My wife and I had a really good conversation today. She really got me talking about what was bothering me, and just took it all in. She was asking questions on things that had happened, and when I brought up something that didn't feel right, she'd ask me to give her more details.
As it turns out, I think the real problem I was having was being ignored so much. I mean, when you get down to it, after being ignored for so long, then being slapped and demeaned, it was taking its toll; but it really wasn't the slapping or the downtalk, but havng that happen after being ignroed..Does that make sense?
I told her that when I'm doing all these things for her, I want the attention. I thrive on the attention, negative or positive. And she got it. She wasn't defensive, or whatever, just dove deeper for me to talk more about it. I felt really good.
Toward the end, I brought up where we are going with this, but she didn't have an answer. She said she needs to think more about it. But either way, I'm feeling better as I was able to identify what was causing me the problem. ;-)
Anyway..We talk tomorrow.
M
As it turns out, I think the real problem I was having was being ignored so much. I mean, when you get down to it, after being ignored for so long, then being slapped and demeaned, it was taking its toll; but it really wasn't the slapping or the downtalk, but havng that happen after being ignroed..Does that make sense?
I told her that when I'm doing all these things for her, I want the attention. I thrive on the attention, negative or positive. And she got it. She wasn't defensive, or whatever, just dove deeper for me to talk more about it. I felt really good.
Toward the end, I brought up where we are going with this, but she didn't have an answer. She said she needs to think more about it. But either way, I'm feeling better as I was able to identify what was causing me the problem. ;-)
Anyway..We talk tomorrow.
M