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    My Keyholder - my wife has a severe ADHD, which contains short-term memory loss. I'm not it chastity 24/7, only during play, when I'm alone at home or when we meet a bull. We both enjoy cuckolding a lot. When she locks me during a normal day, she immediately forgets I'm locked. There is no teasing at all. But, it's for real, she really forgets. There is no teasing because she doesn't want to, it's because she doesn't know. I enjoy it, but I miss some kind of connection, or some kind of willful ignorance.

    When we speak about it, she tells me she likes when I'm locked. But she can't help herself, she just forgets. I'm a light sleeper, so she is so nice she always unlocks me for sleeping. Sometimes I ask her in the evening if she unlocks me, and I see that she is surprised I'm locked for second. Next moment she remembers and she unlocks me.

    I'm trying to learn like this feeling ,,it's forgotten for real" but sometims I feel lost to. What do you think about it? Would you enjoy it or would you suffer?
     
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    It's good you understand her and her ways.

    Many of us here sometimes feel locked and forgot. They don't live chastity world like we do. My advice is, learn to live with it.
     
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    Good luck with that
     
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    That sounds so hot. She would genuinely lose the key at some point and never find it? Keep forgetting she's added time to you chastity sentence? She's a keeper.
     
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    She might be unconsciously telling you her preference.
     
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    It's certainly a personal thing. But I wouldn't like being forgotten, so to speak.

    I would consider ways to give her a gentle reminder, assuming she is ok with it. It would allow you to both "reconnect", [chastity-wise] which I think is important. Even if it mostly meeting your needs, not hers.

    I acknowledge there are certain forms of play where chastity isn't discussed in casual conversation for periods of time, as an extra layer of dominance or perhaps submission. But this doesn't seem like it falls in that category.
     
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    I think you're overthinking it. I would present my balls and say it's been ages since you ball busted me.
     
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    I would keep it as it is. Mistress and I have a daughter that is adhd and autistic. So I know first hand about the forgetting. What I would do is figure out subtle ways to keep her reminded that you are locked up and try doing it with out felling like you are topping from the bottom. That’s how I try to keep our daughter on top of doing things she needs to do is by presenting subtle hints so it helps her remember. I can fully understand your frustration. Just have to work with what you have and help her along. Hope this helps and good lick
     
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    This is kind of adorable
     
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    Hmm. Interesting.

    Here’s a thought. A major symptom of ADHD is hyperfixation.

    If she liked chastity she wouldn’t be so forgetful of it. It would become an obsession…
     
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    My wife and one daughter has ADHD. Mostly my wife is consumed by all the things she feels she has to do to try to not forget them. She likes it when I am caged, but I am not sure she has the focus to hold my key consistently. So I tend to self lock and sometimes she discovers I have the cage on and smiles. She does get fixated on certain things, but not often on me or my predicament.
     
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