Let's say a guy is in chastity (for arguments sake say with a PA fitting) and his KH wishes him to be locked permanently. For him to never use his penis again sexually. Now the said guy wants out but the KH doesnt. How do people stand on keeping him locked or releasing him? Does it depend on anything like his path to being locked?
Chastity play is just that - play. It's a mutual consent game, with one partner willingly giving up 'control'. But only to a point. Does a KH have the 'right' to pour acid in the eyes of her 'slave'? Sell his kidney? Hobble him on purpose (a la 'Misery')? Of course not. Nobody has the right to force you into something you really don't want to do. Most chastity devices are easy enough to open with a hacksaw or bolt cutters. As long as the guy is happy to consent to give up control. he should stay locked. Should he not, he is a free human being, with the right to refuse.
When anyone says a PA is the only escape proof chastity device, what they are meaning is that it is impossible to escape without the KH knowing. Any device can easily be removed with some skill and a cordless drill to disable the lock. Chastity requires consent on both sides. You can end it and then deal with the issues it creates in the relationship from that point. I had developed a solid foundation with my wife over 26 years, before we took up chastity a year ago. It revitalized the feelings we had for each other from our youth. Permanent chastity to us is not locking it away forever, but locking it away until she wants to play with it... Not me. My path to being locked was that I played with it more than I did her! Not anymore... Good luck!
It depends. If this is a FLR and he has given up leadership to her and is committed to the relationship, then he has no say. If she wants him locked then he is locked end of discussion. If she wants something sexually, then he gives it, whether it be his chastity, sissification, forced homosexuality, or whatever. If he loves her and has truley given the control of their sexual life to her then it is up to her. If this is not a FLR then presumably he can just take control of himself. There is no chastity device that cannot be cut off in 30 minutes, and a lot less for most. How the relationship develops after that is up to both to work out. I would point you towards an amazing tumblr called The Titan Barbarossa. Both had worked on the fringes of the East coast porn scene so sex outside the relationship is not an issue. He had been Dom but wasnt so good at it, and now (oh boy) it is her turn. And she is running things the way she sees fit. It's a great read.
A lot depends on if this is a hypothetical question or real life. Real life technically to cage a boys bits against his will is assult . If this is real life but just taking things bit further then you are on a thin deviding line when it comes to the relationship. That question is very much depending on the people involved , and probably how things are at the time. However as had been said chastity is for fun not something for the device court. Oh that's odd was supposed to be divorce court ! If this is just a topic for fun then just lock the boy up.
Just to clarify, to cage a boys bits against his will is almost impossible. He'd either need to be heavily restrained or unconscious, and I imagine the assault would be more than just caging his bits. If he was locked with his agreement, but then wanted unlocked and the party with the keys didnt agree - is that an offence? I'm not so sure. If it was with a padlock and he could cut the padlock, then probably no offence. If it had an internal lock then I'm not so sure, I think that could be an offence. CAn I ask though, is this just background for a story or is this you?
@richard I think you are confusing fantasy and reality Nobody gets locked up for ever without their consent. Well, not yet.
LMAO Agree Mistress B..... If he wants out, Let him out. Make sure he understand when you do, that it is all over. He should never ask for chastity or anything related to it again. H wants to be sub when he feels like it. It doesn;t work that way...
If he really needs out then you need to release him. However, I would make it very clear that if it's removed for no real reason then the game is over and the thing will go in the trash.
I agree with all the above. If he wants out he can easily remove the device, it just means he does not want to play anymore. And all you can do is threaten not to play with him if he does remove it. The only exception to this is if you are part of the American military and you both are located at Guantanamo Bay, in which case you can do what you like. Dianne
And that is often exactly the answer the sub needs to hear, to refuel his commitment! I am as some would know - permanently denied. Is is something she has decided on her own? NO, -she has read my signals so very well, and she knows that this is how I feel free - to focus on pleasing her. I find pride in giving up O's for her, still I am grateful that I'm not neglected, -still I'm grateful that she balance her powers so flawless... If she was not fair, or if I was totally neglected ( just for the record: neglected has nothing to do with being denied) it could be a dealbreaker, and we both know that. That is a cornerstone in our commitment to this lifestyle. This lifestyle is about bringing us closer together, not to see us drift apart.... It is about being much more focused on our partnership, it is about awareness of individual needs and turn ons..., and it is about trust and love.
It was a hypothetical question as opposed to reality/fantasy. Just thought it would be interesting to raise and see opinions/thoughts on the matter.
i am lock in cb3000 full time over year now i am wifes sissy husband now if he wants out of it and not lock anymore he should sit talk and if his wife agress to let him out for day and then lock up fine if she says unlcok and no more sissy hubby slave what ever then he needs to choose what he wants me i dont think i will ever be unlock by choice and by wife
of course if someone want out that is fine, but his wife want out of the marriage or if she did more want any physical contact with her husband that would be fine also. So all depends on which side you are coming from. (no pun intended).
I am into my seventh month of chastity, prior to this I had no experience beyond simply being denied sex. At about the two and half month I started having real doubts and wanted out of chastity. However my wonderful Miss coached me through this time, reminding me it was my desire to please her and at my request she had purchased the cage to further this. Miss also provided me with distraction when she saw it was required and encouraged me to keep going. I am now thankful of her help, assurance and positive mind frame and would not have it any way else. That is not to say things may change in the future and I know she will always take my sanity and emotional welfare into account.