Waveridr saying hello

Waveridr

Waveridr

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Hello all

Having been occasionally reading the forum for approximately 5 years – I registered in 2015 – I’d like to introduce myself. I’m 41 of age, married with two children. I consider myself sex positive and have been interested in chastity practices for a bit over 5 years. I have given it many, somewhat unsuccessful tries in the past. Quite frankly, despite having read many posts and blogs and books on the topic, despite having various devices, I don’t really know what I'm expecting. Fact is, that I keep coming back to the topic year after year. However, until now I have not been very successful in convincing my wife.

Very recently we've given it another try and our current approach is an agreement in which she can task me with anything using a codeword. Usually chores or massaging her. In return I can wear a device (currently a Holy Trainer v2) whenever I want and hand her over the key. She keeps the key on her and unlocks me in the evening.

Most days she forgets to give me a task unless I remind her. Thus, lately, I have been cleaning the kitchen every evening and I hope that she will get into the dynamic if i take it slowly without pushing.

I look forward to reading your advice and many more interesting posts.
 
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Welcome, formally, to our community. If you've been here much, you'll see lots of emphasis on communication. Sounds like you need a little more. So keep talking. Also, do you wear cage at night? Or for more than a day?
If so, you might consider setting up regular chores for you and you wear cage longer.
 
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Taking it slowly with someone who maybe initially not into it is wise thing to do. As others have said communication is the key. Have you talk to her about her reasons for not being totally into it? If it is because she want access to it anytime she wishes to have fun remind her she has the key, oh and if you forget one of your chores she can keep you locked and get your face between her legs so she is not going totally without.
 
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Taking it slowly with someone who maybe initially not into it is wise thing to do. As others have said communication is the key. Have you talk to her about her reasons for not being totally into it? If it is because she want access to it anytime she wishes to have fun remind her she has the key, oh and if you forget one of your chores she can keep you locked and get your face between her legs so she is not going totally without.
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Thanks @krystalasbaby. It's definitely good to talk more. She's says it doesn't turn her on me wearing a cage.
 
Yesterday we had a chat and I told her how happy I was with the current agreement and that I would like to give her even more control. It was a good and long conversation. She said that she enjoyed me doing so many things for her and that she has definitely noticed the change. However, she wished that to be the case without me wearing a cage. I tried explaining to her why I thought that chastity turns me on and why I want to give her more control. In the end she said she now understands a bit better. We agree to continue with the current agreement for one more week and then decide where we go from there.
 
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The week is going quite nicely. She is very occasionally and subtly teasing me. She is smiles when I hand her over they keys in the morning, she smiles when she unlocks me.

Yesterday I went to bed and she didn't say anything about unlocking me, so I didn't remind her. Not being sure whether she was testing me or had just forgotten. I was surprised of how well the night went, since it's a long time since I had last worn the cage during nights. For me the standard Holy Trainer v2 fits extremely well and contains any erections absolutely painlessly … I might even say comfortably.

This morning after taking a shower she suddenly remembered, that she hadn't unlocked me yesterday. I told her that I wasn't sure whether she wanted to test me or she had just forgotten. I added, that either way it did turn me on. She was relieved and replied, "then it's good".

I look forward to our conversation this weekend. I'm mildly optimistic. I think I'm ready for being caged for longer periods of time and I'd love if she helped me push my limits.
 
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Looks like I won the jackpot this weekend. As mentioned my wife and I reviewed our current agreement. Without hesitation she agreed to adapt it and to go one step further. I will be wearing a chastity device at all times, unless she says otherwise. We also agreed that our ambition for early 2020 is to have me locked for 30 days in a row (that is caged, not denied referring to @Tom Allen's matrix). I’m curious to see whether we can achieve that ambition anytime soon and what it will do to our relationship.
 
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Good for you both! Go at her speed, but stay committed. After 5 years, I'm sure you know the feelings and need don't go away, the desire to be chaste and submissive always comes back.
 
What a week! This morning my wife told me that in the evening she wants a foot massage from me.
And earlier today when I asked her if she would unlock me for the gym she thought a second and then replied "no — that's what you want me to do" … and so I went to the gym with my cage on.

:):):)
 
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