So my wife is gone on a business trip for a week. Of course I'm left locked in a Lori's cage. Open cage with an A ring, secured with a PA. I was horny as hell last night (she has ordered me to be naked anytime I'm home alone or after the kids go to sleep) and I got the magic wand out and started messing around. I found just the right spot on the underside of the cage and bam, I cum. I suppose you could call it ruined because I wasn't erect, but it sure felt good. But I'm terrified about telling my wife. She is pretty strict with me about orgasms. But I love and respect her too much to not tell her. I have couple of days to figure out how to tell her.
Well, if you are going to rat yourself out, I believe I would use the magic wand as much as I could before she gets back. It may be your last chance to cum.
I quickly found that our vibrator much like yours would give me too much pleasure and had to tell my wife. We make sure that everything is locked up that can give a strong enough vibration to take me over the edge. I need to know I don't have the ability because I get weak also. Like NsToy suggested, I have seen many used a padlock on the plug. It's a great idea because still visible but unable to use. lol
Just tell the truth. I was aware of using a vibrator to orgasm from day one and yet I never did. We lasted as long as we did not because of the cage but rather the promise we made. If you cannot keep your promise, you will find it tough going for long term chastity play. Nothing you can do now but tell her what happened and promise to never do that again. If your wife loves and respects you as you do her, it should be alright. I once told my wife that I had sex with a model in town on a photoshoot and all that she said is to not do that again. I do not think she would do worse if I masturbated when I promised not to. Since we do not use sex as currency in our 45 years of marriage, what I do is not going to affect much unless I kept breaking the promise. The worse thing that my wife can do is to give me the keys back and stop playing chastity with me. Why naked when home? Is that a punishment or humiliation? I am naked as much as I can at home and it is not a sexual thing either, just comfort during tropical summers which last 11 months. If I had kids, asleep or not, I do not know if I could engage in any fetish games when they were home. I can still remember when I heard my parents have sex and tried to bust down their door to stop my dad from hurting my mom. Funny now but back then I would have beat him with a bat. Need to be careful around kids. Could scar them for life. I think my longtime interest in S&M started that night.
In my personal experience, she would be more upset with the fib. What is all this for if you can’t be open. She didn’t even know about chastity before we met, and although this means a great deal to her, it means nothing if I am sneaky and lying. That doesn’t mean she will be perfectly ok with it or not have consequences, but this way she still trusts you, and gives all of this a purpose. She once told me when we first started that if I did something like that she would just hand the key back...why am I doing this if you are going to cheat. But now we have evolved past her just quitting, and she said that it would more than likely involve a very extended lockup along with some punishment. Either way it would depend on my honesty and her ability to trust me. So if it were me I would tell the truth, you wanted to edge while she was away and it went too far and you’re sorry. No sense making a playful mistake and turning it into something that could damage your relationship.
Your not the only one to have been in a situation like this. Be up front and Honest, if you are sorry for what you did make sure she knows it. What ever punishment she decides to give you except it willingly and thank her for correcting you. These moments can go along way to building a strong relationship.
I don't think you screwed up and what you do on your time is YOUR business. I know that goes against the grain on this forum but you didn't unlock you the letter of the law was obeyed. Your relationship-your business but did she tell you every single daily detail of her trip. Its just life and there isn't any reason she needs to be part of what you do when she isn't there to fulfill her "obligation". If you want to be punished fine, otherwise just let it go.
I know what you're going through, been there and done that. Historically my problem was that my wife refused to engage in any tease and denial or edging play. As a result I started edging myself. I would do this with the wand and it was one of those things that worked for us. One day, ironically only a day or two after a release and orgasm I decided to go beyond edging myself and kept the wand on and gave myself a really powerful orgasm. I agree whole heartedly with the people that are telling you to be honest. You've disrespected your KH with one violation, don't make it worse by covering up. My wife was pissed and just her anger and threats were enough to cure me of going near the thing for a month. Eventually though for the same reasons I went back to edging myself. While I never did a full orgasm again, I did go a little too far on several occasions and ended up with ruined orgasms of varying strength. Ultimately in one of our communication sessions she expressed her displeasure with this set-up. This was one of the things that lead us to formalize a "recommended" stroke count for certain activities. Edging myself costs me 10 strokes, doing so with a ruined orgasm 15 strokes and a full orgasm 25 strokes and/or icy hot on the balls. She has never done icy hot on the balls and just the threat of it scares the crap out of me. Since we came up with this list I have gotten nowhere near a ruined or real orgasm. I have edged myself on occasion. Usually if she goes easy on me on punishment day I think "hell, 10 strokes isn't so bad". She gets mad when she see's it on the list though, so usually the next punishment sucks. Still my use of it is way down. With her recent embrace of tease and denial all of a sudden I'm hoping to kick the habit completely. Be honest with her. Tell her you were wrong and you'll accept whatever consequences she decides are appropriate. This doesn't need to be armageddon, but it's serious and should be handled that way.
I've made up my mind about what I'm going to do. I really just can't tell her in person. So I'm going to write it down. But also, when she is less than an hour from the house I'm going to tie myself naked spread eagled (using bondage webbing tie downs), blindfolded and gagged with the keys in the other room. I'll leave the note next to me. I'll let her decide what she wants to do to me.
You make a good point. Most people assume a FLR type relationship but how ever their relationship is is up to them. We also shouldn't keep things from our partners even Masturbation. Him or Her.
I don;t require BF to volunteer anything, but if I ask him, I expect him to tell me the truth. He never erases the history on his computer, so, when I've looked after I asked him, his story has always checked out. There' s one exception to this, though. If I ask him before I go on his computer and check, if he admits to looking at pornography (and it's assumed he's masturbated), he still gets a spanking or chastity but only one or the other. If I find something on his computer, I can look for more, or just bring the one thing to his attention. If I bring just one thing to his attention, he can confess to other occasions. Of course, the more times he looks at pornography, the more severe his punishment, but, he gets only the spanking or chastity, not both. I can, of course, simply decide I'm going to check everything and give him both, but sometimes I just like to listen to him confess. If he confesses to disobeying me on looking at pornography, I often let him choose the spanking or chastity, but not always. If he chooses the spanking, I make him dress in his disciplinary lingerie and dress then he has to select an implement and ask me to use it on him. Sometimes I make him beg me to use it on him after he's asked. Sometimes, I say I'll give him the spanking, but not with that implement and he has to bring me a different one. I iike to make him bring a couple of different ones and ask me to use them on him before I say I'll use one. Usually, he brings the Brown Spanking Paddle last, and that's one I like to use a lot. It sends a powerful message that I don't approve of masturbation or pornography. He says he hasn't masturbated without pornographic aids since junior high school. He's always been honest with me, so I believe him. Sometimes, he's volunteered information about his disobedience to me. If he's working in the field, he cant wear his device to work. It's against the rules, he says and he's showed me the rules and they list certain things he can't have and some general descriptions of other things. The chastity device fits a couple of those descriptions. One time, we were just watching a TV show and just talking about sneaking things and how you really don't get much out of it, sometimes, He agreed with me and told me one time when I had him in chastity but he was working in the field, so he didn't have his cage on at the job, he bought a Penthouse from the 7/11 and ran into a bathroom to masturbate and he really didn't get as much out of it as he usually did. I asked him if he still had it, and he said it was in his truck, which was at the job. I told him to bring the Penthouse home on Friday, which he did. Needless to say, he was dressed up in front of my best friend, stripped down and his bottom set on fire. He had to do a supervised masturbation and eat his ejaculate,in front of her, too. Finally, I made him tear it up while I swatted his behind with a leather paddle then I gave him a final tawsing and long corner time in 6" heels.
You should send the Lori's back to Chastity tube and have the underside of the device filled in. Our 5A has only slots in the top for cleaning. The filled in area adds weight but prevent any form of feeling in those sensitive spots.
Sorry for the delay. Been busy with work and the kids. She came home and I hear her pick up the note and drop it. She didn’t touch me for an hour or more. She took a shower and left the room for a while. Honestly, that was the worse punishment. Being left alone. She came back and said “So, you want to be punished.” I was gagged so I could just mummph “uh um”. She whipped the shit out of me. I really didn’t like it. Then she released me only to let me urinate and then she cuffed my hands behind me and my legs together and made me sleep on the floor like that. Honestly, I have no desire to even touch that vibrator ever again.
Why were you even touching "her" property? Oh my but you are in for it....silly boy...I hope your O was worth it! I have thought about trying to cum got so excited I was literally writhing in bed....but no...no....no....I don't think I would ever do what you did. Did you ask her permission.....I bet no! You let her and yourself down. There are people in this community that haven't cum for years....you better tell her and be so sorry and accept anything she says....but I bet she is dissapointed. You should get a KT device.......
so sorry, I should have scrolled down and read this......I bet in a strange way you feel relieved and less guilty now she ha punished you. If ever you get so aroused and you think you may do something then talk to one of us.....believe it or not we are all in the same boat as to say!
Yes, even though the whipping was way past my sexual limit, I feel better for being honest with her. I think it bothered her hitting me so hard, which even made me feel worse that I put her in that position.