Going to see a ProDomme with my Lady

Is this really happening? I can't believe it.

My Lady and me had a bit of a rough time, me being pretty sick twice, with a PA that doesn't want to heal and on top of that a bike accident which left me with a heavy concussion (with helmet)

Fast forward to Friday. I ordered high quality take out and got a good bottle of wine. We connected, talked about a lot of stuff and tried to find out why our DOM/sub relationship had some major hiccups. After we were pretty much aligned I asked her if I can ask her a question. As she doesn't want to read about BDSM, Key Holding, FLR if she can imagine going to a Pro Domme with me and that we both get trained by said Domme.

She told me she has to think about it. But now a few days later the answer is yes. My lady impressed me and impressed me a lot. Now I have to make sure not to make any mistakes. I would like this to be about us and not about me getting off with a ProDomme. So I think I will make the first meeting discuss my wishes and then hopefully start some kind of training always in presence of my Lady.

 

Absolutely that is the plan, we wouldn't want it to backfire....

 

that is a very good question, thanks for asking.

The past months have been a disaster for me personally. At work, health wise and also in my D/s relation with my Lady. There were positives though. With all that happened in other years I might have gotten severely depressed but that thankfully didn't happen.

Some dark thoughts of me seeing a ProDomme came up because I was unhappy with our D/s relation but I very quickly figured that was stupid and would not help me nor my relationship to my wife. I want to share everything with her but also want to improve what we have.

A few months earlier I had contacted some Dommes to see if they would be willing to talk and assist her by phone or email but in the end I thought that would never work. Seeing how busy my Lady is with other things.

When I approached my Lady with the idea I gave it a 10% chance she would say yes and she did which proves that we are a very strong couple and that she is truly amazing.

Now I have to figure out a way that it will be pleasurable for both of us. For me it is no longer about one session but about the possibilities of knowledge transfer from the Domme to my lovely Lady. But as @L-u-c-y points out I have to be very careful that we don't overload her with stuff that is still beyond her comfort zone.

Even with the hiccups in our relationship I am still amazed how far we have come together. Non sexual and also sexual and that we found a way to communicate our needs and wants.

thanks , me too

I absolutely will.

 

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. Choosing a pro makes me nervous as there is very little on offer down here in Chile. Today I met one (only for a free talk) and while there were good signs I am not sure if it could work with her.

 

Thanks so much for sharing your insights @DonnaSue that is very helpful.

Interesting that now I am tasked with turning the fantasy into a reality I am learning that it isn't very easy . I made some progress though and will share when it materializes.

 

You won't find those in Chile, having a hard time finding a Domme

 

I will give a bit more details.. Hope I am not "spamming" or boring anyone as the big day is probably still far far away.

what i did so far.
I contacted 2 pro dommes. one of them has a fancy website. no history and her twitter started on june 1st of this year so this is a bit of a red flag. I also get pretty freaked out by terms like "hotwife" "paypig" etc.. She uses those. However the shortage of this profession down here is a big hindrance.

Second person a domme that advertises since many years but advertises both as massagist as well as a domme. She uses fake pictures but at least advertises as dom since 7 to 8 years. I went and talked to her and I am not 100% sure.

Then I posted a question in a local BDSM forum.. I got a very nice lady who responded in private telling me i wont find any professionals here. She is a sub in a marriage but acts as a domme outside of her marriage. She was extremely helpful and mentioned that perhaps once her sub is back from a trip the 4 of us can meet up for a "social session". That sounded very interesting even though I am not sure I know what it is. Dont know how my wife would react to it. So for now I guess I will rest a little, let it sink in and when the time is right have a discussion with my wife.

Most domme advertisments here seem to have fake images. For what I am looking for Germany, the UK or even the US would be a far better place to be in.

 

it wouldn't work for us for 2 reasons.
a) my wife who has a busy job and invests a lot of time in the kids has no interest going through those pretty tacky ads
b) there is not much choice down here.

I will have another romantic dinner on Friday and if possible without pushing will tell her about my week in this regard. Lets see how she reacts and what input she has.

 

in Santiago, capital of Chile.

Here I wrote a bit more....

the weirdest part is that the one with the fancy website didn't even answer the email...

 

thanks @LadyBlaze for your response. Getting the needs of both of us discussed is indeed an important topic.

that might be another option.. I agree that at least there is more choice and since both me and my Lady are bilingual at least language isn't an issue.

 

I want to thank everyone for their input.
My wife definately left me with my head spinning after agreeing to the "proDomme" however fantasy is often easier then reality.

It was a great week anyway with my investigation and I have found a great contact in the local scene. I am curious what my Lady will decide when I share some of my research with her, discuss needs and wants and show her some options for potential "counseling or training"

Will keep you updated!!