It’s been 50 days since I last came. I thought it would be nice to write down why I’m here. We play with chastity on and off. I love it when we do and appreciate the freedom when we don’t.
My wife tolerates the cage for me and she does see the benefits and loves them but is still very slowly becoming a key holder. I have learnt that she cannot be pushed into it and it’s probably going to take years for her to fully embrace it but slowly and surely I am being patient. Sometimes she will hide the key, sometimes she forgets where it is and sometimes she just lets it stay by my bedside out of convenience to her. Either way I ask permission to remove her cage when required for sport.
This brings me to my title 50 days Orgasm free and counting.
I got my wife to read the guide “The secret to a happy marriage” and after reading it she said it helped her understand why I want the cage and why I feel it helps me.
This was a breakthrough and she agreed to help me start with a long lockup at her discretion. I asked for 3 months to help break my masturbation habit completely and give her time to discover what she likes. She agreed to try then we realised our wedding anniversary was 55 days in and so she stated that would be a better target. At the time I remember thinking this would be very hard for me. It was pretty hard for the first two weeks but then everything calmed down and it became easier. I’m now 50 days in and finding its life changing. Things that I used to find sexual other than my wife no longer bother me. She has become my only source of pleasure. She can play with my balls caged or release me for a play but no cum which she’s done a couple of times.
She is not very sexual at the moment and so am orgasm once a week or fortnight is enough for her. This is the hardest part as living caged certainly makes me want to pleasure her but my advances are not always appreciated. So I am learning slowly to be the best husband I can and to be even more patient than I thought I could. After 50 days I can honestly say that a long initial lockup is a very good idea once you have found the right cage. I thought I’d found the right cage with my rigid chastity pa cage but then I have issues with my 8mm pa piercing where the flared part puts too much pressure around the outside exterior of the piercing hole. I stumbled across a fix for me where if I pull my foreskin back all the way the pressure doesn’t create sores anymore allowing me to be locked longer than about a week when I was wearing my foreskin forward as designed.
I also am of the opinion that any cage where you can pull out is not suitable for me. I need to know I cannot pull out so when she has the keys that’s it. For me I need the mental and physical aspect to chastity to be able to enjoy it.
So now I’m actually a bit scared that in 5 days she will want me to cum and I’m afraid of the drop afterwards and how long it will take to get back to where I’m at now but also I realise that we need to find out together what that will look like and how long it will take. I almost want to ask her to allow me to complete 3 months but then I think what’s the point. Then it’s all about me and my goal and not about her and the fact that she actually likes having sex with my penis inside her and feeling me cum in her. So again I need to let her lead when she does and try not make the decisions for her. so many good good things about male chastity for guys and their wives.
My wife tolerates the cage for me and she does see the benefits and loves them but is still very slowly becoming a key holder. I have learnt that she cannot be pushed into it and it’s probably going to take years for her to fully embrace it but slowly and surely I am being patient. Sometimes she will hide the key, sometimes she forgets where it is and sometimes she just lets it stay by my bedside out of convenience to her. Either way I ask permission to remove her cage when required for sport.
This brings me to my title 50 days Orgasm free and counting.
I got my wife to read the guide “The secret to a happy marriage” and after reading it she said it helped her understand why I want the cage and why I feel it helps me.
This was a breakthrough and she agreed to help me start with a long lockup at her discretion. I asked for 3 months to help break my masturbation habit completely and give her time to discover what she likes. She agreed to try then we realised our wedding anniversary was 55 days in and so she stated that would be a better target. At the time I remember thinking this would be very hard for me. It was pretty hard for the first two weeks but then everything calmed down and it became easier. I’m now 50 days in and finding its life changing. Things that I used to find sexual other than my wife no longer bother me. She has become my only source of pleasure. She can play with my balls caged or release me for a play but no cum which she’s done a couple of times.
She is not very sexual at the moment and so am orgasm once a week or fortnight is enough for her. This is the hardest part as living caged certainly makes me want to pleasure her but my advances are not always appreciated. So I am learning slowly to be the best husband I can and to be even more patient than I thought I could. After 50 days I can honestly say that a long initial lockup is a very good idea once you have found the right cage. I thought I’d found the right cage with my rigid chastity pa cage but then I have issues with my 8mm pa piercing where the flared part puts too much pressure around the outside exterior of the piercing hole. I stumbled across a fix for me where if I pull my foreskin back all the way the pressure doesn’t create sores anymore allowing me to be locked longer than about a week when I was wearing my foreskin forward as designed.
I also am of the opinion that any cage where you can pull out is not suitable for me. I need to know I cannot pull out so when she has the keys that’s it. For me I need the mental and physical aspect to chastity to be able to enjoy it.
So now I’m actually a bit scared that in 5 days she will want me to cum and I’m afraid of the drop afterwards and how long it will take to get back to where I’m at now but also I realise that we need to find out together what that will look like and how long it will take. I almost want to ask her to allow me to complete 3 months but then I think what’s the point. Then it’s all about me and my goal and not about her and the fact that she actually likes having sex with my penis inside her and feeling me cum in her. So again I need to let her lead when she does and try not make the decisions for her. so many good good things about male chastity for guys and their wives.
