8 With A

[Now Alexandra]

8 With A: @Mrs and mr

Welcome to 8 With A ... the sometimes ridiculous, often probing, highly random mix of 8 questions that allow us here at Chastity Mansion to take a deeper dive into one of our amazing members. This time, we have the amazing @Mrs and mr who not only thoughtfully answered all of my nosy questions, but got nine for the price of eight! As always, you never know what your gonna get.

Away we go ...

Hi Mrs and Mr! Welcome to 8 With A. Your profile gave me some great content to work with, so you ended up with nine questions, because I liked them all and didn’t want to cut one. Have fun!

Disclaimer: You’re about to answer eight questions about yourself. Some of these may be considered probing, blunt or even mildly offensive (that’s half the fun). By answering these questions, you are confirming your consent.

1. Your “About” says you started chastity in April of 2025. What prompted you to first try it?

I read stories and usually skipped past chastity titled stories but have read many where it played a part. So I understood the general concept of it but it wasn’t really something that fit into our style. Well one day we were fooling around I was very excited and my wife said “I did not give you permission to get an erection” and for some reason a chastity cage came to mind. So I read all the stories I had skipped over in the past. Then I talked to my wife about it and she did her own research.

2. You’re in a Female Led Marriage. How did you meet your wife and how did your Female Led dynamic come to be?

I was introduced to my wife by her previous girlfriend. I dated her for a short time and even though we got along we just didn't click as a couple. After we figured out that we didn't match and the pressure was over we started down the friend path and there was full disclosure. After which she told me she wanted to introduce me to her past girlfriend. We ended up all going out together and we really hit it off. My wife was told all about me, so we started off as a FLR instead of becoming one.

3. You’re a lawyer and a fan of strap-ons. Is it as simple as the obvious “after a long day of fucking people, I like to come home and get fucked” or am I missing something?

So I’m a contract attorney, and while I do draw up contracts that are tilted in favor of who I work for I also help people get out of them as well. I was introduced to strapon play during my first dom/sub relationship. It turned out my prostate is very sensitive and I enjoy being the bottom. Fun fact me and my wife’s first time having sex was her pegging me.

4. You’ve described your relationship as a “kinky FLR,” and your wife is clearly adventurous. What do you think her best quality is?

Her best quality is confidence. This goes well with her being a lawyer and in our relationship. She is easy to follow because she knows where we are going and exactly what to do. She also has a smile and a look that puts you at ease. So even though I look more like Dee Snyder than RuPaul in makeup she make me feel pretty.

5. What is the first thing you notice about women in general?

Their general look, not just physical appearance but how they compose themselves and how they dress. There is nothing sexier than a well dressed woman.

6. You describe yourself as a submissive and a sissy. What does being a sissy mean to you?

Sissy means different things to different people. If I were to genuinely describe our relationship I’d use the term role reversal. I don’t use it as a scene but as a lifestyle. My wife likes me to dress feminine and over the years it has progressed. So I guess since I’m the wife, I wear cute outfits, I’m in chastity and am the bottom. Maybe I just might be a sissy. But I still go downstairs when there’s a noise and take out the spiders.

7. In two sentences or less, what is your biggest turn on?

Dominant confidence. No feeling around, this is what we’re doing and this is how we’re doing it.

8. Vince Neil from Motley Crue looks like shit and sings even worse. Does it bother you when rock bands keep touring long after they should have stopped?

Yes, yes, yes! We saw Phil Collins, he was this old man who could barely walk. He had to sit the whole concert and could no longer play the drums. It was sad and kinda pathetic.

9. Monogamous friendship question: You’ve been on Chastity Mansion for about eight months. If you had to name one person from the site to teleport to your home to have a drink with you and your wife, who would it be?

So there’s been a few times here when I’ve offended a few people for reasons that still elude me. A couple of people here came to my defense. The intrepid boyager and porn addict, I’d have a glass of wine with them.

Are you kidding me? What an awesome bunch of answers. And to think, when @Mrs and mr reached out he wasn't sure how it would go. Well, it went smashing. To sum up: His wife dropped the hammer and said "I didn't give you permission to get an erection" (I love her already), he met his wife through a different Dominant female, he has a very sensitive prostate - repeat, very sensitive, his wife is a confident chica, she likes him to dress feminine, Dominant confidence revs his engine, Vince Neil sucks and Phil Collins, I mean, come on ... and @IntrepidBoyager and @PornAddict103 would be welcome to 86 a bottle of wine.

This ruled. This was really, really fun. Well done @Mrs and mr

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[Mrs and mr]

8 With A: @Mrs and mr

Welcome to 8 With A ... the sometimes ridiculous, often probing, highly random mix of 8 questions that allow us here at Chastity Mansion to take a deeper dive into one of our amazing members. This time, we have the amazing @Mrs and mr who not only thoughtfully answered all of my nosy questions, but got nine for the price of eight! As always, you never know what your gonna get.

Away we go ...

Hi Mrs and Mr! Welcome to 8 With A. Your profile gave me some great content to work with, so you ended up with nine questions, because I liked them all and didn’t want to cut one. Have fun!

Disclaimer: You’re about to answer eight questions about yourself. Some of these may be considered probing, blunt or even mildly offensive (that’s half the fun). By answering these questions, you are confirming your consent.

1. Your “About” says you started chastity in April of 2025. What prompted you to first try it?

I read stories and usually skipped past chastity titled stories but have read many where it played a part. So I understood the general concept of it but it wasn’t really something that fit into our style. Well one day we were fooling around I was very excited and my wife said “I did not give you permission to get an erection” and for some reason a chastity cage came to mind. So I read all the stories I had skipped over in the past. Then I talked to my wife about it and she did her own research.

2. You’re in a Female Led Marriage. How did you meet your wife and how did your Female Led dynamic come to be?

I was introduced to my wife by her previous girlfriend. I dated her for a short time and even though we got along we just didn't click as a couple. After we figured out that we didn't match and the pressure was over we started down the friend path and there was full disclosure. After which she told me she wanted to introduce me to her past girlfriend. We ended up all going out together and we really hit it off. My wife was told all about me, so we started off as a FLR instead of becoming one.

3. You’re a lawyer and a fan of strap-ons. Is it as simple as the obvious “after a long day of fucking people, I like to come home and get fucked” or am I missing something?

So I’m a contract attorney, and while I do draw up contracts that are tilted in favor of who I work for I also help people get out of them as well. I was introduced to strapon play during my first dom/sub relationship. It turned out my prostate is very sensitive and I enjoy being the bottom. Fun fact me and my wife’s first time having sex was her pegging me.

4. You’ve described your relationship as a “kinky FLR,” and your wife is clearly adventurous. What do you think her best quality is?

Her best quality is confidence. This goes well with her being a lawyer and in our relationship. She is easy to follow because she knows where we are going and exactly what to do. She also has a smile and a look that puts you at ease. So even though I look more like Dee Snyder than RuPaul in makeup she make me feel pretty.

5. What is the first thing you notice about women in general?

Their general look, not just physical appearance but how they compose themselves and how they dress. There is nothing sexier than a well dressed woman.

6. You describe yourself as a submissive and a sissy. What does being a sissy mean to you?

Sissy means different things to different people. If I were to genuinely describe our relationship I’d use the term role reversal. I don’t use it as a scene but as a lifestyle. My wife likes me to dress feminine and over the years it has progressed. So I guess since I’m the wife, I wear cute outfits, I’m in chastity and am the bottom. Maybe I just might be a sissy. But I still go downstairs when there’s a noise and take out the spiders.

7. In two sentences or less, what is your biggest turn on?

Dominant confidence. No feeling around, this is what we’re doing and this is how we’re doing it.

8. Vince Neil from Motley Crue looks like shit and sings even worse. Does it bother you when rock bands keep touring long after they should have stopped?

Yes, yes, yes! We saw Phil Collins, he was this old man who could barely walk. He had to sit the whole concert and could no longer play the drums. It was sad and kinda pathetic.

9. Monogamous friendship question: You’ve been on Chastity Mansion for about eight months. If you had to name one person from the site to teleport to your home to have a drink with you and your wife, who would it be?

So there’s been a few times here when I’ve offended a few people for reasons that still elude me. A couple of people here came to my defense. The intrepid boyager and porn addict, I’d have a glass of wine with them.

Are you kidding me? What an awesome bunch of answers. And to think, when @Mrs and mr reached out he wasn't sure how it would go. Well, it went smashing. To sum up: His wife dropped the hammer and said "I didn't give you permission to get an erection" (I love her already), he met his wife through a different Dominant female, he has a very sensitive prostate - repeat, very sensitive, his wife is a confident chica, she likes him to dress feminine, Dominant confidence revs his engine, Vince Neil sucks and Phil Collins, I mean, come on ... and @IntrepidBoyager and @PornAddict103 would be welcome to 86 a bottle of wine.

This ruled. This was really, really fun. Well done @Mrs and mr

Follow @Mrs and mr here at CM.

Wanna play 8 With A? DM me @Now Alexandra

This was pretty painless I hope more people ask to do 8 with A.

Thanks Alexandra.

 

[Now Alexandra]

8 With A: @nohair

Welcome to 8 With A ... the sometimes Danish, often obnoxious, highly random mix of 8 questions that allow us here at Chastity Mansion to take a deeper dive into one of our amazing members. This time, we have the eloquent @nohair who not only answered all of my nosy questions, but did so at an A+ thoughtful level. This is a good one!

Disclaimer: You’re about to answer (at least) eight questions about yourself. Some of these may be considered probing, blunt or even mildly offensive (that’s half the fun). By answering these questions, you are confirming your consent.

Away we go ...

Hi Alexandra - some good questions! You must have done a bit of research. Note: it's important that each of these are personalized to some degree. That way we can all get to know you better.

Please post your other sites, links or socials since the payback for answering these silly questions is that you get to promote your shizzit. Where else can people find you?

I really am not into social media, so apart from CM I only use a danish dating site boyfriend.dk - I am also "nohair" there.

1. You discovered chastity in 2024 and have described it as “fascinating.” What fascinates you about it? Please provide a fascinating answer.

I’m a thinking person. ”I think, therefore I am” – yup, that’s me. Sports? Nope. Handyman? No way. I can cook, but that is as far as I go. Chastity just trips my mind in a big way. You lock your dick away and deny yourself the great feeling of having an orgasm. Why would you do that? Because it catapults my mind into a ”I want it - I cannot get it – I could ask for it – I don’t want to!” cycle. And what to do with all that pent-up energy? We’ve all heard about the monks and priests who chose celibacy to focus their energy on their appreciation of God – I’m an atheist, but I can understand now how that mechanism works. To me, it confirms that mans most important sex organ is between our ears, not our legs.

2. You’ve been married for 25+ years in an open relationship. Define “open” in your dynamic.

When I met my husband, I was 24 and he was 43. He had been sexually active for many years, whereas I was only just discovering that I was gay. He knew that he could not give me all of the sexual adventures I – in his opinion! – should try, so from the very start he pushed me into having sex with others and experimenting with several varieties of sex. I didn’t want to – I had the romantic idea of “I only want to be with you”. “No you don’t”, he said. And he was right. Over the years we have both had several sex partners, but it has strengthened our relationship instead of weakening it. Without this freedom we would not have stayed together for 37 years.

3. Name one thing your husband does that you absolutely love.

Every morning, he gets out of bed at 6:30 am and prepares breakfast for me before I go to work. Home-baked bread, cheese, tea, lots of fresh fruit. While he is doing that, I have plenty of time to go through my morning routine of shower-shave-get dressed without having to hurry. He makes sure I have a great beginning of the day, every day.

And blowjobs. He is really good at them, and it is his favorite kind of sex.

4. How does Denmark consistently rank among the happiest countries in the world while receiving approximately 17 minutes of sunlight every winter?

I have no idea. I hate the winter darkness - I was born in mid-June when we have 17½ hours of daylight every day, as opposed to December with a measly 7 hours of “daylight” (more like twilight, really). I need light to be happy and am seriously considering a move to Portugal when I retire (I've learned to speak portuguese).

5. Push comes to shove … would you rather give or receive a blowjob?

Both? I love the blowjobs my husband gives me, but when I am with others I prefer to be the one doing the blowing.

6. You work in IT. How heavy does it weigh on your conscience that you get paid a good salary to tell someone to reboot their computer?

If someone were willing to pay my current salary just to tell them to reboot their computer, then I might consider it! Seriously, that would be extremely boring and that is not what I do for a living (unless my family calls and asks for help – “but you are so good with computers!” Yes, mom...). I design the IT security systems so neither my colleagues nor our customers have to worry about their money or data ending up in the wrong hands. I see that as my small contribution to making the world a better place.

7. In 2 sentences or less, what is your biggest turn-on?

Smooth, muscular legs. I am lucky to live in a city where so many people ride bikes, and so many males adore their carbon-fiber techno miracle of a bike that they voluntarily shave their legs and dress up in lycra shorts for the real “pro biker” experience.

8. What percentage of your Danish conversations are about the weather or bicycles?

Well, one answer up I was talking about bicycles … Weather is always an ice-breaker to get the smalltalk going. It changes so much in Denmark that there is always something to say. Perhaps 50% weather, 20% bicycling (especially in July when there is a Dane in the Tour de France) or football, and the rest is bickering about politics. I am a complete sports ignorant, so I often haven’t got a clue what all the fuss is about during office lunch, but I do try to follow along and learn a little about who is who in that world.

9. Chastity Mansion can be a sexy site. If there was one member you could have teleported to your bed for sexy time or to the nearest pub for stimulating conversation, who would it be? Choose the person and the setting.

This is a difficult question. CM is mostly heterosexual, so I would probably prefer to teleport one of the cuckolding bulls to my bed – or two, for a hot “spit-roasting” session. (One of my hottest experiences when I was in my early twenties…)

I would really like to have dinner with @longtallsally (and her Pete). Her journal of ups and downs while figuring out chastity was very inspiring for me when I first came to CM, especially how she analyzes why us males behave the way we do. Sadly she has been absent for some time now.

Holy moly. That was terrific. Let me sum up: @nohair is a thinker, is fascinated by chastity and is not into sports. He and his husband have an open relationship at request of his husband (so loving) and nohair attributes it to their happiness and durability. His husband gives superb head, his family calls him if they have a computer problem (have you tried rebooting?), smooth, muscular legs turn him on, Danish people talk about the weather or bicycles 70% of the time and he would love to have dinner with longtallsally. Amazing. I love this!

Check out @nohair here: https://chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?members/nohair.127672/#about

Wanna play 8 With A? DM me @Now Alexandra

 

[Claud_Bear]

8 With A: @Mrs and mr

Welcome to 8 With A ... the sometimes ridiculous, often probing, highly random mix of 8 questions that allow us here at Chastity Mansion to take a deeper dive into one of our amazing members. This time, we have the amazing @Mrs and mr who not only thoughtfully answered all of my nosy questions, but got nine for the price of eight! As always, you never know what your gonna get.

Away we go ...

Hi Mrs and Mr! Welcome to 8 With A. Your profile gave me some great content to work with, so you ended up with nine questions, because I liked them all and didn’t want to cut one. Have fun!

Disclaimer: You’re about to answer eight questions about yourself. Some of these may be considered probing, blunt or even mildly offensive (that’s half the fun). By answering these questions, you are confirming your consent.

1. Your “About” says you started chastity in April of 2025. What prompted you to first try it?

I read stories and usually skipped past chastity titled stories but have read many where it played a part. So I understood the general concept of it but it wasn’t really something that fit into our style. Well one day we were fooling around I was very excited and my wife said “I did not give you permission to get an erection” and for some reason a chastity cage came to mind. So I read all the stories I had skipped over in the past. Then I talked to my wife about it and she did her own research.

2. You’re in a Female Led Marriage. How did you meet your wife and how did your Female Led dynamic come to be?

I was introduced to my wife by her previous girlfriend. I dated her for a short time and even though we got along we just didn't click as a couple. After we figured out that we didn't match and the pressure was over we started down the friend path and there was full disclosure. After which she told me she wanted to introduce me to her past girlfriend. We ended up all going out together and we really hit it off. My wife was told all about me, so we started off as a FLR instead of becoming one.

3. You’re a lawyer and a fan of strap-ons. Is it as simple as the obvious “after a long day of fucking people, I like to come home and get fucked” or am I missing something?

So I’m a contract attorney, and while I do draw up contracts that are tilted in favor of who I work for I also help people get out of them as well. I was introduced to strapon play during my first dom/sub relationship. It turned out my prostate is very sensitive and I enjoy being the bottom. Fun fact me and my wife’s first time having sex was her pegging me.

4. You’ve described your relationship as a “kinky FLR,” and your wife is clearly adventurous. What do you think her best quality is?

Her best quality is confidence. This goes well with her being a lawyer and in our relationship. She is easy to follow because she knows where we are going and exactly what to do. She also has a smile and a look that puts you at ease. So even though I look more like Dee Snyder than RuPaul in makeup she make me feel pretty.

5. What is the first thing you notice about women in general?

Their general look, not just physical appearance but how they compose themselves and how they dress. There is nothing sexier than a well dressed woman.

6. You describe yourself as a submissive and a sissy. What does being a sissy mean to you?

Sissy means different things to different people. If I were to genuinely describe our relationship I’d use the term role reversal. I don’t use it as a scene but as a lifestyle. My wife likes me to dress feminine and over the years it has progressed. So I guess since I’m the wife, I wear cute outfits, I’m in chastity and am the bottom. Maybe I just might be a sissy. But I still go downstairs when there’s a noise and take out the spiders.

7. In two sentences or less, what is your biggest turn on?

Dominant confidence. No feeling around, this is what we’re doing and this is how we’re doing it.

8. Vince Neil from Motley Crue looks like shit and sings even worse. Does it bother you when rock bands keep touring long after they should have stopped?

Yes, yes, yes! We saw Phil Collins, he was this old man who could barely walk. He had to sit the whole concert and could no longer play the drums. It was sad and kinda pathetic.

9. Monogamous friendship question: You’ve been on Chastity Mansion for about eight months. If you had to name one person from the site to teleport to your home to have a drink with you and your wife, who would it be?

So there’s been a few times here when I’ve offended a few people for reasons that still elude me. A couple of people here came to my defense. The intrepid boyager and porn addict, I’d have a glass of wine with them.

Are you kidding me? What an awesome bunch of answers. And to think, when @Mrs and mr reached out he wasn't sure how it would go. Well, it went smashing. To sum up: His wife dropped the hammer and said "I didn't give you permission to get an erection" (I love her already), he met his wife through a different Dominant female, he has a very sensitive prostate - repeat, very sensitive, his wife is a confident chica, she likes him to dress feminine, Dominant confidence revs his engine, Vince Neil sucks and Phil Collins, I mean, come on ... and @IntrepidBoyager and @PornAddict103 would be welcome to 86 a bottle of wine.

This ruled. This was really, really fun. Well done @Mrs and mr

Follow @Mrs and mr here at CM.

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What an awesome idea and such a good way to get to know members. Well done.

 

[Now Alexandra]

What an awesome idea and such a good way to get to know members. Well done.

I agree. Thanks, Claud!

 

[Ruffian]

May I make a suggestion? Get others like in the chat to ask the questions...that way someone else may ask something you would never think of. But this is not my game. So I really have no say so here.

 

[longtallsally]

I would really like to have dinner with @longtallsally (and her Pete). Her journal of ups and downs while figuring out chastity was very inspiring for me when I first came to CM, especially how she analyzes why us males behave the way we do. Sadly she has been absent for some time now.

I've been feeling very ambivalent about chastity this past year but reading your message made me feel a little warm glow. Thank you. You've prompted me to do an update to my journal, which I'll write this afternoon. Our air-con has broken and we're all home from work! x Sal

 

[Now Alexandra]

May I make a suggestion? Get others like in the chat to ask the questions...that way someone else may ask something you would never think of. But this is not my game. So I really have no say so here.

For a time we did a version of what you are suggesting. However, its a smaller population of people who use the chat room, so it made sense to ask the questions via DM.

 

[Claud_Bear]

1. You’ve been exploring chastity since November of 2023. Whose idea was it and how did you first get interested in locking up?

C- It was my idea. I learned about male chastity online and got a cage off of eBay. I tried it without telling or asking Ruffian first and saw it was interesting. While trying to find out how to get a proper fit I joined the mansion and learned how it could be a tool to breathe some life into our slowing bedroom life. Due to some health issues on my part, sex was slowing way down.

R-Claud needs to answer this one. He started it all.

2. Ruffian, if I read your “About” section correctly, you seem to have Dominant and submissive tendencies. Would you consider yourself a switch or something else?

R- I am not a one size fits all type person. I can play both sides . For me it is about my current mood. If I am in the mood to be submissive , Claud has tied me up and beat me with a coat hanger. But I also have a dominate mean streak where I like to cause pain. But for the most part I am chill and go with the flow.

3. Mutual love-fest question. What is the first thing that comes to mind when you think about your partner?

C- Loving, thoughtful, best friend.

R- Too many things come to mind. He is my best friend (which for me is a really big deal) . I trust him unconditionally and love him with all of my heart.

4. Claud, you can be very whiny when you don’t get a release. Have you ever considered changing your name to Karen?

C- Ahhh, no, i haven't. And i don't get that whiny.........

5. Ruffian, what is the most amazing compliment Claud has ever given you?

R-He tells me I am beautiful. Especially when I am not feeling it myself.

6. Claud, on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being “nope” and 10 being “yes, yes, one thousand times yes!” how much do you love it when Ruffian takes control of you?

C- As of right now, I guess that would be an 8. We are still learning what makes each other tick and there are times where she takes control but it is not in a way i foresaw or planed on so it can be a little frustrating. I have to consciously remind myself not to "top from the bottom" Its still a work in progress.



7. Follow up – regardless of your rating, what do you want more of, Claud?

C- Hmmm, I guess something I would like more of is Ruffian to be more comfortable with taking what she wants and to push me more to continue playing the game we are playing. I get desperate and horny and eventually will start to beg to be allowed to have an orgasm. Most of the time, she holds me to it but there are times she gives me a treat. As of right now, we are at about a 5:1 ratio for orgasms. Would be good to maintain that or make it a little higher.


8. Follow up to the follow up – how do you feel about that, Ruffian?

R-R- I just asked for clarification. He likes it when I take more control over what he wants. I told him some new rules this morning. He does not do well with change. I love change so I know it drives him crazy. He wanted this game. So now he gets to experience it with all of its glory. Sucker!!!

9. Ruffian, what drew you to dick-centric artwork and which frame would be best for Claud’s rendering – tiny wallet size, tiny-tiny wallet size, 5x7 or 8x10. Be honest now, I know you’ve seen it. (And don’t forget to talk about what got you interested!)

R- When it comes to sex, I love large dicks.. I must say 8x10. Unfortunately Claud likes his little dick all caged up. It does make me sad.

10. For both of you … what’s your favorite song?

C- Breathe by Faith Hill. Its our song. I have lots of favorite songs. All have a special reason.

R- I love music I dont have a favorite. But my favorite couple song is Breathe by Trisha Yearwood/ It was our wedding dance song. Other fine mentions are Nothing else matters, .

11. Chastity Mansion can be a sexy site. If there was one member you could have teleported to your bed for sexy time OR to the nearest pub for a fun conversation, who would it be? Choose the person and the setting. Ruffian, ladies first.

R- Claud, I said he is my best friend. I meant it. He has been my favorite person since I was 16. No one else comes close.

C- Mojo would be one to sit down with. He has been a friend to both of us from near the beginning

 

[Now Alexandra]

8 With A: @Ruffian @Claud_Bear

Welcome to a very special 8 With A because today we have our very first couple! The wonderful @Ruffian and equally terrific @Claud_Bear hopped into the hot seat and agreed to answer my nosy questions. As you can see from the posting above, this interview has already been up for a short while, but I wanted to give it the full 8 With A treatment, because when people take the time to sit for these probing questions, my job is to put the polish and shine on it. It's the least I can do! These are terrific humans. They deserve the best.

So, without further ado ...

Disclaimer: You’re about to answer (at least) eight questions about yourself. Some of these may be considered probing, blunt or even mildly offensive (that’s half the fun). By answering these questions, you are confirming your consent.

1. You’ve been exploring chastity since November of 2023. Whose idea was it and how did you first get interested in locking up?

Ruffian: Claud needs to answer this one. He started it all.

Claud: It was my idea. I learned about male chastity online and got a cage off of eBay. I tried it without telling or asking Ruffian first and saw it was interesting. While trying to find out how to get a proper fit I joined the mansion and learned how it could be a tool to breathe some life into our slowing bedroom life. Due to some health issues on my part, sex was slowing way down.

2. Ruffian, if I read your “About” section correctly, you seem to have Dominant and submissive tendencies. Would you consider yourself a switch or something else?

R: I am not a one size fits all type person. I can play both sides . For me it is about my current mood. If I am in the mood to be submissive , Claud has tied me up and beat me with a coat hanger. But I also have a dominate mean streak where I like to cause pain. But for the most part I am chill and go with the flow.

3. Mutual love-fest question. What is the first thing that comes to mind when you think about your partner?

C: Loving, thoughtful, best friend.

R: Too many things come to mind. He is my best friend (which for me is a really big deal) . I trust him unconditionally and love him with all of my heart.

4. Claud, you can be very whiny when you don’t get a release. Have you ever considered changing your name to Karen?

C: Ahhh, no, i haven't. And i don't get that whiny......... (Editor's note: )

5. Ruffian, what is the most amazing compliment Claud has ever given you?

R: He tells me I am beautiful. Especially when I am not feeling it myself.

6. Claud, on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being “nope” and 10 being “yes, yes, one thousand times yes!” how much do you love it when Ruffian takes control of you?

C: As of right now, I guess that would be an 8. We are still learning what makes each other tick and there are times where she takes control but it is not in a way i foresaw or planed on so it can be a little frustrating. I have to consciously remind myself not to "top from the bottom" Its still a work in progress.

7. Follow up – regardless of your rating, what do you want more of, Claud?

C: Hmmm, I guess something I would like more of is Ruffian to be more comfortable with taking what she wants and to push me more to continue playing the game we are playing. I get desperate and horny and eventually will start to beg to be allowed to have an orgasm. Most of the time, she holds me to it but there are times she gives me a treat. As of right now, we are at about a 5:1 ratio for orgasms. Would be good to maintain that or make it a little higher.

8. Follow up to the follow up – how do you feel about that, Ruffian?

R: I just asked for clarification. He likes it when I take more control over what he wants. I told him some new rules this morning. He does not do well with change. I love change so I know it drives him crazy. He wanted this game. So now he gets to experience it with all of its glory. Sucker!!!

9. Ruffian, what drew you to dick-centric artwork and which frame would be best for Claud’s rendering – tiny wallet size, tiny-tiny wallet size, 5x7 or 8x10. Be honest now, I know you’ve seen it. (And don’t forget to talk about what got you interested!)

R: When it comes to sex, I love large dicks.. I must say 8x10. Unfortunately Claud likes his little dick all caged up. It does make me sad.

10. For both of you … what’s your favorite song?

C: Breathe by Faith Hill. Its our song. I have lots of favorite songs. All have a special reason.

R: I love music I dont have a favorite. But my favorite couple song is Breathe by Trisha Yearwood/ It was our wedding dance song. Other fine mentions are Nothing else matters.

11. Chastity Mansion can be a sexy site. If there was one member you could have teleported to your bed for sexy time OR to the nearest pub for a fun conversation, who would it be? Choose the person and the setting. Ruffian, ladies first.

R: Claud, I said he is my best friend. I meant it. He has been my favorite person since I was 16. No one else comes close.

C: @Mojoman would be one to sit down with. He has been a friend to both of us from near the beginning

Now that was fantastic! Can you feel the love? Best friends ... I'm melting in the warm feels. Our first couple too! Let's sum up: Claud brought chastity into their relationship, Ruffian can play both sides, but definitely has a Dominant, mean streak (and we love you for it), they're best friends, Claud tells her she's beautiful even when she's not feeling it ... he tries not to top from the bottom, Ruffian gets five orgasms to his one (lucky girl), Question 9 was perfectly done small-penis-humiliation by Ruffian, and they both have the same favorite song!

I love this so much! Thanks again for playing!

Learn more about Ruffian here: https://chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?members/ruffian.116341/#about
Learn more about Claud here: https://chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?members/claud_bear.114993/#about

Wanna play 8 With A? DM me @Now Alexandra

 

[Mojoman]

I feel very honoured to have got a mention...... thank you for your kind words Claud. I also thank both you and Ruffian for your open-minded and honest approach in the many chats we have shared.

@Now Alexandra I'd be happy to do an 8 with A session, if you'd like to?

 

[Now Alexandra]

I feel very honoured to have got a mention...... thank you for your kind words Claud. I also thank both you and Ruffian for your open-minded and honest approach in the many chats we have shared.

@Now Alexandra I'd be happy to do an 8 with A session, if you'd like to?

Love it. Let me do some fun research and develop your questions. I’ll reach out, Mojo!

 

[Mojoman]

Oh-oh........ what have I said ??

 

[Kali]

Really liked the couple discussion. Nice to hear both sides, as it were.

 

[Now Alexandra]

Really liked the couple discussion. Nice to hear both sides, as it were.

Right? So great! You can feel the love and partnership when you read it. So incredibly sweet!

 

[Now Alexandra]

8 With A: @cshorts

Welcome to 8 With A ... the sometimes probing, often silly, highly random mix of 8 questions that allow us here at Chastity Mansion to take a deeper dive into one of our amazing members. This time, we have the extremely eloquent @cshorts who not only answered all of my nosy questions, but even indulged me on pegging and porn stereotypes. This is a fun one!

Disclaimer Señor Shorts: You’re about to answer (at least) eight questions about yourself. Some of these may be considered probing, blunt or even mildly offensive (that’s half the fun). By answering these questions, you are confirming your consent.

Thank you for engaging me in this fun activity (and for taking the time to do the research).

Please post your other sites, links or socials since the payback for answering these silly questions is that you get to promote your shizzit. Where else can people find you?

I really don't participate in other socials or sites under this pseudonym, except (minimally) Tom Allen's ChastityForums.com. My other online sites and forum participation is under my real name (sorry )

Away we go …

1. You’ve been exploring chastity since 2018. What was it that sparked your interest and how did it feel to lock up for the first time?

My wife and I were in a somewhat stagnant place sexually -- my desire for more kink and variety was not matching her tastes (though we both very much enjoyed the sex we did have, and had and have a very strong, loving relationship). Then I stumbled on male chastity and it almost overnight seemed like a great opportunity: plays to my submissiveness and desire for more kink, and takes most of the pressure off her (in particular letting her be completely in charge of what we do -- or don't do). I ordered my first cage a day or two later, and privately locked up for a few weeks before broaching the idea with her. The first lock up was wonderful: it just seemed so *right* for me. So much so that I have been 24/7 right from the start.

2. You describe your wife as having gotten “increasingly aggressive” as a Dominant. Define, fine Sir.

She doesn't seem to get turned on directly by kinky play, but she is very loving and enjoys seeing me get all hot and bothered. She now pegs me regularly, and gives me a thrashing (with tawse or riding crop) from time to time -- sometimes as genuine punishment, not play. A couple of years ago I started reading sexy books to her before she goes to sleep, and while I'm reading, pretty much every night, she engages in some CBT and nipple torture ... and she has been steadily amping up the intensity (she has become particularly fond of using her nails on my scrotum and penis, through the cage bars, and she bites down on my pierced nipples pretty fiercely). She doesn't command me outside the bedroom a lot, but she does expect me to deliver her coffee in bed every morning, and breakfast in bed every Sunday. She has me provide a good night or good morning (genital) "kiss" pretty much 7 days a week. Oh, and she expects me to be naked every night from the time I start preparing her dinner until we fall asleep.

3. In your experience, is the professor/student porn construct real? It seems like those actors are awfully old to be taking Intro to Sexuality.

Good question! A little bit? I've had a few of my students approach me about having an affair -- one actually volunteered (when I was between marriages) to be my wife (she was a bit, umm, strange). I didn't take them up on it -- I draw a pretty bright line about what is acceptable with students I'm responsible for. But I did have relationships with 2 or 3 other (older, graduate) students I met (when I was in my early 30s) who were not in my department or classes. And, well... my current wife was a PhD student in my department when we met. She wasn't my student, and we didn't have a social or sexual relationship until after she graduated and became a professor (at a different university), though we did some research and published together so got to know each other pretty well.

4. What’s your favorite song to play on the piano?

This varies over time. I play almost exclusively classical. In the past few years, my two favorites have been Beethoven's Tempest Sonata, and Schubert's D894 G Major Sonata. Some time before that I loved playing Bach's Italian Concerto.

5. Push comes to shove – would you rather she peg you or you peg her?

Both are great! But push comes to shove ... I never seem to get enough of her pegging me. Me pegging her I love because I love to give her pleasure (and she really loves penetration, and easily has multiple orgasms), but of course it doesn't do as much *physically* for me

6. You said she denies you for roughly three months at a time. Does your submission level rise over that time? If so, when does it peak?

I don't think I've noticed that much of a change in submissiveness over lockups. Currently I'm at 117 days (longest ever) and my submission doesn't seem to have fallen off: I seek small ways to serve her throughout the day, and love every opportunity to provide her sexual pleasure (which as I mentioned is pretty much daily with oral).

7. Follow-up: When she does unlock you for sexy time, do you pop in less than a minute?

No. I've always been blessed with good stamina, and that doesn't seem to have changed to much with chastity. Sometimes it's a bit more of a challenge, but generally I can engage for as long as she wants me to, holding off until she tells me she's had enough and tells me to cum. Indeed, she doesn't always let me cum even when she unlocks me for intercourse (without numbing cream and condom, which she requires me to use for *most* of our PIV), so I *need* to wait until mistress instructs me to orgasm.

8. When did you know you were bisexual?

I guess I've pretty much known since I was a teen: that's when I had my first couple of same sex encounters, and enjoyed them. I did a bit of gay bar cruising in my 20s. But my desires and fantasies have become stronger over time.

9. Rate the following classical pianists on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being a total hack and 10 being the piano equivalent of Eddie Van Halen.

Franz Liszt: There are no recordings of Liszt playing, so we only know his reputation -- which is huge. He really invented the modern notion of solo pianist as concert star. Based on the music he wrote (and performed), and everything written about him, he was a prodigious virtuouso, one of the greatest technicians ever. 10 as a virtuous, but probably quite a bit lower in terms of expression and emotional communication.

Vladimir Horowitz: Really remarkable, in part because of his idiosyncracies. He combined prodigious virtuosity with deeply felt and effective emotional expression in a way that few others have ever achieved. I admire him tremendously, but he doesn't move me quite as much as some others do: 8-9.

Martha Argerich: Another amazing virtuouso, and totally fearless. But I experience her sometimes as a bit cold or distant. 8

Arthur Rubinstein: Astonishing expression and tone production. (Also a fascinating life: his autobiography is one of the best biographies of a pianist I've ever read.) Not technically as strong as the three above, perhaps, but always powerfully moving. 9

Lang Lang: I think to some extent he's gotten a bad rap. He's definitely very talented, and has done a lot to help somewhat younger audiences recognize the excitement and fun of classical music. But, he does overdo the showmanship not infrequently, and that can be quite distracting (and I don't just mean his visual antics at the keyboard: his playing can be very affected at times, too). 6

Let me add one, because I think she is probably my all-time favorite: Yuja Wang. *Not* because of her starting and sexy fashion style (which is pretty amazing for a concert pianist), but because she has as strong a technique as anyone, ever, combined with remarkable sensitivity and expressiveness, and this was true even at a very young age. The first time I heard her, before she was famous, I was totally blown away, and to this day in awe of her ability in fast pianissimo (very quiet) passages (some of the hardest things to play well).

10. Chastity Mansion can be a sexy site. If there was one member you could have teleported to your bed for sexy time OR to the nearest pub for a fun conversation, who would it be?

I'm going to cheat - not just one. I actually have made a friend here who I have met IRL for conversation, and so he's truly #1, but I won't name him. As for fantasy: a pub conversation (and maybe more?) with @Nicoftime. And teleported to my bedroom: @longtallsally ... and of course, you (especially if you would enjoy a brief vacation as a Domme)

I mean, are you kidding? That was AWESOME. Let me sum up. First of all, if you need "anything piano" then @cshorts is your person. Holy college of classical piano knowledge. In addition, chastity just feels "right" ... Mrs cshorts sounds like a CBT keeper ... it's a tough call, but he'd prefer his wife peg him, he orally worships his wife daily (lucky her), he's been blessed with good stamina, is a bit of a pain slut, Yuja Wang is the bean and he wants to hang out with a handful of CM members (smart man). Amazing effort here. Deep thought. Well done.

Check out @cshorts here: https://chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?members/cshorts.60803/#about

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[Sophie'sVeil]

8 With A: @nohair

Welcome to 8 With A ... the sometimes Danish, often obnoxious, highly random mix of 8 questions that allow us here at Chastity Mansion to take a deeper dive into one of our amazing members. This time, we have the eloquent @nohair who not only answered all of my nosy questions, but did so at an A+ thoughtful level. This is a good one!

Disclaimer: You’re about to answer (at least) eight questions about yourself. Some of these may be considered probing, blunt or even mildly offensive (that’s half the fun). By answering these questions, you are confirming your consent.

Away we go ...

Hi Alexandra - some good questions! You must have done a bit of research. Note: it's important that each of these are personalized to some degree. That way we can all get to know you better.

Please post your other sites, links or socials since the payback for answering these silly questions is that you get to promote your shizzit. Where else can people find you?

I really am not into social media, so apart from CM I only use a danish dating site boyfriend.dk - I am also "nohair" there.

1. You discovered chastity in 2024 and have described it as “fascinating.” What fascinates you about it? Please provide a fascinating answer.

I’m a thinking person. ”I think, therefore I am” – yup, that’s me. Sports? Nope. Handyman? No way. I can cook, but that is as far as I go. Chastity just trips my mind in a big way. You lock your dick away and deny yourself the great feeling of having an orgasm. Why would you do that? Because it catapults my mind into a ”I want it - I cannot get it – I could ask for it – I don’t want to!” cycle. And what to do with all that pent-up energy? We’ve all heard about the monks and priests who chose celibacy to focus their energy on their appreciation of God – I’m an atheist, but I can understand now how that mechanism works. To me, it confirms that mans most important sex organ is between our ears, not our legs.

2. You’ve been married for 25+ years in an open relationship. Define “open” in your dynamic.

When I met my husband, I was 24 and he was 43. He had been sexually active for many years, whereas I was only just discovering that I was gay. He knew that he could not give me all of the sexual adventures I – in his opinion! – should try, so from the very start he pushed me into having sex with others and experimenting with several varieties of sex. I didn’t want to – I had the romantic idea of “I only want to be with you”. “No you don’t”, he said. And he was right. Over the years we have both had several sex partners, but it has strengthened our relationship instead of weakening it. Without this freedom we would not have stayed together for 37 years.

3. Name one thing your husband does that you absolutely love.

Every morning, he gets out of bed at 6:30 am and prepares breakfast for me before I go to work. Home-baked bread, cheese, tea, lots of fresh fruit. While he is doing that, I have plenty of time to go through my morning routine of shower-shave-get dressed without having to hurry. He makes sure I have a great beginning of the day, every day.

And blowjobs. He is really good at them, and it is his favorite kind of sex.

4. How does Denmark consistently rank among the happiest countries in the world while receiving approximately 17 minutes of sunlight every winter?

I have no idea. I hate the winter darkness - I was born in mid-June when we have 17½ hours of daylight every day, as opposed to December with a measly 7 hours of “daylight” (more like twilight, really). I need light to be happy and am seriously considering a move to Portugal when I retire (I've learned to speak portuguese).

5. Push comes to shove … would you rather give or receive a blowjob?

Both? I love the blowjobs my husband gives me, but when I am with others I prefer to be the one doing the blowing.

6. You work in IT. How heavy does it weigh on your conscience that you get paid a good salary to tell someone to reboot their computer?

If someone were willing to pay my current salary just to tell them to reboot their computer, then I might consider it! Seriously, that would be extremely boring and that is not what I do for a living (unless my family calls and asks for help – “but you are so good with computers!” Yes, mom...). I design the IT security systems so neither my colleagues nor our customers have to worry about their money or data ending up in the wrong hands. I see that as my small contribution to making the world a better place.

7. In 2 sentences or less, what is your biggest turn-on?

Smooth, muscular legs. I am lucky to live in a city where so many people ride bikes, and so many males adore their carbon-fiber techno miracle of a bike that they voluntarily shave their legs and dress up in lycra shorts for the real “pro biker” experience.

8. What percentage of your Danish conversations are about the weather or bicycles?

Well, one answer up I was talking about bicycles … Weather is always an ice-breaker to get the smalltalk going. It changes so much in Denmark that there is always something to say. Perhaps 50% weather, 20% bicycling (especially in July when there is a Dane in the Tour de France) or football, and the rest is bickering about politics. I am a complete sports ignorant, so I often haven’t got a clue what all the fuss is about during office lunch, but I do try to follow along and learn a little about who is who in that world.

9. Chastity Mansion can be a sexy site. If there was one member you could have teleported to your bed for sexy time or to the nearest pub for stimulating conversation, who would it be? Choose the person and the setting.

This is a difficult question. CM is mostly heterosexual, so I would probably prefer to teleport one of the cuckolding bulls to my bed – or two, for a hot “spit-roasting” session. (One of my hottest experiences when I was in my early twenties…)

I would really like to have dinner with @longtallsally (and her Pete). Her journal of ups and downs while figuring out chastity was very inspiring for me when I first came to CM, especially how she analyzes why us males behave the way we do. Sadly she has been absent for some time now.

Holy moly. That was terrific. Let me sum up: @nohair is a thinker, is fascinated by chastity and is not into sports. He and his husband have an open relationship at request of his husband (so loving) and nohair attributes it to their happiness and durability. His husband gives superb head, his family calls him if they have a computer problem (have you tried rebooting?), smooth, muscular legs turn him on, Danish people talk about the weather or bicycles 70% of the time and he would love to have dinner with longtallsally. Amazing. I love this!

Check out @nohair here: https://chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?members/nohair.127672/#about

Wanna play 8 With A? DM me @Now Alexandra

That was a good one. If you haven't played you should!