hi all. Joined this forum as my bitch looks at it for ideas. Back ground is me and my bitch are slowly going down this route. We talked about it a year or so ago and have slowly been getting into it. He does not wear a chastity peice yet as I'm not to sure about it. He does as he is told and doesn't cum unless I tell him to. I edge him and ruin his orgasm all the time. He wants to fully be in this lifestyle but I find it difficult to adapt to so I have joined to get ideas and speak to other mistresses so I can get my head around it.
@Mistress Lynnie I would suggest you get him caged ASAP. They do tend to be rather infatuated with their penises.
If you are doing it already, then why would a devise matter. Especially if it makes him happy and he would be able to focus that attention on you. You can still unlock him and ruin/edge like you are doing now.
I have to admit, as a man, it's a little scary to think that more and more women are coming to that same conclusion and insisting upon the use of a secure device. With the proliferation of male chastity devices used by couples, it seems rather inevitable that we're eventually destined for a female led society.
Mistress Lynnie, I suspect that your Bitch is not being completely honest with you. Those male hormones are so powerful that they make men think of their penises all of the time and he may have you thinking that he's being chaste when he is really wanking when you are not around to catch him. I was a sorry, chastity-cheating male myself for many years. We practiced chastity for several years without the cage, but I was secretly wanking without her knowing until She confronted me about 7-8 months ago. Now, I am required to wear the cage whenever She is at work, the wanking is over and our relationship is now much more open and honest.
Welcome and enjoy!! First I definitely recommend you get him caged a.s.a.p. Something like a cb6000 will be a good start as the range of rings and spacers means it can fit virtually all sizes so you lock can him up straightaway. However it's not so good long term: you should be aiming for something steel like Mature Metal, but you'll need precise measurements and there's a time lag before delivery. And DonnaSue is quite right! J
I completely agree with DonnaSue. Ours started out as simple tease and denial play. As things progressed I would impose denial periods for my husband that would span days and eventually weeks during which I would tease, receive pleasure any way I wanted, whenever I wanted, and he was not permitted to orgasm without permission or the denial period had expired. Naturally as time progressed, I got more and more into it, extending the denial times amd upping my game at teasing. At one point during a lengthy denial period, which naturally included some intense teasing and frustration for him, I felt he wasn't at the point he was previously or should be at, given the time and teasing he'd been subject to. Eventually I called him out on it. After some lengthy interrogation he confessed to "taking matters into his own hands", claiming it was just too much for him to endure this time. Naturally I was upset, angry and hurt. A few days later I decided I needed to redefine the rules, and needed some insurance that he would comply. A lot of online reading and research, and soon he was fitted with his first chastity device. And so began what has become a long journey into our current lifestyle, and we are both happier and our relationship is now closer and stronger. Just my $.02 Ms Karen
Welcome! I have definitely found this forum to be very helpful with ideas and there are lots of very good people to chat with here. I agree with everyone above you should definitely lock him up. There is no way I could operate solely on the honor system and my mistress knows that. On top of that its just way kinkier if you have a key to his manhood
I agree with joroincharge, karent_50 and others. If you want real changes in lifestyle you should lock him asap. I self-locked for 2 years but nothing changed until i gave keys to my Mistress
I've heard of some self-denial working but would still agree that locking him up at least part time would add some new excitement ans reassurance!
Ms Karen, first of all, you were right to require the use of a device, a very smart decision indeed. May I ask which device you selected? Is it secure? Is he pierced; if not, is that something you'd consider to prevent him from pulling out behind your back?
Well after a lot of reading and talking with you guys and my bitch..... I WILL be caging him....... Waiting patiently for the postman for the new device....... Also my new dildo as my bitch will be out of action..... Looking forward to what is to come on this journey of our chastity lifestyle together...
@Mistress Lynnie Glad to hear you are going to lock him up. Not only will it provide reassurance he's not taking matters into his own hands, it will also act as a constant reminder to him of who owns his penis. It will take some getting used to for him especially if you employ a 24/7 locking rule. I'm allowed to remove mine about once a week for cleaning, shaving and a re-application of silicon tape at the base ring hinge (BON4).
@Mistress Lynnie ---I am sure that once you take possession of the key to his chastity device you will see the difference in him as he realizes the only way to his release and relief is through your happiness. He will soon learn, as will you the control you have over him. Be aware there will be bumps in the road, and a lot of communication between the two of you to make things work. It took a lot for my Mrs. to get fully involved in being my keyholder but I know now, as she would never go back to our vanilla ways. Have fun Mistress.