How active is your keyholder in your chastity when you're locked up?

I am constantly teased. Occasionally milked and very rarely allowed to o. last night was PIV, she came and I was told to stop and refit the cage.,

 

My KH wife is very busy with work and family. She has a million things on her mind already. She tried being more involved with chastity play. Teasing, rules and consequences, etc...
It was just too much, sometimes she even wants to leave me unlocked for a while just to take a break from it all.
To put it simply, I stay locked until she says so with an occasional pat on the crotch to check on her property.

 

I would say my wife acknowledges it quite regularly. Teasing depends a lot on her mood, how tired she is from work, time of the month, and so on, but it happens a fair amount even if not necessarily every single day.

 

My wife is similar. She loves the RESULT of my chastity. She cares not one wit about the gear and actions taken to get there.

 

There wasn't a great choice for me, so I chose "They pretty much ignore the fact that I'm locked up".

It's more that I tend to get unlocked at night, and then we'll get our time together. During the day, she's usually busy or pre-occupied and doesn't have time or inclination for play. (We have kids. All bets are off when you have kids around.)

 

Sounds like my situation, with the exception my wife likes to watch me shower and monitor the cleaning of her property.

 

You went from twice a day to nothing very quickly, where are the rest of the choices? Mrs Jah might not touch or tease me for a few days, but she is actively keeping me locked, and teases me on her own terms.

If you're not horny without constant attention are you really horny enough to deserve it?
Have you been denied long enough? Are you really putting her first?

Is this poll to show your wife later? "Look , everyone else with an active wife gets teased at least twice a day, I know you don't want to ignore me completely, do you?"

That's a bit mean Jah....

Maybe I'm being cynical, but trust me...I've been there. Mostly I'm pissed off because I love a poll, and can't vote, as there really isn't a category I can vote on. Like a recent poll of my own. Lol. Just goes to show...you can please some of the people some of the time, but not all the people all of the time. My next poll, I'm thinking of doing a pre-poll poll, to discuss categories as a group before posting the real poll. I'll get in less trouble, for not being inclusive.

 

You could add.

-Not every day but fairly often
-A few times a week
-Not often during the week, but always makes time at the weekend

This would get a better spread of opinion I think. I would flit between those but could make a choice, that wasn't a lie or an insult to all my wife does.

I'd love to say every day, but Mrs Jah refuses to play that game, as it is on my terms. Not hers. Not teasing me is one of her ways of exercising her dominance over me in a more subtle way I've realized. It is her telling me she's busy, deal with it. Clever girl. I didn't get this at first, and still sometimes resist, it's tough not to hint sometimes eh? But after I process it, I'm more proud of her for standing her ground. Isn't that what we also want?

She certainly doesn't ignore the "fact that I'm locked", she just isn't obsessed about my cock quite like I am. Isn't that what some of us are trying to balance. Our normal over-inflated male libidos with thier statistically probable lesser need. My wife looks after me very well. Sometimes it can be frustrating, but patience brings reward.

Should we expect acknowledgment every day? Is the line I've used myself "I'm doing this for you" selfish in itself? "I'm doing this because I want to be better for you, it helps me, the sex is fantastic and I'm happier" Is that more honest and sincere.

 

My idea of the perfect keyholder is someone who will constantly keep you guessing. Some weeks you might be constantly teased, while other times you may be told not to even mention the device for some length of time. Doing so may result in added time or an immediate ruined orgasm (I will literally flip a coin...)

 

My Goddess has always been a tease. She teases much more when I'm locked, she says this is because she feels safe that teasing will not lead to sex unless she feels like it. One of the things I found initially strange in our relationship was how for her teasing and sex are not the same.

Lots of kissing, cuddling, cage groping, bottom grinding, inspecting her property.

 

I am a keyholder and take a very active role when my partner is locked up. We both enjoy the teasing and I try to get some form of play time in at least once a day. It can be as simple as cuddling, kissing and touching just enough to get him twitching. Or it can be a few hours of getting me off and continued teasing for him. Depending on what is going on at any particular time - family, work, outside activities.

 

Over a year since wife and I last had sex. She is just not interested in any way. Chastity locking was my idea, and she is seeing my demeanor has improved now that I am not masturbating and watching porn constantly, so she is participating by keeping the key out of my hands. No teasing. Only time I have been unlocked is to go to a doctor appointment three weeks ago (and it ended up not being an issue I needed unlocking for). Our arrangement is I will be constantly locked until she wants sex. Her libido was low. Then menopause eliminated it.

 

I think there are more ways to participate than teasing or talking about my dick multiple times a day. My wife definitely knows I'm locked and she sees it on me every day, but at this point it's just normal. She acknowledges and participates in our relationship dynamic, which includes chastity, but is more than just chastity. She does grab the cage or make comment about it on occasion, but definitely not daily. Even when I give her oral sex while locked and am denied reciprocation, her attitude is mostly just that she is done and satisfied and that's the end of it, which I actually think is totally hot.

 

Wow, I sure can related with you!

 

My wife is concerned that the menopause may dampen her already low libido. I don't want that to happen, but imagine if I had never found this chastity thing...How resentful and lacking understanding and empathy would I be? Would we as a couple make it through that? I don't know, but when she's mentioned her worry, I don't think "fuck"...I think "we'll get through it together"

 

One of the nicest things I've read lately. Thanks Jah.

 

Add me to the group who did not find a satisfactory answer in original poll. We do not live the chastity lifestyle all the time (but it is trending that direction). My wife acknowledges I am caged maybe every other day; insists on holding the keys when I am; actually kind of likes me caged; but does not feel a need to tease me. I’m locked until she wants PIV and we’ve agreed that I cannot ask for release. Depending on her workload, stress, etc, I could be locked for a few days to a few weeks and we are both quite comfortable with that. It works for us.

 

My GF pretty much ignores the fact that I am locked up and she isn't my KH. I self lock but at times she will tell me to lock it up or take it off. I am pretty much on my own when it come to the cage.

 

My Wife acknowledges a least daily but she doesn't really 'tease' me very much. I think you mean teasing in terms of touching/allowing an erection, etc?

An acknowledgment may be verbal or as simple as just grabbing my balls and squeezing.

I am never allowed to ask for releases, or to complain about being locked.

I am allowed to ask to please her, and that is often granted. I then can please her with my fingers or my mouth, but not my penis and I'm not unlocked. I never expect and rarely get reciprocation. She usually comes, I thank her for allowing me to enjoy pleasing her, and then I'm dismissed or she turns over and goes to sleep. This is essentially how we have regular intimacy.

She expects me to understand that she enjoys my fingers more than my penis, and that for me, my penis is in semi-retirement. She however does highly believe in 'fluid bonding' and 'connection' and for that reason she makes sure I get to enjoy PIV every month or so.

If our version of femdom seems a bit harsh, it's not. She makes clear "I'm her most valuable possession and I'm loved protected and owned."

 

My madam is very active in my chastity when. Am locked, I feel I may be variation from the norm though, as chastity was my madams idea and we are in a bdsm relationship, and have been for the last 20 plus years.
Madam teases me daily and reminds me why I am locked daily,

 

My wife is busy earning a living for the family.. i cant be selfishly bothering her about my needs in teasing and yet denial, penis cleaning and inspection, prostate milking and eating up, penis shrinkage and measurement and what not.. I bath and clean up myself without being monitored.. stay nude and caged, hug and greet her off to work every morning.. see you.. she would say while patting my trapped balls.. When i go down on her, she will hold on to my shoulders tightly.. and bring me up her once climax.. we would kiss passionately while my caged dick will be sliding up and down her wet pussy.. pleasuring her further… ok, so for me its much ignored.. but not forgotten.