Sissy Lifestyle - Thoughts/Ideas?

Wow - what an awesome first post!

I think that is a great start to a contract, and as with all contracts it will grow and evolve over time.

Gor.... a term I haven't heard for ages! I used to spend HOURS in the Gorean chat rooms when I first found out about D/s. I was a sub then!

Welcome to the site!

 

Welcome to the Mansion sissy kiki. That's quite the list for a little sissy to start out with. A few weeks of that will suppress any male behaviors quite nicely.

 

Well that's quite a list nickcu. I do hope you can fulfill them all without any punishment. You do want to stay all sweet and demure don't you? Your list didn't mention what happens if you don't follow the rules? Should there be some kind of punishment or further humiliations in store for you?

Maybe you need to expose what are your most vulnerable humiliations that she could use as punishments - or rewards (since it probably turns you on). Gosh this stuff can be confusing!

 

Most newbies are overly concerned with rewards and punishment. There is something very attractive about the dynamic that rewards and punishments suggests and if you are into role playing the dynamic has its uses. but for long term serious power exchange I think that punishments should come often and randomly, at the whim of the Mistress. The fact that the punishment is random and arbitrary serves to reinforce the total power that you Mistress has over you. Any attention from your Mistress is your reward, whether it is a caress or a flogging. If she is adept enough in giving you punishment is will eventually be as much or more of a reward than a caress, an orgasm or massage. So, if it were my contract I would add that Mistress may punish her sissy in any way and at any time she sees fit- she needs no reason. Also I would add that sissy is to receive no rewards for good behavior- only whatever attention Mistress decides to give her either harsh or soft. Studies I have read from time to time suggest that conditioning is more successful when given randomly. And don't forget that the punishment (if done well) is a reward.
If the reward and punishment game is important to you both, you could include a provision for role play but I would avoid making role play the central feature of your D/s relationship, unless you're just talking about kinky weekend fun.

 

i long for the day when punishment can be immediate, when Mistress has Her paddle handy at all times. unfortunately W/we live with 3 young adults so W/we are rarely alone. W/we have a date night every week on Friday, Saturday or Sunday...that's when i get punished based on what's been added to my book of transgressions during the week.

 

It might work that way, but why set up a situation where there is conflict between the Mistress and the sub? IMHO the sooner the sub submits completely the sooner the actual power exchange occurs. And the sooner you let go of all power the sooner you will experience the thrill of subspace with no boundaries other than those imposed by your Mistress. If your Mistress wants the role play in order to practice punishing you and maybe using your "transgressions" to alleviate guilty feelings about giving pain, then that's another matter. Many young Dommes have to go through a stage where they overcome feelings of guilt in giving pain. It's not until they realize how much pleasure and bliss they are giving that they relax and enjoy their own power over their sub.

 

sissy kiki,

Looks like its been 4 weeks since your original post. Like me, I'm sure there are others who would like to know how its going so far. That was one heck of a list to start with. Did it ever happen, or was that too much initally?

I always like to hear of other wives who take control of their husbands.

Mistress Karen

 

As a sissy, i have some rules Women i've served have required of me so this seems like a place to share them.
i am to be as lady like as possible, what females do, i must do. what females see as guy stuff or behavior, i am to avoid.
A sissy admits and fully knows she is not a full grown up and sex is something between a woman and a man or between two women as equals.
A sissy belongs in and wears feminine panties, bras and frilly items, some far to femme for real grown up women, and a sissy is not ever allowed boys undies, those are designed for men with cocks & balls to offer a woman, something a sissy doesn't have nor can never offer to a real woman.
A sissy is always dressing femme at home and when appropriate, or as ordered.
Exposure to others is a function of a woman's whim, and a sissy must be proud to be shown or displayed to others by a woman, even if shy.
a sissy is told when there is to be sex, not ever to ask for it. A sissy's sex organs are their mouth, fingers, tongue and bottom.
i am to refer to my sissy parts and reactions in feminine ways, clittie, silly sissy wee-wee, pussy, sissy cunt, sissy cunt cream, etc.
A sissy doesn't cum like a gown-up does, she wets her panties when excited, makes sissy dribbles or makes a "silly sissy creamie," referred to as a "creamie" or a "silly." Sometimes a sissy is ordered to beg to make a "silly" for the amusement of women.
i am to support a woman in any way she wants, to listen to her like her best GF, or to help her shop for anything from food or personal items, hygiene items or to buy sexy items for her dates, with either men or other women, and to assist her in her dressing and grooming, or a massage or brushing/combing her hair. i am to wait for her to call or her return, to to listen to whatever she wants to share with me. A sissy must never challenge nor argue, a sissy is an extension of her will.
If a sissy falls in love with the woman she serves, the woman is under no obligation to return that love, it is expected that sissies will love as a one way street or may the woman will see her sissy as a beloved pet, but not actually anything like or similar to a real adult.
i have been told people who wear panties pee sitting down and wipe lady-like when done and wash their hands afterwards.Sissies make "sissy tinkles," and must ask and be granted permission to make "sissy tinkles" like a good sissy girl.
When in public, a sissy must ask her owner is she can use the little girls room or the little sissies room.
As a sissy i have been trained and has a duty to pamper and serve a woman. Often, a sissy must serve a woman when she needs relief, with her mouth fingers or vibe/dildo. She a woman needs to pee, a sissy undresses her, and makes sure she is comfortably seated and waits and wipes her after she pees and helps her redress.