My KH and I are new to this dynamic and we are slowly learning our way around. I’m hoping I can get some advice on little things I can do to make things easier for her. So far the extent of my servitude has been her controlling my orgasms and her requesting massages. I cook meals for her when she visits too. We don’t live together so domestic servitude isn’t in the picture yet What kind of things do you do to serve your KH?
If she isn't tell you what to do, try to do as much as you can... and get things done for her that you know she will care about or you know she doesn't enjoy doing. I would say she would like some good massages and foot rubs, just a guess.
If you know she needs something, get it for her before she asks. Her old Coffee maker is Garbage, just go get her a new one. Her Cellphone cracked when she dropped it, buy her a new one with a good case... Anticipate what she needs and take care of it. Enjoy.
Do everything you can for her, and do all she asks from you, if you have any doubt, ask her what she wants you to do, there may be things that she prefers to do for herself, for example, I do all the vacuuming as madam hates it. But being a clean freak, she doesn’t trust anyone else to clean the kitchen. I will make tea or coffee all day for us at a click of her finger, but come dinner, as she is a strict vegan, she will cook her own food. when shopping I push the trolly I pack the bags under observation of madam, and I carry them to the car and in to the house. But then I will unpack everything on to the kitchen counters, and madam will put everything in its place in the cupboards and pantry. Hope this helps.
You can make changes to yourself that she will like or approve of. We often dont think of this but the wonderful Women in our lives usually want us to better ourselves and make positive changes in ourselves and in our lives. Body, mind and lifestyle are all good candidates for this. Based on what you've said so far one idea is to take classes in massage and surprise her next time. Or learn to do nails and surprise her with a pedicure! If she likes poetry you could take a class at the local community college to share in her interest. Or take cooking classes and make her gourmet meals. Next time she visits scrub your home spotlessly clean and fill it with fresh flowers to make it smell pretty for her. Women appreciate effort, and rightly so. Consistent effort shows that you think of her when shes not there and more so that you will come through for her in troubled times too. Think outside the usual bdsm box and the sky is the limit! Good luck .
Controlling your orgasms is not really servitude. Even though you live apart, there is much you can do for her. Learn what her preferred cosmetics and toiletries are. Stock your home with them and make sure she has space for them. Get her a bathrobe and sleeping clothes to keep at your house. Stock her favorite foods, drinks, and reading material. If she drives to visit, arrange to have her car detailed. Fill it with gas for her. Make sure all linens and bath towels are clean. Get her a set of bath towels. Have fresh flowers when she visits. Genuinely listen to her. Be interested in her conversations and topics of interest. Don’t interrupt.
My sub husband serves me by: -Lifting things I can't lift, and fetching me things like drinks when I have a bad chronic pain episode -By doing the washing, loading the dishwasher, making the bed and doing the cat's litter box as those things are too intense for me due to my disabilities -By working while I take care of the home because I am too disabled to work -By massaging me every day so I can stay off pain medication more often -By driving me where I want to go as I can't get a drivers license while I use pain medication -By often just doing as I ask with or without warrant -By going the extra mile by leaving me notes, creating a romantic admosphere and just being very loving, attentive and caring
I only do laundry since I don't know cooking. There's a maid for cleaning and my KH prepares food normally. Also I do all her manicure and pedicure stuff. Even all her orders are my commands.
I’ll tell you a service that I do and no one else gets this: Swidden keeping her car in top shape, buy the big jugs of Windex and keep her windshield washer tank filled. Make sure her wipe blades are in top condition too. In the scheme of things this doesn’t cost much, but even people with really luxurious cars don’t have that. Ss
I just woke up to the sound of my beautiful grandson playing the drums on upside down mixer bowls. I checked this site and I surely don’t know what “Swidden” means or what word I meant when swidden came up. Automatic spell checks are weird! My wife is happily playing on the floor with him and his drums. Ss
With the wife, it's husband stuff. Sexually, it means sex is when she wants, how she wants, and just for her enjoyment. She know I'm getting no sex in my kink relationship, or masturbating anymore. With my keyholder, it's a kink relationship. She's single, and I'm her servant. I'm basically a chaste boyfriend she doesn't have sex with, plus S&M. She's moving to a cottage, and I'm working on getting the area cleared of brush and grass, and wasps, and mice, and fixing up the dead lawn mower, and repairing the stuff that needs fixing. That and I give massages and foot rubs, and submit to her sadistic desires. Part of me serving her is wearing a micro cage, and learning to live as if I have no dick. No pressuring her for any sexual release or attention. No wagging a big, drippy cock her way if we are being kinky. Deferring to her, and being there for her when she needs me, as if she's family, which is what my wife and I consider her.
Just the washing up and offering her drinks and snacks...and then any opportunity to be helpful. The other day her dad was round and I took him home so she could go to bed (only 30 mins away but she appreciated it) I think a lot of stuff is just being nice and courteous and just something a guy that loves a girl would do. Unfortunately I think a lot of guys treat women like crap. The other day her friends were round and I cleaned up the whole house and made them drinks while they chatted in the front room. Bizarrely it turned me on a little. All her friends think I'm amazing but really it's just that their boyfriends/husband's treat them like crap.
My Mistress , who lives abroad really really likes to humiliate me when I'm in her presence and that of her friend - I'm often just serving them in panties , cage and earlier in the year, a locking posture collar. When she's feeling particularly spiteful my Mistress takes my panties down ( well they are her or her friends panties ) then she teases me for ages with a wyrtenburg wheel on my penis/glands - it's the only stimulation i get and because of the posture collar I can't look down to see her playing wth my locked cock. Often I'm wearing hobble chains on both ankles / arms -i get so frustrated and when I complain , I get threatened with lockdiwn to the toilet for an hour plus more pictures taken of my enforced predicament. Once the photos are taken , Mistress makes a big play of uploading the photos to "the cloud" safe in the knowledge that I have no idea where the pictures are stored - during the day I'm often asked to perform toilet cleaning duties using only my lips thena mouthwash. On my last trip before lockdown , Mistress and friend took me to dinner whilst wearing a collar and cuffs from the cage down to my legs - it made walkibg very painful as I shuffled myself to the twee restaurant - when we got home I had to pay long lip service to Mistress and her friend abd ended up being mercilessly played with in my cage.
1 get her a vibrator that is a size larger than your dick 2 get yourself to an ideal weight and exercise regularly 3 find out her favorites: food, drink, scent, color, porn, movies.... 4 do not masturbate or orgasm without her permission 5 save time for her 6 compliment her 7 find out, even if you have to ask how she likes to cum 8 encourage her to cum often while not feeling guilty 9 help her: wash car, laundry, dishes, maintenance... 10 kiss her