see my wife being sexually fulfilled knowing she has 100% control of when and how I will have my next orgasm. She seems to be embracing it more each day too.

This week I only lost 0.4kg. We tweaked the rules slightly as we'd inadvertently left them a little ambiguous. Anyway, now a 0 - 0.5kg loss means I just remain locked up for another week (except for cleaning which is just for a couple of minutes).

I thought my morning wood was waning - but Jeez, this morning he fought for an hour straight trying to get out. I must say I quite enjoy the feeling, but it's very frustrating and it really focuses the mind. I can be a bit of a procrastinator, but have got a few outstanding jobs done this week that have been waiting months.

We've decided that my wife will hold the cages and determine which one I wear based on my behaviour. I have a stainless Holy Trainer which I really like (quite medieval!) but is quite heavy, so this will be used when I need some form of correction as I definitely find this cage the hardest to wear due to the weight pulling down on everything.

Thanks!

 

[Jinkyu]

love it! my wife makes me wear a steel Evotion 8 knockoff if I misbehave. I totally feel that one

 

[LUMM]

Week 3 completed

3 weeks already! This week I lost 0.9kg (again!) - I think we've got the weight loss boundaries just right for the time being as I could have tried much harder so think my reward this week was more than fair. 0.9kg loss meant I was allowed some form of pressure relief.........so my wife attempted her first ruined orgasm and she nearly managed it.....must be quite tricky! Despite having reservations she loved it and will definitely do it again.

At night in bed we have started having my wrists cuffed and tied to a short rope if I am without a cage for whatever reason (I have also been tied up this way a couple of times even though my cage has been on) - she loves preventing me touching him or his balls (well her balls of course!).

She's also started teasing him. Oh my God, when she's slowly stroking him and then without any kind of warning stops, gives me a kiss goodnight and then turns her back on me and goes asleep. What an amazing feeling lying there as my hands are unable to go lower than shoulder height and my hard on gradually fades away after much throbbing.

I think I'm quite an easy going person, but my wife says I've been less grumpy this last couple of weeks so she's seeing that as a huge positive. My wife is trying really hard - and I think she is enjoying it. She asked me to get a book as we thought that might help - so I got a few of the Georgia Ivey Green books. So far she seems to be enjoying them and hopefully some fires burning in the back of her mind will be reignited!

Thanks.

 

[LUMM]

Cage doing its job!

I've always presumed I'm like many other men in that my apparent need/longing for sexual relief strengthens and fades sinusoidally. Well it's dawned on me that I've definitely been in a lull this last couple of weeks (no wonder I found it quite easy been locked up practically 24/7 for the best part of 3 weeks) and now on the way up to a peak! It's more of a challenge now, not that I can do anything about it other than keeping to the weight loss program and being a good hubby.

Last night I gave her a back, bum and feet massage and then she teased my balls until they were absolutely huge....not sore in any way, just rampant like a bull! They've never been anywhere near that size! Magnificent, I was quite proud of them!! He was trying to grow like crazy, pulsing every second or so for what must have been 30-40 minutes. The cage performed perfectly (I have a few, this was a HT v2 knock-off). We kissed each other goodnight, had a quick cuddle and then she rolled over and quickly dropped off to sleep leaving me to endure him frequently fighting his cage for about an hour. Totally helpless - loved and hated every second at the same time.

This morning I woke up to see my wife off to work, she reached down and gently cupped the cage and my balls (which were now down to relaxed size) and kissed me goodbye. This was a trigger......went back to bed until the little one got up and I was shocked just how hard he tried to break free of his cage. After about an hour I just couldn't handle it any more......it's not painful at all, I quite like the sensations - but it's the frustration that made me feel like a wild beast reluctantly being tamed. It's perfect!!

My wife loves knowing I can't masturbate any more and is really taking to it more than I could ever have wished for. Early days yet I know, but pretty much every aspect of our marriage has been improved. Hope it continues like this as things had become very stale and we were slowly turning into a brother/sister type relationship. The original idea was to use chastity just as a weight loss tool until I reached my target weight, but she is definitely attracted to an FLR, so I think we're on the start of a wonderful journey. Magic!!

Thanks.

LUMM

 

[LUMM]

Week 4 completed

Not a very good week. Only lost 0.2kg which means I'm locked up for at least the next 7 days. Disappointing, although it was a hectic week with work and family things. Hopefully next week will be better.

Wife continues to develop her tease and denial techniques which I must say I quite enjoy. It's hard to explain the mixture of feelings, but guess most have the same on here. Tonight I'm to wear the strap on again after giving her 2 orgasms by mouth.

We've also agreed that from now on when I've earned the chance to cum inside her I will need to eat it back out. This is something I always want to do but after orgasm the desire goes away.....although I did do it once the next morning which was very nice!!

We've also discussed using a numbing cream after seeing it discussed on here. She's very keen to try this as she does like him inside her.

Cheers!

LUMM

 

[Ron33]

We used chastity for weight loss a few years ago. I wanted to lose 20 pounds. The rules was, I got no sex or masturbation unless I lost at least one full pound in one week. I only missed one week of making the goal! Amazing what you can do wanting a release.