Do you really know why you like chastity on a deeper level?

I often read that that guys like this or that sexual fetish because it arouses them but really nothing as to why it arouses them. For instance I know that I like being sexually submissive, especially S&M, as it is a vacation from my stressful day and depression which I am treated for. When being whipped you are not thinking about anything but the pain. I also find shooting to be stress relieving because a gun is dangerous and requires you undivided and full attention.

My masochism comes from being slapped very hard when I grabbed my first pair of boobs when I was 13. That night I masturbated to that thought and did so every time I masturbated. I still think of that girl still. However over time what that girl did to me got more and more extreme until she became my dominatrix. Here is the fantastically great part. Without going into details, I ended up marrying that girl's best friend and did not know they were friends at the time we met and got engaged. We got engaged three weeks after we met so I never met any of her friends.

Long story short is that my wife asked her friend to have sex with me for two reasons, three reasons really as we found out later. She could not handle my high libido and was not into BDSM which I was into just coming off a BDSM cuckolding relationship. Her girlfriend was so eager to have sex with me that her thighs were soaked. After sex I invited my wife to join in and that is when she learned that all the previous threesomes she arranged were due to repressing her bisexuality and living it through me. End of story is that her girlfriend moved in with us, was in our life for 30 years and became the sadist to my masochist. How often does someone end up with the person responsible for their fetish?

Chastity appeals to be on two levels. There is the sexual submission of giving control of my penis and orgasms to my wife. There is also a masochistic element to it. The punishment of of orgasm denial after spending my life in orgasm seeking behavior, like wife sharing, swinging and threesomes. The orgasm denial and teasing appeals to my sexual masochistic needs. The third reason is that without her girlfriend, my wife's libido decreased and I was getting frustrated in having sex once or twice a month. Chastity turned that frustration into a fun sex game simply by locking my penis up and ended up with my wife wanting sex once or twice a week and having the best orgasms of her life.

So I know why I am into chastity on a deeper level than just that it arouses me. It is like guys into cuckolding telling me that they do it because it turns them on without knowing why it turns them on. I tend to look deeper to find the cause for my emotions. I am sure that many of you know why you really are into chastity on a deeper level and let's hear about it. We all too often read about wanting to be more obedient, a better husband or that their wives are deserving of being worshiped and they are not. How often have you seen the same list of reasons given that almost match perfectly the reason you find on any chastity blog? So what is the deep down reason you are into chastity? Why does it arouse you? Why do you think women are superior or more deserving of pleasure than men, if that is what you think? In other words, tell us the why of your like/arousal of chastity. We probably all have different stories and reasons dating back to our childhood as mine is.