We led a non monogamous lifestyle filled with Fetish play, parties and sex with couples and women. P,us we moved a lot for my job so we decided no kids was best for our lifestyle. If we swung with a couple who had kids they left their kids with someone so they were never home during sex.
Quite frankly, in real life trying to live a D/S marriage 24/7 usually ended badly for the couples we played with. They all divorced . Even ardent slaves leave their mistresses after a few years. It is not like porn leads you to believe.
VinnyDfl says:
"Quite frankly, in real life trying to live a D/S marriage 24/7 usually ended badly for the couples we played with. They all divorced . Even ardent slaves leave their mistresses after a few years. It is not like porn leads you to believe."
Exactly.
I to some extend agree with you, because in the Female Led Community of my boyhood, most of the adult women had changing lovers.
My three year younger dear little sister Ida and I do not have the same father, but it did not bother us, because none of these men lived with us, and we never thought of them.
And so it was for almost all of the leftist and strongly feminist women, who founded our small community in the year 1970:
The young men, who were their lovers, came, stayed with us for some years, and then they went on.
These young men may have been fascinated and attracted in by the strong minded and independent women of our Female Led Community, but you should also not forget, that there was a strong tendency among young progressives on the left wing at that time to experiment with new forms of cohabitation.
But over time it might have been a bit too much Female Led for most of those young men, because it was not just the women who owned the houses and jointly owned the surrounding lands. It was also the women who made all the important decisions in our small community at their Women's Meetings, where men did not have access.
There were exceptions. For example Hanne, who once was my girlfriend. Hanne's mother Clara and her father Morten were among the couples among us who never parted, but stayed together.
The parents of Silas, a boy from our Female Led Community whom my younger sister Ida later married, also continued to stay together in a very happy and loving marriage.
Although our mothers founded a strictly Female Led Community, they never used the word "slave" for their male lovers. And the young men never referred to themselves as "slaves" either.
And although as told the relationships between our feminist mothers and their male lovers mostly ended after a while, they almost never ended badly.
Many of the men who had been our mothers' lovers came afterwards quite often to visit us, and they were always very well received. There were no ill feelings.
In the years around 1970, there was a strong urge to rebel among those parts of the youth who saw themselves as progressive and leftist, as our mothers did.
The capitalist society and ALL it's the old rules and habits were to be overthrown:
When, for example, eternal fidelity between wife and husband had been the ideal before, free love and promiscuity became both the ideal and and often also the lived practice for many of the followers of the hippie movement.
I remember from my childhood how the adults used to say: "Vi ejer ikke hinanden" (English: "We don't own each other") to justify their many changing sexual relationships.
I am convinced that this is also a significant part of the explanation for why so many young people from my mother's generation lived the way they did.
It was called "seksuel frigørelse" ("sexual liberation") back then.
I think it is well known today that this sexual liberation also had great costs.
Not least for many of the young women of the time.
They often became victims of sexual harassment or sexual abuse. And if they became pregnant, the man often let them down, because among the sexually progressive men there unfortunately often was a distinct lack of sense of responsibility.
I was only a boy back then, so I didn't know much about all this at the time.
But I am sure that when our mothers, who founded our Female Led Community, put so much emphasis on protecting their daughters' body shyness and modesty, and when they insisted so strongly on the rule which still applies among us today, that it is the woman - and the woman alone - who controls our sexual life, then this is also due, among other things, to bitter experiences from the promiscuity of the time.
But as said above I only partly agree VinnyDfl.
As I have told before, almost all of us, who grew up as boys in our Female Led Community, as young men married one of the young women from our own community, whom we had known from childhood, and who accordingly was taught the same values as we were, although her role as a future Matriarch in her family naturally differed from our role which was to be her strong male support and helper.
We boys were used to respect the female authority of our mothers and teenage sisters, and as much our sisters and girlfriends admired us boys for our physical strength and endurance, we admired the girls and young women for their mental strength, intelligence and unshakable self confidence.
To have to serve and obey one of them for our entire life was by no means embarrassing to us. On the contrary, it seemed fascinating and tantalizing.
It was all what we wished for, because this was how we were brought up. What we were used to, and what we considered to be normal, girls and boys alike.
Therefore our Female Led marriages - like for instance my beloved wife Larissa's and mine - differ markedly from those of the time of our mothers by being extremely stable.
It's a huge difference from the promiscuous times 50 years ago; but it also proves that Female Led Relationships are long-lasting, even through generations, because our children, who are now adults, are also living in stable Female Led Marriages, and they raise their daughters to take on the tasks and responsibilities which their early maturity makes them fit for, and raise their sons to respect girls and women.
This can only be an advantage in these "Me Too" times, I think.
