Hey, - just have had release after 24 days locked up ( supervised cleaning every day) , - so I have a clear mind to write for advice During those 24 days I received my custom made Steelworxx Steelheart with anatomic ring, integrated lock, and PA fixing. A wonderful piece all together - ( this is not a commercial- but I have tried several CBT's but this is it!) I have read so many times - Go get steel - and You will never turn back. Now I know there were right! There will be no turning back. Well, the thing is that with previous CBTs my wife used to lock them with a padlock with engraved : Owned by. etc..) - and that helped me mentally a lot in the initial phase of Chastity. With the integrated lock on the Steelheart ( have to post pictures on my profile, - and change my avatar to something more sophisticated by the way…) - there is no indication to whom I belong. One could say, that the very fact that my wife is the keyholder to an unbreakable CBT, - should do it, - but I need more then that. I believe this to be pretty basic with a lot of You CBT'ed guys? When we are in public, everything right now - is hidden below. We have agreed to wear fingerings - actually wedding rings - inside engraved with Owner of… and Owned by… respectively. I was instructed to order them yesterday - just prior to release - ( My wife has impeccable timing My ring is to NEVER come off. NEVER! Hers will be on must of the time. She's has told that when she wears the her owner-ring, - I have to closely monitor her finger when we are in public, - or around the kids. ( Yes, we have kids If she discretely turns her ring, I have to silence. If she is for any reason is not satisfied with my behavior, lack of service, having an opinion that she disapproves of, or anything else, - she just have to point at her ring, - and I have to obey, - or ask for instructions, - if her wishes should be somewhat unclear to me. If she can get away with it, - she still has intension of squeezing my loose balls hard, under the Steelheart CBT. That part I would not miss - lol!! I would like to hear from others - experiences from ways of taking the control outside of the bedroom and household. Any clever yet somewhat discrete ways of constantly being reminded of her ownership and control, and you submissiveness. Let me know! Sincerly BlueEyes
You ARE so welcome. I can't want for the rings to arrive It would Nice to hear from the outcome of your request to your Mistress. I am happy that my wife has evolved to this point in controlling me. It is afterall just 8 months since I brought up the idea of male chastity. Sincerely BlueEyes
I I Will ask her. She knows I have been seeking advice here and there. We only started this new lifestyle 8 months ago, and She has learned to Master and take advantage of her control and my submissiveness already, to a point I would not have thought possible only months back. May I - humble - ask why You stress out that she should become a member? Well , it is not for me to decide - so I Will on your request bring it up... Sincerly BlueEyes
To everyone: I apoligize for my insufficiente english skilles. I am from Denmark. Hope it Will not ruin the conversation Sincerly BlueEyes
I suggested it so she can look around and pick and choose the ideas she likes first hand as opposed to via you - otherwise it can easily turn into 'topping from the bottom'
I offered this ie to my Mistress, and her reply was "You'd be so confused.." She plays with her wedding ring set a LOT... I'd be getting, and respondinig to, false direction. LOL talk about confusuin!
Oh I see… Well - I should have been more clear in my posting. For Me it will replace my Wedding band she said - as a clear sign of change in my status, - and to her it will just be an additional ring. She will continue to wear her wedding band ( she still find it a beautiful piece), - as well as the morning gift I gave to her the day after our wedding, - along with this new token of her complete control over me… Three rings all together An I will have to pay attention only to the power-ring. Not so confusing - I hope I yes, - women likes to nurse and turn rings - lol! But, - I appreciate your feedback a lot. Thanks
I totally understand. Topping from the bottom is a turn-off, - and degrades the concept completely. We talked this over many times, i n the beginning, - whenever this "monster" surfaced. I my humble opinion I think she manage any tendencies in that direction with firmness and cleverness. Of course I will not impose ideas to her, unless of course she asks. Bare in mind that the both of us are relatively new to all of this. I only discovered my true submissiveness 8- 10 month ago. Having played in my mind for years, that's correct, - but we are still beginners. I don't see any wrongdoing in mutual guidance in the initial face, especially if the topfrombottom issue is on the table from the very start. Do You? But You are so right- and I have already asked her to look into this community, to be assured, inspired to discipline and control, and socialized with other Mistresses like yourself. I sincerely hope she will do just that, but I do not think that she will tell me right away. She requested to know my blogname: BlueEyes and password so that she can monitor anything I write or comment on in the future…. I like that a lot!! Sincerly BlueEyes
Thanks for your further remarks. I would not like her to take advice from me. The idea of wedding bands was an idea of her own, - initiated when surfaced the issue of not being marked in public,- and not having any discrete communication with her when we were in public. Please also see my reply to Mistress jemima, - and thanks again for your contribution to make sure that subs like me do not intentionally or unintentionally topfrombottom Sincerly BlueEyes
please Mr BlueEyes i not a Mistress. im just jemima. i was just saying what i did cos i don't wants you getting into trouble.
Sorry, - I only assumed but should have checked your profile and postings, - then of course I would have known. Silly me I still want to thank You for your care and concern. Sincerly BlueEyes
I thought she might enjoy it and pick up some ideas without needing you as a conduit. But of course it's her decision. So I just asked.
Funny - @Joroincharge - Am I all wrong here??? - I thought you asked this questions many months back - but now it appears to be from only yesterday. Weird;-) OK, Whatever.... @DREWife is certainly online here and doing great- on her own..
Yes I did and yes it was answered since, like last December. My apologies and pass the sack cloth & ashes. I had clean forgotten and had neglected to check the back posts! Best wishes to you and DRE.