hello, I'm sure some of us in here have had this issue before but I believe mine is a little unique. I will preface this dilemma by stating that the only reason I got into chastity was to control my excessive masturbation (3-5 times a day). And I found an online key holder who was able to hold the keys so I couldn't cheat and just take the belt off. Well now that I've found a gf the belt has come off so as to not immediately scare her away...and I'm back to my old habits but maybe only 2-3 a day. And inherently that effects your sex life and performance in bed. So I'm seeking advice on how to break the news that I'm into chastity to a significant other....I enjoy being locked up but i also think this would be to her benefit as well. I'm A little concerned on how it will go because to date she hasnt really showed me a kinky side. Any input or comments would be greatly appreciated.
First thing to do is explain situation to online KH. You will probably need a short timeout while you see what gf thnks of the idea: she MIGHT like the idea and become KH herself. Or she might not. Wait till you get her reaction and then take things from there.
Already explained the situation to the online KH. That's how I got the keys back (after some voracious questioning and ample proof I actually found a gf and wasn't lieng) lol. I would be more afraid of it being a relationship harming issue. The idea of controlling someone's cock is a heck of a thing to someone who is pretty bland and straight forward.
Just approach her whenever you aren't engaged in a sexual situation. Be honest with her that you have a problem and that a solution to your problem is wearing a chastity belt that she has the keys to. If she truly loves you then she will help you with your situation.
Why don't you just self lock for now? Get a box with a timer and make sure you are locked up when she isn't around?
I do that. In fact I'm doing that right now. The problem is that I don't have a good way to determine when she is coming back so a timer won't do it for me. She loves to just pop in. But i can't have the keys anywhere near me because I'll be honest I lack the will power to not cheat. That's why I got POI so I can't pull out and mailed the keys away. I went away for this weekend and left the keys at home.
You need to tell her in a calm and honest way, and to do it as already suggested, in a non sexual environment. Has your relationship already become sexual? If it hasn't then it might be good to leave it until you are sure of how into sex she actually is. If she is already adventurous then chastity shouldn't come as a shock. As for the telling her, then if you explain why you are doing it that should help. Yes, it is something you enjoy, but you are trying to control your masturbation habit. The calmer you are during this discussion the better chance you have of getting it across. There is a lot of advice out there including a book written by @Mistress Jules about how to introduce to your partner. The main thing to realise is you are used to the idea of chastity but she isn't.
Thanks everyone for the advice. I ballsed up and told her about it. She snatched the keys and said "we'll fix this fucking problem".....oh boy.....
We will see what she has no store for me. The 6000s fits me literally like it was made for me if you can't see from my profile pic. I forget I'm wearing it usually. So long as I don't split it...
The rewards of an open and honest relationship are better than anything! Once you have that, all other things fall into their proper place.
That was quick. I was going to suggest taking a break from chastity until you're both comfortable enough that it wouldn't seem so weird.
From what I've read on CM and elsewhere, women are more pissed at being lied to and not told the whole truth than they are about coming forward with a truthful plea for help. I think that you have done the right thing and now, will see what She has in store for you. I guess that this is another of these "Be careful what you ask for" situations, eh? Please keep us updated.
I'm happy for the both of you. I have met my wife online in a BDSM related site. She told me on our first chat that chastity is non negotiable if we are to move forward. She was very pleased to learn that I already own a device.....
I've thought about getting the thinnest vacuum tube used for penis pumping and putting a silicone sheath over that after vacuum is applied to tube. Being on hormones, my penis isn't always guaranteed to be very firm so it would allow me to give my GF/KH a good servicing..
Too bad you can't get a RFID proximity detector that would unlock the key when she gets close enough. Then you could go the the restroom and unlock.
Sorry it has been a while since an update. Things have progressed quickly. I haven't been allowed any penis stimulation since that day and I am only allowed out to clean and it's under supervision. She recently told me I wouldn't be getting off again until she feels like I've forgotten what orgasm feels like...and that it likely won't be a pleasant scenario for me when I do get off. She gets ger sexual satisfaction daily though...