Self locked, looking for encouragement/tips.

I'm fortunate that Mrs. KyDave accepted my chastity a couple years ago. I had played with self locking for years before we got married but having an actual (loving) keyholder makes the whole experience so different than going solo. The mental "game" changes significantly.

From the placement of this thread I guess you're already familiar with some of the online services. I don't have any specific advice, but just wanted to encourage you to stay locked as long as you enjoy the challenge.

Well, actually, stay locked "just one more day." LOL. Good luck, and stay frustrated!

 

Hate to say this but self locking is a very different experience then being locked with a key holder. What you do is celibacy since you have no keyholder to have sex with often. Those of us with keyholders have sex quite a bit but just forgo orgasms for long or short periods of time. You will find it difficult to be both prisoner and warden since you control when you are a locked or not while the rest of us are dependent on a key holder to determine when we are unlocked and when we can orgasm.

I have been at this over 15 years and never saw a self locker last long since they are not experiencing chastity with a key holder and having sex with that person who determines when and if we can orgasm or just endure the regular sexual teasing. While I encourage you to try chastity on your own, I caution you that it is not the same as if you had a key holder so you will not have much in common with the majority of members here.

You may not like my reply but when you are are unlocked and your cage is sitting in a drawer never to be used again, you may say, hey that guy was right. Self locking is not the same experience that those of us with key holders have. I get sexually teased and have to please my wife sexually. She determines when and how I can orgsam, not me. I am at her mercy. You see chastity involves a power exchange between you and your key holder who has control over your penis and orgasms. You lack this important part of chastity that we experience. It is like into CBT and doing it yourself. Not the same as having a woman do it to you. Not at all.

 

What would you like encouragement/tips about?

 

Congratulations on hitting double figures, keep strong and your get to 15 no probs!

 

Do you hope your new keyholder will start the lock all over, or give you credit for the past 16 days? That's a hard choice, no?