From chastity play, to life in a cage. Evolution.

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    #1 Thatguyontheinternet, Jul 12, 2016
    @Thatgirl and I have had a ton of fun with chastity since we discovered it together nearly a year ago. But we've never been particularly "hardcore" about it. My lock ups are generally just a few days, we aren't into FLR outside of the bedroom and her control of what's inside my cage, she's never asked me to call her Mistress or anything like that, and she's got no interest whatsoever in femme / sissification.

    Until now she has given me very few rules. One of them was no looking at porn, or anything else meant to excite me. That was the rule I broke the other day, and that set off the events that prompted me to write this. @Thatgirl has never punished me really, other than maybe adding a day or two to my lock up. But this time I received a text from her while she was at work that said that she didn't feel I adequately understood my position, and that she intended to help me get it. She noted that because I am not naturally submissive, and am by nature stubborn and somewhat defiant, that planned to take control much more firmly, and notified me that real punishments were going to part of life now. This is all new, and caught me somewhat off guard.

    FIrst, she told me that I was to be waiting at the door on my knees, blindfolded and holding the leather whip in my mouth when she arrived home from work. I knew this meant she was going to spank me. I am not a pain lover and she knows that spanking would not be a "fun punishment" for me. But I was sure she would give me a couple of swats and that would be that. I was wrong. She didn't go all out, but she definitely got my attention. In that same message, she also told me to clean the house and have dinner ready. Again, this is all new territory.

    Second, after she was done giving those instructions and I went back to my day, our shared calendar on my phone chimed with a new event. "unlock thatguyontheinternet" (it said my name of course). But the date made my heart skip a beat. It is 13 days from my last release a couple of days ago. That doesn't seam like a lot, but my previous longest stint in lock up is 10 days, and that was a while ago. I texted her: "really??!!" She simply said "yes", and then added that she was not going to make the next two weeks easy on me either.

    Third, after she got home and administered my punishment, she informed me that from now on I would answer any questions with "ma'am". Again, this all likely seams bland to man of you, but it was out of left field for me, and a total departure from the way we have lived chastity thus far. @Thatgirl intended to forcibly teach me how to submit, and what that means, and has said calling her by a name other than hers will also help her stay firm. I got a little nervous.

    Lastly, before leaving for work the next morning (today), she instructed me to bend over the bed, and proceeded to spank me with her hairbrush, and explained while doing so that for the near future at least, this would be a morning ritual. She then took me to the bathroom and installed the longer criss-cross pin in my Jailbird and informed me that when not in her presence I would be wearing that from now on to help me avoid doing things to purposely arouse myself. Once she got to work, she instructed me to create this post as well, wanting to make sure I had to really think about the changes she is making, and where I stand. My place.

    So the last day appears to have marked a major shift In how we live chastity. While I am sure @Thatgirl intends to make sure it remains fun, she made it clear that she will be taking advantage of all the tools at her disposal to help change any number of behaviors (texting and driving came up). It seems out of nowhere to me, and yet oddly welcome. For the first time since very early on I am nervous / excited for what she may have planned for me when she gets home, or that day, or week, or whatever. And, also for the first time, I am genuinely nervous about the consequences for not following instructions. At least somewhat nervous anyway. There's an undeniable appeal to the forcefulness she showed in her entire response to my infraction. But I know myself, and I know I push back by nature, almost subconsciously, so it may be a somewhat difficult (painful) road for me. @Thatgirl knows this, and simply said that regardless of how difficult it will be for me, or how hard she'll need to punish me, she plans to enjoy it thoroughly, and that's all I need to worry about. And it's true, keeping her happy has always been my goal, cage or no cage. Just now she gets to use the cage to better direct how I keep her happy.

    So what about anyone else? Did your chastity play evolve like this? Into something more than just play, that becomes a test of sorts?
     
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    #2 Rider9, Jul 12, 2016
    My GF and I were kinky from the day we met. A lot of experimenting and different plays. But she is also dominant only in our bedroom.
    Chastity was just like the rest of fetishes. On and off for ocasional play. But after our first baby arrived 2 years ago things started to change. Sex was starting to get less important for her and my time locked was getting longer and longer.
    We bought MM Jailbird this april and I have been locked everyday since. She unlockes me almost every or every other sunday and we have sex, so I have nothing to complain about.
    We are expecting 2nd baby this year. We'll see how things will go from there...
     
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    #3 Jasmic68, Jul 12, 2016
    Yes. My chastity 'play' stopped being a game remarkably quickly and became my life. Our life. When we started the experimentation stage of chastity my Wife stated quite firmly that this was not going to be a 24/7 thing and for her to be involved it had to be fun. We recently discussed where we had got to and she admitted that it has very definitely become 24/7 and yes, she is very much having fun.

    The moment it changed happened when my Wife realised how much fun she was having with my reactions to her assertive domination of me, usually in the shower, after two to three weeks of being denied an orgasm. The shortest period I have gone in the last six weeks is five weeks and just recently it has been much longer. This is because she sees how the smallest thing from her, for instance a brush of her clothed breast against my arm while we are in a shop, has me trembling and weak at the knees.

    She has not reached a stage that you describe, of introducing punishments, but it is something we have discussed, just a few days ago. When I asked her what did she think was the worst thing she could do to me her reply was to make me masturbate on my own. She knows that this would reset my chastity clock and it would take three weeks or so before I got my 'fizz' back again. This would indeed be a punishment. She has reprogrammed me to see something I used to do for pleasure to now be a punishment.

    It very much is a test. I never felt the need to write about our lives before chastity, but this is as much in the brain and attitude of the participants as it is in our desires. Now I keep an almost daily journal, at the very least a weekly one. It is much more than just sex, we are doing more than just acting a scene. Both of us have talked about how we are being rewired. My Wife is becoming more assertive but is also showing me much more attention. She has realised that even small aknowledgements of what we are doing pays huge dividends. For my part I am becoming much more supportive as well as openly submissive to her. She absolutely loves the way I actively look for ways to please her and how I am using my initiative.

    There is no way back. This year has seen her become more sexual and feel more sexy. Neither of us want to go back to how things were before we locked my penis up.
     
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    #4 CagedAnimal2, Jul 12, 2016
    Great update! Good luck and better behave!
     
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    #5 CagedAnimal2, Jul 12, 2016
    Great update! Good luck and better behave!
     
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    #6 Thatgirl, Jul 19, 2016
    My locked love...I want you to read this again as a reminder - it has been a week since you wrote it.
     
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    #7 Jasmic68, Jul 20, 2016
    Bugger. I just read my own post and realised a made a silly typo. I wrote that the shortest period in the last six weeks that I had been locked up was five weeks. Der! Obviously I meant the shortest period in the past six months.

    How is the punishment regime going?
     
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    #8 harddenial, Jul 20, 2016
    We started off with male orgasm denial. I always made sure she came first but then I became aware that sometimes it seemed a chore for her to finish me off. So we started missing my orgasm quite often and that morphed into playing with chastity devices (I started with a CB3000 like many others). She hated the aesthetics of that and she chose my first metal cage for me. Now I have a much smaller JB which completely prevents erections. Over these several years many difficult things have happened that have subtly changed us both and this has combined with the chastity play to make it more a lifestyle where she is indeed happy to really test my limits. At first glance it's a surprising change, but not so much when you consider she has been mentally toughened up by life. Neither of us would ever use any form of physical punishment on the other, however mild, but she is happy to say "this is what you wanted, and still want, so let's see how far you can go." From her point of view 24/7 chastity is a win-win situation and she is no longer sentimental enough to worry about it being so.[/user]
     
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