A New Chapter Unfolds

Happy Locktober!

I started the day with hubby's face between my legs, licking me to a wonderful orgasm. Afterwards I teased his balls a little while telling him our plans for the month. He was very relieved that I wasn't going to make him go the entire month without a single unlock. Weekly releases feels like the right compromise.

I'm still not sure what to do about ruined and/or caged orgasms. In retrospect I probably should have given him a ruined orgasm yesterday and then we could just ignore them completely for the month. But I didn't, so it's something I'm going to have to figure out. Maybe we'll just see how it goes without any ruins at all.

 

Last week was a very long week for hubby. Perhaps I underestimated how often I normally unlock hubby, and the impact of being locked for seven days straight. The first couple days weren't anything unusual, but there was a definite uptick in his neediness towards the end of the week. He begged for an erection on Friday... not for any teasing or edging, but just to be unlocked and allowed to get hard. I was resolute and left him locked.

On Sunday he had his first unlock for the month. Since he had treated me so well during the week I decided to give him a little extra teasing. I tied him up, stroked him right to the edge, and then left him to cool down. Several minutes later I returned and brought him to the edge a second time. I repeated this eight times - once for each day of Locktober. Hubby was quite desperate by the end, begging for even a ruined orgasm. But I simply gave him plenty of time to cool down, and secured him in his chastity cage before untying him.

Today he's hornier than ever. He said it was bad enough being locked all of last week, but now that he knows what might be in store for the weekend it's even harder.

 

Going into Locktober, I was worried that it wouldn't feel special enough. I only made a few small changes to our routine, but the cumulative effect has been amazing.

* Waiting a week to be unlocked has had a huge impact. It wound up being a perfect duration for us: longer than hubby is accustomed to, but not so far away that he puts it out of his mind.
* The fact that he started the month due for a ruined orgasm but I'm making him wait until after Locktober has really upped the ante.
* On a whim, I didn't unlock him for hygiene last week. Instead, right before our playtime on Sunday I cuffed his hands behind his back, unlocked the cage, and took care of the hygiene myself. It went so well that we now have a new Locktober rule: hands and cock cannot be free at the same time. Maybe it sounds silly, but I love the idea that he'll have gone the entire month without touching his cock in any way.

 

I suspect hubby feels the same way. Back when we used the honor system, he was accustomed to waiting a week or two for an orgasm. With the chastity cage, weeks have turned into months. But I think the bigger adjustment has been that he can't touch himself, or even have an erection, without my permission.

That level of control wasn't a goal of mine, but I must admit I find it exhilarating.

 

As a condition for hubby's unlock this weekend I asked him to write something I could post in this journal. He tried to talk me out of it, but I didn't budge. I also hinted that the amount of time he gets to spend unlocked, and what we might do during that time would depend heavily on how much effort he put into this assignment. I think it turned out rather well, except perhaps for the shameless pandering in the last paragraph. He even turned it in early, he just needed the proper motivation! What does everyone think, should I give him an A?

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What have I done? Full time chastity was my idea. We had played with chastity before for a few weeks at a time and it was always fun. I expected full time to be similar. I was wrong. I was excited by a fantasy and I kind of pushed Pamela into it. She indulged me anyway. I don't know why it was so hard to lock back up after that first orgasm. Maybe I could do better now that I have had more practice. Maybe not. Pamela could have thrown in the towel right then and there but she didn't. Instead of thinking chastity was the problem, she zeroed in on orgasms being the culprit, and in her charmingly direct way of thinking, the obvious solution was less orgasms.

Waiting a month between orgasms was difficult, but I got used to it. I was still horny every single day, but it wasn't overwhelming. Somewhere along the way, Pamela became enamored with this newfound level of control. She delighted in getting me aroused while I was still locked up and couldn't do anything about it. She loved holding the key. She found countless ways to tease and torment me.

Pamela later decided that three months would be better than one. Waiting three months was extremely challenging the first time. It was just as challenging the next. It isn't getting any easier. I'm perpetually horny from the first day to the last. Thankfully, Pamela lets me have a few ruined orgasms in between. They aren't exactly pleasurable, and afterwards I'm even hornier than before. But my balls ache a little less afterwards so it helps.

Giving up control is scary. There was a time, back when we started, when I had no idea how long I'd have to wait for an orgasm. Pamela suggested maybe it would be our anniversary, which was six months away. I was terrified. There was no way I could last six months. But the whole point was to let her decide, I could not object. That's been my biggest lesson. I have to trust that she will figure out what is best for us. That she will not push me harder than I can handle. She's done an amazing job. She was right about three months. It is better. Not the waiting itself, but all of the days in between. There's a level of intimacy and connection that never really happened before chastity. I wish I didn't have to give up so many orgasms, but I can't complain. We're having the best sex of our lives.

I was prepared to give up some orgasms, though not to the degree that Pamela has insisted upon. What caught me by surprise is how hard it is to give up erections. Pamela unlocks me frequently, but even so I miss being able to have an erection whenever I want. Giving up that control has been harder than everything else. It reinforces that my cock belongs to her, and she alone decides when it can be hard and when it must remain soft. Giving Pamela an orgasm while I remain locked and pressed up against her naked body, is both the most wonderful and most frustrating experience.

I hope none of this comes across as complaining. Although this isn't where I had expected chastity to lead, and is a struggle at times, I am grateful that we are here. Pamela is incredibly generous with her attention. I never feel ignored or forgotten. She puts so much energy and thought into teasing me and keeping me right on the edge. I get to touch her, hold her, kiss her all the time. I hear her wonderful moans and see her face as she orgasms every day. I am a very lucky man.