Being a member that’s been here forever, I’m not sure if I’m supposed to answer lol, but will chime in as my wife is a member but gave up visiting.
Number one, she would log in and there would be quite a few messages from people asking her personal questions or asking her to be their key holder. She could have turned her messages off, or restrict it I believe, but she didn’t feel like getting into it.
Number two. She once asked a question about ruined orgasms, or something similar, I can’t remember but she got quite a bit of unsolicited advice on how often I should be allowed to cum, what I should do when it happens etc etc. She had just become my key holder and it was a bit much.
Number three. She’s not very into online friendships or camaraderie. Maybe some women like other girls, like to chat about stuff with other women, she is not one of them. She doesn’t make friends in real life very well, and online isn’t any different. In fact I could imagine if I wasn’t locked, she would be a bit leery about me chatting online with people. Not that I would ever become involved with anything more than friendly chat, still it could become something she might worry about, like an emotional affair. Anyway, she has never felt the pull towards female friendship, at least not casually, she has very close friends.
Number four. Once she was familiar with being in charge, understood that I wanted her desires to be the priority, she had no reason to ask for help or need to understand. She was in charge, so she didn’t need help doing exactly what she wanted.
Number five. I do a pretty good job of communicating with her, so she doesn’t feel the pull of finding out about what I’m thinking about or feeling by reading it here. Plus whatever she discussed would be seen by me, and I’m sure if she was really having any real issues, she wouldn’t want to alarm or hurt me. She would be right too, I’m sure I would use it as a way to defend or explain myself. If she really wanted a venting place, somewhere I hang my hat wouldn’t be it.
I will say, she stopped visiting before Lucy started running it, started the keyholders only area, and made it more female centric which I’m sure she would have liked.
Although women are surely appreciated, let’s not kid ourselves, men are the driving force of male chastity. They visit, they join, they fantasize, post and leave. Some I have no idea why exactly they are even here. Some even say they like the idea but could never let their wife lock them up. Some are combative, some argue for the sake of arguing, some are just internet trolls that thrive on interaction. My wife is no push over when it comes to people getting in her grill, and can guarantee she would FREAK OUT if some random guy was combative with her on a forum.
Ive had several blow outs here, for the most part I feel pretty good about my responses, some I overreacted or probably got more upset than I should have. I sometimes have to remember this is an online community, which comes with online problems, to not let it get under my skin and to take it in stride.