Does Chastity or Orgasm Denial.....

Thanks!

 

Not at all. For me it harness a pleasurable energy that I release through different senses and feelings toward my love but the biggest advantage is, the removal of the distraction between my legs.

 

That's exactly why I started.

 

You know what... I just realized something this morning. I think I miss my cock.

I've been locked up for more than 7 weeks without release (new personal record) and only got a couple unintentional ruined orgasms in all that time and I'm starting to wish my cage would somehow unlock itself because I just wanna hold my cock right now. I'm feeling a tad depressed right now.

 

Thanks!

 

Yes, but less and less as I've been through it so many times. It has taken a long while for Mrs Jay to really get on board, she's been a willing keyholder, which I am very grateful for, but we haven't always got the intimacy right, in those days in-between. That 3 to 5 day after orgasm drop particularly. I think she's felt that I should be better at riding it out, and we end up at odds at times. It's actually easier and I'm happier the longer I'm locked. As someone who uses chastity and denial to be submissive, rather than being submissive in the first place, maybe it's just more difficult that way. In the end, after several "Why the fuck am I putting up with this shit" moments, we both know, me more so, that I'm better locked. Overall, if I look at things objectively, away from those moments when I'm feeling down, I can really see an improvement in our connection. Yes, I get a lot less than I used to in our first 23 years if marriage, but the intensity of the encounters we do have are beautiful in a way I had never before encountered. Self growth is unavoidable when you can no longer wank your cares away. You don't have that crutch to lean on anymore, so if you are with a life partner who holds the key, you have to face up to your demons. Question is... Can you look at yourself and like who you see? If I look back at the selfish porn addicted wanker I was... No. I was probably heading toward divorce if I'm honest. If I look at who I am now... Yes, mostly. Room for improvement, for sure.
If I look at who I want to be... Yes. 100% Yes. I'm heading in the right direction. There is no way I'm heading to divorce. And, all because I can't play with myself.

It is a strange thing.

 

Can you remind me of this when I'm down. Lol

 

3 weeks, it does make me calmer, in a way.

 

Are you trying to reduce your porn watching? Oops, that was to @PornAddict103

 

Yes, I am... I'm playing more video games than porn vids when there's no chores or activities to do.

 

Sometimes, yes. Although I haven't had one in close to a year, I still remember how good they felt and at times it does make me sad knowing that my wife reserves that pleasure only for her. I do miss it, and sometimes feel sad or jealous.

 

More and more as time goes on, I have fewer episodes of sadness. It's been quite some time since I've had an orgasm, so I think the passage of time helps, as well as my advancing age. Sadness from chastity now is more related to restrictions on erections. (I wonder if this too will lessen?) What helps, for me, is that I remind myself that I gave myself to Mistress, and this is what she wants of me, so I do this for her. Even though there may be a little sadness at times, I have no regrets!

 

I do Solo-chastity but this does give me hope that my minor depression from missing my cock will pass with time. Thanks for sharing.

 

My sadness comes from not finding chastity cages sooner. Since locking up I have made improvement and my mental health got better.

While self locked, then only time my sadness comes, is if I do too.

My drop is bad. For years I didn't realize it, and then wouldn't admit it. But i am much better now a a result of lockup.

 

We’re on the same boat. Wish I had tried this years ago myself.

 

I gotta confess, I'm starting to feel like going nearly 2 months without jerking off at all is starting to weigh down on me... In all that time, I had 3 accidental ruined orgasms and ALOT of leaking between them. I'm always horny, constantly thinking sexual thoughts and just can't take my mind off of how much I wanna jerk off and get release. I told some friends here in CM that I'm gonna try for 3 full months, but this is getting harder with each passing week. I'm not in tears (yet), but I am starting to feel depressed that I can't have my cock. I'm sure it'll pass... But damn.

 

Thanks bro!