"Why do You insist on calling this a 'lifestyle dynamic' and not a 'lifestyle relationship'?"

Personally I have never hear it called a dynamic???
I've only ever heard of it as being called a lifestyle.
Not sure where you're getting this from.

 

I have heard both terms being used, and interchangeably. After reading your thoughts on the subject, I would say incorrectly as well. I agree with you.

Do you believe it is appropriate to say you have a relationship within a dynamic?

 

I think a 'dynamic' is not so much something that changes, but something between parts that interact continuously. This word is not so much about the changeable, although perhaps something changes or back again, but with the word dynamic you want the emphasis on something active in an interplay.

 

These things evolve, move forward, progress, good or bad things change. I doubt anyone here is doing the same things, or feel the same way now opposed to when they started.

People find what works for them, what doesn’t, within the relationship. That doesn’t waver, the dynamic changes.

 

Surely it’s simply because it’s standard to describe your coupling with your partner as the relationship. Using the same term for something similar is confusing, no?

 

Madam and I have always said we are in bdsm relationship or lifestyle, as bdsm is at our foundation. It’s not just a dynamic for us it’s who we are, and it’s how we have always been.

 

It's a valid point since they define 2 different things but I guess connected, in that the relationship is between the two people/parties and the dynamic describes activity, the interaction between those parties. The English language is being systematically destroyed... Don't get me started on "R U lokd"

 

It's lazy English to say "within our dynamic" when you mean "within the dynamics of our relationship" the first assumes you already understand you are referring to the relationship. Not a fan of shortening wrds either. But we do have to accept that language is pretty fluid, we don't use thee or thou much these days and our kids are using language in a different way than us, much as we did to our parents. The next generation always resists the change.

 

They're definitely not interchangable, the difference can be subtle but is important.

Wouldn't it be more correct to say the dynamic is within the relationship?
The relationship is the structure, the constant, the enduring, the dynamic is the actions that we do within that relationship, keeping it alive and interesting.

 

I very much enjoy! Reading your idea’, opinions and more.

 

Welcome! Appreciate your presence on this site. Have a fabulous day

 

Not sure about that, I think I might have read it wrong first time round.

 

Dynamic is also used as a noun: "a force or factor that controls or influences a process of growth, change, interaction, or activity : a dynamic force or factor"

So there you go, relationships can indeed have a dynamic present that influences the relationship. A keyholder enforcing chastity, or a dominatrix with a flogger, or a Dominant Wife with a paddle, in each case they are definitely controlling the activity within the relationship.

 

I quite like dynamic, although it does seem odd to apply it to the status of my penis which has very much been undynamic recently. Dynamic is realising we've gone 6 months without piv sex, that's new. A "special" night for me isn't teasing and stroking but ballbusting and pegging, that's kind of a new normal. Insistence on saying relationship, lifestyle etc. sometimes takes the fun out of it. It's a bit like, "respect my lifestyle, it's not just a kink it's my identity." I don't want people to know or accept it do what I do. I feel ashamed I'm not calling the shots and having regular sex like other males I know probably are. That's my secret and that's why I get turned on by it, although it still doesn't make sense to me that i do.

 

Lol