Recent content by tqbartleby

I'll be locked all month, but not specifically for Locktober. Rather, I've accumulated disciplinary sentences for imperfect behavior, now leading to release on Nov. 3. My wife is becoming so strict that I can't imagine I'll make it through the month without accumulating further time. At this...

I find the idea of pegging and strap-ons titillating, but not enough to go there. My wife has never mentioned any interest. Sissification holds no appeal for either of us.

As many have commented, any changes in the past would necessarily have led to a different present, so if one is currently happy it's a good idea to decline the ride in a time machine. But it's just fantasy, right? So I would have liked to start in my mid-twenties, when I started seeing she who...

An interesting thing is happening in my FLR. My wife is becoming simultaneously more affectionate and attentive, and more demanding and strict. We have a basic system where she allows me to remove the cage and get orgasmic release every second weekend. However, bad behavior on my part leads to...

I have also found snug is more comfortable. I recently downsized my Jailbird half an inch and don't regret the expense. In addition to eliminating pinching it's an easier fit in the trousers. Before, it was pretty comfortable. Now it's very comfortable.

I haven't had intercourse at all since we started chastity so I can't really answer with regard to that particular case. But in general, no, I don't feel any increased sensitivity. Your post implies your glans could feel your wife's G-spot already but you think you feel it with more detail now...

Another aspect of disciplinary punishments, independently of severity, is separating them from a sexualized context. When my wife canes me for cause, she makes sure not to do so in proximity with sex. She remains clothed, wastes no time, does nothing seductive or teasing. Serious but...

Thank you for a beautiful and enlightening post, @Goddess Gaia. Testimony to the importance of finding one's own way through all the stereotypes and pre-packaged roles and methods. Everything is customizable and we shouldn't be afraid to ignore the seeming conventions and do what's right for us.

Do you think, though, that it helps you improve specific behaviors the way targeted discipline can?

I agree. But I'm not saying anyone "has to" do anything. It just seems to me an interesting way a woman might choose to keep a disciplinary dynamic going even when the grounds for discipline might *seem* to be diminishing. Or indeed, he might want it *because* he fears it. Thanks for your...

My assumption is that as an FLR evolves, a measure of its success is that the man's behavior improves. If punishment is an important element in the FLR, what happens when a man improves enough that punishment doesn't seem to be warranted? The man typically *wants* punishment in one form or...

The problem is the lack of a general guideline. You should ask her what the default option is. "When I've been let out and allowed to come, you expect me to": 1. Put myself back in the cage ASAP 2. Ask you what to do 3. Quietly await instructions

One piece of advice I've seen in other threads is sort of the opposite of the suggestions above: "OK, you're not following the rules. The FLR is off. Back to vanilla and an ordinary relationship. No more spanking and all that. Unless... you *really* get with it."

Doesn't it just? The demands of the penis get in the way! Caging it puts it in its place. And its owner is freed of its tyranny.

I'm curious about these penis sleeves since after a long hiatus my wife has wondered aloud about perhaps resuming PIV. Any recommendations for suppliers? In our FLR I find that the important ways to please her have nothing to do with sex. As I write that I realize I exaggerate--OF COURSE...