What are the mental stages you go through when you are locked up?
From what I know, the chaste go through stages of emotions when they are locked up. Depending on the individual, their lockup period and how long they have practiced chastity, different stages can be experienced during the period of an 'encagement'. These are the ones I’m aware of, in order:
1. Thrill - can start beforehand and last two to four weeks after encagement
2. Desperation - comes when the realisation sets in that the encagement is real and the suffering is starting
3. Resentment - comes closely after Desperation, when the realisation of lost control and true subjection to the KH
4. Peaceful acceptance - comes when the feelings in the body become the new normal
5. Fear of Release - comes when there is a sense of achievement being encaged, when encagement is now routine and when the feelings from encagement have normalised
6. Abandonment - comes when the cock has been released from its encagement period and is now free from any confinement. For beginners, this could be a sense of relief and bring on a sense of fear (perhaps good fear) to go through another encagement. For experienced chasters, comes a sense of loss - their achievement has to start over again, it feels un-natural to be free, orgasm conjures negative feelings, and the chaster can feel like they are cheating.
Are there any other stages you have noticed during a single 'encagement' - a lockup period: being free to caged to free again?
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Side note: lol... I declare 'encagement' a real word. Haha! 'Encagement' is the engagement period of lockup. It can also classify a collective lockup.
Use: 'My sub is encaged to me' or 'The encagement of my sub has made him his best self.'
Greetings Ms Veronica
I’m writing up a full paper for You including recommendations. Mostly a well defined personal case study in why I bolted previous situations. I have experienced the Desperation and resentment even when I wasn’t in chastity in D/s.
I’m on day 13, 11since o.
im actually curious that I am not feeling desperation or resentment. But I think I know why!!
Background on me and Past attempts:
I define myself as an anticipatory service submissive with some slave tendencies. I am pretty alpha/independent in some ways. Service manifests in every part of my life, especially to women in the workplaces.
my D/s
Had a great 2 year contract w a proDomme, first time here n a D/s. I lost trust in her and resented her after she lied to me big time. I finished my contract and financially supported her the entire time. She wanted me to stay and I said no.
Another pro Domme-i had a total freak out on first lock up day one when she asked for money (10% of annual income) the very second the lock was shut. No encouragement- just that. I resented and freaked and split. Three weeks of constant contact up til then down the tubes.
Gay Dom: 4 months: again I lost trust and felt resentment. He filmed me without disclosing and posted it online without disclosing. I tried to continue, but no longer trusted him.
Femdom, I was her ranch hand. Red flags early on then Month 4 she told me she was a sub that was trying to switch.
so better vetting on my part would have helped a ton!
Self locked maybe 30 times for more than 3 days. 14 days max. Fetish since age 25.
so something is really different this time. Why?
i’ve only known my lifestyle Dom for 16 days. Today I am locked 14. It was agreed upon as an experiment: both parties wanted to practice. Our long term goals for a D/s relationship and kinks matched well. Alternate routes other than ltr matched well: service for sessions. I put zero limits on the lockup part. She has expressed an interest in keeping me as a long term service sub and intends to get me there. I told her “this is what I want, but no one has ever been able to get me there. I’ve never been properly trained and I don’t know if I can be broken”
she laughed
had a blowup about day 3 over revealing personal information, I disrespected Her, it almost ended. I was ready to bolt, but didn’t. Accepted the punishment I posted in video and the pain forum here.
that was a huge turning point in trust development. We continued to talk about it. And we’re able to push off that very deeply and very fast.
i’ve never ever trusted a D this fast before (i’ve has 5 previous D/s relationships, with both male and female Dominants).
and I am infatuated big time. She is truly impressive and confident and well trained and self controlled. O/our commitment level has just gone deeper almost every day-from both of us. She is very pleased and I couldn’t be happier. Just hope it continues.
I’m pretty level headed. Yes, some of that high is there, but not consuming me.
basically it’s the TRUST. I really trust Her. And She has been expert at facilitating that: she has limits-I know she’s not going to hurt me in any lasting way (she is a major pain player and an RN). I’m not afraid to trust her.
what is she doing?
She checks in constantly and asks lots of questions. Monitors my emotions. Asks, “does this scare you” with almost every power exchange of any kind. Explained Her aftercare. She is incredibly consistent.
My energy body is sending no red flags.
We share a common interest in FLR and shamanism/paganism, and we both have Healing practices.
She has NEVER been distracted with other things when we engage. She is intensely focused and misses nothing
so the TRUST surprisingly came VERY FAST, and the relationship has morphed with it. We kept goals flexible and glad we did. I just LIKE Her as a human being and I just adore Her as Mistress/Goddess. I’ve already told Her i see this going long.
so we shall see. I do experience sub drop-so we will see how I feel in Lockup after my next o.
As of day 14, I’m very comfortable. Life goes on. focusing my energies on improving self and Mistress’ life.
Mistress Lilith’s pet
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