So my man had to come out of his cage for Loctober. He was complaining about pain and tenderness. What punishments should be giving for not making it the whole month. We had another game going on with weight loss, he was weighted every Friday, depending on the results determined a reward or longer chastity time. Need suggestions please #notlockedlongenough
Just my opinion, but I don't think anyone should be punished for something like this. Maybe they can make it up to you for not meeting the expectation. Don't beat the poor guy up, he clearly wasn't prepped for the month given his complaints... From the sounds of it the guy doesn't wear 24/7, maybe he would be up for doing a No-Nut-November with a lot of teasing and pleasuring on your end with some humiliating tasks. Just don't hold this over his head.
I would second @King Hippo to be honest. Punishments for being a whiney git that just wants to come are fair enough, if he's getting sores and/or is in genuine pain that's a good enough reason for a break imo. How long have his previous lock-up been?
Weight loss and chastity can be very powerful! Maybe set some targets. Sports on weekly schedule. Tracking his performance. Targets for weight loss and thereby release. Maybe a long term goal and weekly goals. Only earning an orgasm by losing 1, 5 or more kg depending on your intervals and realistic goals. I know it can be really motivating. And maybe flip it around. Punish him with the idea that is only allowed to wear his cage by reaching a goal of weight loss. That will be true dedication. Maybe combining with a realistic date; you have to reach XX amount of weight loss before XX date otherwise chastity is over or long term lock up or... Or if he has to loose 5 kg of weight, start with 50 ounces and punish him weekly with 50 cane strokes minus the ounces he lost. Till he reach his goal... So many opportunities! Have fun!
From reading her profile.... "My husband and I have dabbled in chasity, a day here and there. Last week I held strong and kept him locked for 7 days straight. Sunday morning he couldn't take it any more so I released the beast. He said it was the best sex he's ever had! Nice! Need to lock him up more and for longer." So yeah, doing 1 month from that might be a stretch.
If he has consented to an flr and chastity its not really about his wishes. If his kh wants him locked that is absolutly her right. She has unlocked him due to medical reasons so she is been a responsible kh. A good question maybe why is he getting sore ? Has he been grinding his cage ? Neglecting cleaning ? lubing ? Any of these things may warrant a little discipline. If i had to unlock due to medical issues i would be bummed out that i cant play for a bit. I think a good punishment would help keep me in the headspace.
You need to find a device that fits correctly, and use test periods to discover out how long it can be worn for. Then you can work up to longer periods.
I have just been caged for over 100 days and have suddenly developed a nasty In grown hair where the base ring rubs. It has meant being unlocked to get it to heal. It can happen to anyone no matter how experienced you are. Beings sensible about such things is what is important. I am on the honour system until heeled. It feels odd without the cage and being able to get errect. I am sure I will be back caged in a few days. Don't beat him up about it, our bodies are strange and can develop a sore are or irritation for no apparent reason, it is one of those things make him do the honour system until its healed and lock him back up. Extend the lock up if you want to do something .
I agree, but inspect him and look for any sores or wounds, or redness and tenderness, if they are none than maybe he was crying wolf.
None of us are living your reality so can't know for sure whether the complaints you were receiving were that of just a whiney man or the serious concerns of your man in pain. Given the fact that you opted for release you obviously decided to err on the side of caution and care for the man you love. Either way as his Key Holder you decided to release, you made a choice and you are still in control. Our men should not be punished for choices we make. If you are unhappy with your choice do things differently next time. Trial and error is how we learn and grow. On a side note if your man is not used to being in chastity for extended periods of time it is your responsibility as his Key Holder to train him. Throwing him off a cliff and expecting him to fly is irresponsible. Teach him to fly....
Since he failed to last through the month, why don't you set up a schedule of lock ups, as punishment. Give him intervals to complete, like a week, then two weeks, the three, until he can last a whole month. After he meets each goal, you could allow him anything from just a good cleanup or a tease and denial, or a ruined orgasm, or a full release. That would let him associate wearing his cage for you with some type of reward. Training him to last longer in a cage will then promote better submissive behavior. Good luck and enjoy.
Yes, and it can actually cause physical damage. A well fitted device becomes a part of you, and most of the time you don't even know it is there. Of course there are reminders, but they are the exception.
Speaking of punishment, I'm expecting to have my cage padlocked to the kitchen table tomorrow until ALL the laundry in ALL the baskets are folded. Loctober? No, didn't make it.
Have him wear nothing but panties and bras underneath to show his devotion as punishment. Maybe have him suck your boyfriend off? More of a reward than a punishment if you ask me xoxo