The cage is assembled and locked and you are totally free for a month to get your rocks off as you please. Is this punishment or reward?
If I go just one day without my cage on, I'll revert back to my old jerking off habit and it'll get in the way of every day life, just like before chastity. I need my cage.
I would revert to old habits. Not good for me to be uncaged for more than an hour, if I'm lucky 30 minutes. I don't remember the last time I was out for a whole hour!
A few months back, I had to take the cage off for a few days to address a skin condition and I was back to jerking off full time in less than a day. So yeah, I need to stay locked up. I don't care how horny & frustrated I get or how much my cock shrinks over time. I'm much better off today than I was last year when I first locked myself up.
I love chastity but my wife has no interest. I do not lock to her knowlege sso by its very nature I only lock occasionally, I try and be in chastity at least once a day and enjoy self bondage in chastity when I can. I envy all of you who can lock and are locked on a regular basis or almost all the time. Strange world isn't it. I crave chastity but really would give almost anything for my wife to be my keyholder, sigh!
Being I'm locked by default and only out maybe a day a month in total. The idea of a month of no cage sounds great at face value. Have a feeling after a couple days I'd miss it though.
It's not going to happen anytime soon. Being uncaged would bring me right back to square one. And my Wife (KH) would never allow that to happen. My Wife will unlock me and allows me to masturbate for her, but I'm never allowed to have a orgasm. Then it back in the cage.
Back in February I decided to go to work without my cage on for just 3 or 4 days and I didn't feel comfortable without it... I felt like I was taking a risk by not having it on. That's when I accepted the fact that my cage was no longer a toy, but a necessity for me. When my first cage arrived in the mail, I was afraid to put it on at first, as I'm sure all of us were, but now I'm afraid to not have it on. If for whatever reason I have to stay unlocked for a full month, I'll probably panic. LOL. I don't intend to make my chastity permanent, but I have no reason and thus no plan to unlock myself for the foreseeable future, save for hygiene upkeep. But I like to do things 1 month at a time, so anything can happen.
I hear you here. My wife has no interest either. I lived being loved but self lock “fun” only goes so far and for so long. I enjoy self bondage while locked. You and I sound eerily similar. Stay locked!
I really dont understand these wives that wont at least take the key and hide it somewhere for their husbands. It may not be their thing which is fine but it really would take next to no effort on their part to do something nice for their husbands they are supposed to love. At its most basic key holding is a very easy and simple task. I feel sorry for you guys stuck in this situation. I have mixed feeling about a month free, I think I would enjoy if for a few days to a week then I would want to be locked again.
Absolutely punishment. If my cage remove I will return to my old habit to masturbate again and again and I will regrets after. I am on day 63 without any relief and I don’t want go back.
I'm not a masochist, for us the cage is part of our lifestyle but we're not dogmatic about it. I love being caged by her, but I also love being free, and since I have been caged more than free being free is a reward. She loves caging me, but she also loves me being free. So: 100% reward.
I used her definition of a punishment. She knows I like pleasing her, and if I do a great job competing any task she asks of me, my reward is usually more of the same. So long lockups are usually rewarded with extra days. But if I fall at something, I feel terrible and my punishment is normally an untimely end to the request, which reminds me that I was unable to do what she wanted.
My cage is a gift from my gorgeous wife, detailed how she liked it and worn with pride and love. I never want to take it off.
A little over 2 years ago, my Doctor had concerns about my weight gain and suggested a diet. As things go with news like this, I did absolutely nothing. I had a follow up visit and my wife had gone with me and the doctor was more concerned because I had gained 5 more pounds and my BP went up as well. During the lecture I received by the Doctor, my wife said nothing, that lasted until we got in the car. She didn't raise her voice but told me chastity and all other play activities were over until I lost 20 pound and we'll discuss next steps. Over time I lost 30 pound thru diet and lots of exercise and the Doctor was so happy my blood work improved told my wife she did a good job getting my health back on track. That night was the start of getting my cage back on and my weight has stayed the same. Talk about motivation.
I would call it a reward. Who doesn't look forward to having erections? If it wasn't a treat, why do we look forward to it when the cage is removed? So for me. It's clearly a nice thing, and removing it for a month would be one hell of a reward. My wife thinks of it the other way around. As a punishment. She knows I like pleasing her. If she told me 3 months and I couldn't do it and was struggling and complaining, she would end it early as a punishment. She would reinforce that I wasn't capable of pleasing her and she would give me a break and work on training me to do better next time with not gradual extensions of time. But if I went all 3 months super good, she'd know that I could do more and reward my commitment to her by extending it another few weeks. Praising me for how well I did and what I'm capable of. So the rewards look a lot like punishments at times. But she frames it as the opposite.