A gay mans exploration of chastity

[nohair]

I would like to keep some sort of record of what happens during my exploration of chastity, so I am starting this thread. For myself, but feel free to comment if you like.

My introduction tells you a bit about who I am.

Today I will write about my first experiences with wearing a cage, and using it for sex.

The Holytrainer is the first chastity cage I have used "for real". It is really tight - my dick is 40 mm in diameter and 75 mm long when flaccid, so squeezing into a tube of 33 mm width / 65 mm length takes some effort. And my five frenum (penis shaft) piercings have to be aligned right, or it will quickly become very uncomfortable.

But it is possible, especially after modifying the shape of the ring and drilling off part of the tube to give my piercings a bit more space. And it sits really well, I can almost forget it is there at least when lying down and wearing a tight fitting thong.

I've slept through several nights while wearing it. The nightly erections wake me up, but I fall asleep again. Amazing how your body can accommodate.

And I've had sex while wearing it. What an amazing experience! I really enjoy being on the receiving end of anal sex and my lover was happy to oblige, but the cage stopped me from getting any kind of erection! Really weird. It forced me to focus on the sensations he was giving me instead of focusing on my own dick (which is what usually happens), so it was a very intense session. For both of us, I think.

I've heard (read) a lot of people say that their sex life is more intense and rewarding after being locked up than before. I had difficulties understanding how that could be, until I tried it. Now I am a believer.

 

[LesterBallard]

Good luck

 

[FlaChastityGuy]

That’s awesome! I’m gay and have yet to have sex while caged. Looking forward to that experience.

 

[nohair]

I just ordered a Steelworxx Looker 02 cage. Expected ship date in ... May

 

[Dr MBogo]

I would like to keep some sort of record of what happens during my exploration of chastity, so I am starting this thread. For myself, but feel free to comment if you like.

My introduction tells you a bit about who I am.

Today I will write about my first experiences with wearing a cage, and using it for sex.

The Holytrainer is the first chastity cage I have used "for real". It is really tight - my dick is 40 mm in diameter and 75 mm long when flaccid, so squeezing into a tube of 33 mm width / 65 mm length takes some effort. And my five frenum (penis shaft) piercings have to be aligned right, or it will quickly become very uncomfortable.

But it is possible, especially after modifying the shape of the ring and drilling off part of the tube to give my piercings a bit more space. And it sits really well, I can almost forget it is there at least when lying down and wearing a tight fitting thong.

I've slept through several nights while wearing it. The nightly erections wake me up, but I fall asleep again. Amazing how your body can accommodate.

And I've had sex while wearing it. What an amazing experience! I really enjoy being on the receiving end of anal sex and my lover was happy to oblige, but the cage stopped me from getting any kind of erection! Really weird. It forced me to focus on the sensations he was giving me instead of focusing on my own dick (which is what usually happens), so it was a very intense session. For both of us, I think.

I've heard (read) a lot of people say that their sex life is more intense and rewarding after being locked up than before. I had difficulties understanding how that could be, until I tried it. Now I am a believer.

Fascinating. I am straight, but I have had many of the same experiences, and become much more appreciative of anal sex since locking up. My wife wears a strap on or uses a hand held dildo on me, and I can focus on the feelings I get from that alone, with no involvement of my cock. That's even started me wondering what the real difference is between gay and straight sex. Interesting journey.

 

[Elfman]

I just ordered a Steelworxx Looker 02 cage. Expected ship date in ... May

Congrats. Good luck. Be careful with cages that are too small. They should be sized to your actual penis size, otherwise swelling may occur long term. Smaller is not better.

Getting fucked while locked is A M A Z I N G
Sucking dick while locked is also A M A Z I N G

Having your dom fuck you while the only key to your orgasm is swinging on his neck is, it's just great. savor it, enjoy it.

 

[nohair]

Congrats. Good luck. Be careful with cages that are too small. They should be sized to your actual penis size, otherwise swelling may occur long term. Smaller is not better.

I've tried three different cages of different sizes and done several measurements. And I have used metal cockrings for many years. So I think I've got it right, but I obviously won't know for sure until summer comes

 

[nohair]

Sucking dick while locked is also A M A Z I N G

Did that yesterday for my husband. I was leaking pre-cum all the time

 

[nohair]

I have not worn a cage during the day. I tried it for a couple of hours on Friday, and having my balls rubbed by the seam of my pants really hurt. We were at a friends house so I could not remove the cage, it was so frustrating! How do you guys do it?

But sleeping works fine. I have put on my Holytrainer every night this week and slept with it, so 7-8 hours of being locked every day. A couple of days more than that, because I locked up while I was working from home No masturbation or orgasm for the past week. I wouldn't say that I was feeling desperate today, but certainly in the mood for something to happen. It did, and yes - it was a more intense O than usual. Nice!

 

[madams-sissysub]

Thanks for sharing!

 

[Borntoserve]

I am definitely in the reprogramming phase and my other erogenous zones are really waking up! My Master is helping me to lengthen my lock and become a good fag for him. Erection denial is key for Him..he doesn't believe a fag should have an erection but should beg for caged releases. I'm on Day 26 in the cage... a record for me.

 

[nohair]

This morning I noticed that I enjoy peeing.

It is an act which is as ordinary as can be. We all do it, several times a day.

But now it is an act where I am practically and visually confronted with the fact that I am wearing a cage. Which reminds me of why I am doing this to myself - or rather: "for" myself.

Happy Monday morning

 

[nohair]

Cage #4​

Choosing the right cage can only be done through trial and error. Until someone invents a 3D-scanner and feeds your exact anatomy into a printer or CNC cutter, there is no way that you can be 100% sure if a cage is right for you or not. I've tried three different ones until now, and my Holytrainer has been the favourite and the one I have used most.

I am pretty confident that I've got my measurements right, enough so that I splashed out for a Steelworx cage (to be delivered...). The problem with my HT is that my balls are stretched tight - okay when lying down, not so much when sitting. While browsing the collection of cages available on Amazon, I came across a cheap plastic cage with almost identical dimensions to my Steelworx order. It was 3 mm longer, but that is negligible. And it was constructed in a way so it looked like it would not be a problem for my piercings. "Order now"! It arrived yesterday.

It fits very well. Unlike the HT, my scrotum is stretched but there is still some room left for the balls to adapt to sitting or standing. The cage is bent not quite as low as the HT, leaving a bit more room for the balls as well as my piercings. The tube is snugly around my flaccid penis. I put it on at 5 PM and it stayed on until morning.

Out and about​

The new cage fit so well that I put it on again after showering this morning. We had no plans today other than having a quiet Saturday at home, so using my new toy was appealing.

Then my husband says: "We need some oranges for dinner tonight, and we are also out of a couple of other things. Would you pick them up, please?"

Uh-oh. Should I keep the cage on when going shopping?

My first attempt to wear a cage outside my secure home zone turned out pretty bad (see Jan 19 above). Since then I have only been caged at home. But that was the HT, and now I was wearing a cage that feels much nicer.

It stayed on.

Status of firsts​

So one more checkmark on my list of firsts:

• Wearing a cage: Check
• Sleeping while caged: Check
• Having sex while caged: Check
• Telling my partner I wear a cage: Check
• Telling a friend I wear a cage: Check (but he started it all by telling me that he had bought a cage for himself)
• Going out with friends while caged: Check
• Going shopping while caged: Check

What's next? Wearing a cage to work, I think. I'll probably feel just as when I got my piercings - very self-conscious, even though I know that nobody looks at my crotch to see if I have a piercing or a cage underneath my trousers.

This is not what I had in mind when I bought that first cage, just because I was fascinated by my friend telling me about his (he only uses it as a toy). I thought I knew myself very well, but my subconscious apparently still has some surprises left for me to find out. Isn't that wonderful?

 

[nohair]

Ball-gap: The not-so-standard measurement​

My cage #4 fits so much better than the others, and the really outstanding part is that it allows room for my frenum ladder piercings: 4 barbell piercings on the bottom side of the penis shaft. The other cages I have tried tend to squeez two of those piercings together into the ball-sack, and it started hurting real quick. I managed to modify the HT tube so there was more room, but it was still difficult to get it right.

It is the ball-gap which makes the difference. That is the distance between the bottom front of the base ring and the bottom edge of the cage. Which boils down to "how much room is there for your testicles". The three first cages are 8-12 mm. Cage #4 has 20 mm - just what I need! It also means my testicles can hang a bit more naturally and not be squished between the cage and the base ring when sitting down.

The ordering forms for custom built devices don't have this measurement as something you can choose, but both Steelworx and Bawr agreed to make a cage with this ball-gap for me.

Of course, a large ball-gap means that you might be able to pull out of the cage and free your testicles - meaning a full escape from the cage. But I self-lock, so if I really want out I will just go fetch the key (at least for now).

And one more "first time" event today:

• Locked for more than 24 hours: Check (it was 32 hours)

No "locked at work" yet, a mild flu got in the way and kept me out of the office.

 

[nohair]

Another first time event yesterday (hmm ... 2 AM, actually)

• First orgasm while caged (and not touching my dick)

Very different from my normal orgasms. I was using a wand on the cage and the perineum, and I think I hit the prostate from the outside triggering a "dripping" orgasm. Quite a lot of cum, actually, that just flowed out.

 

[Borntoserve]

Congratulations on your first! I was told by Master on Day 40 that all future orgasms thru day 100 will be handsfree in the cage. I have succeeded 4 times so far..day 56 today. Its amazing how the mind can take over...for me it's my nipples that can trigger me. I love caged releases.

 

[nohair]

Cage #5 - first custom-fit cage!​

Just after Christmas I ordered a BAWR test cage (BR-01) with the measurements I then thought would be right for me: 90 mm long, 42 mm internal cage diameter, 45 mm base ring diameter, 15 mm ball gap.

It turned out to be my good luck that BAWR was backlogged, because over the next couple of weeks I found out that these measurements were much too large. This was triggered by an off-the-shelf cage I found on Amazon, which has so far been the best fitting cage I've had - too bad the locking mechanism is so wobbly that it pinches a lot! So a quick email and it was downsized to 70 mm long, 38 mm internal diameter, and a 22 mm ball gap for my frenum ladder piercings.

The BAWR cage arrived today. And WHAT A DIFFERENCE! I put on the 45 mm base ring which felt just like the others. Then the cage - and it just sat there. No need for a stocking to get into the cage. No need for adjusting my balls so they wouldn't get squeezed between the cage and the base ring. No jostling about to make sure the piercings are in the right place. It. just. fits. I can sit, I can walk, I can cook dinner and move around in the kitchen, and there is no squeezing or pinching or anything that feels uncomfortable. It is mostly the base ring that I feel when sitting down - the cage is just there.

I think I'll keep it on when going to work tomorrow - that will be another first time event.

 

[nohair]

How long is "long"?​

Time, that is.

The longest time I've been caged since I started experimenting with chastity is 32 hours. But the BAWR testcage fits me so well that I have kept it on since Wednesday afternoon, hence it is now 48 hours and counting (although I have taken it off to shower in the mornings). I don't know how long I will keep it on - tomorrow is a heavy workout day (moving my sister to another apartment) and probably Sunday too, so it might have to go off for that. Time will tell.

I am beginning to feel a lot hornier than normal. Those nighttime erections really push the limit and they are getting worse. My body apparently didn't get the memo about chastity cages controlling your erections.

But it is funny to experience the emotional changes that people here on CM write about - now they are happening in my mind and body.

So time to tick off another first:

• Caged for a full day at the office: Check

It wasn't quite without challenges - the BAWR testcage really isn't ideal when you have foreskin, so had to adjust things a couple of times to avoid excessive pinching. Look forward to my Looker 02 with the domed cage head. BAWR's BA-06 also looks interesting.

(And no, I will not be circumcised. Even though I can see it makes wearing a cage a lot simpler).

 

[Pandy06269]

How long is "long"?​

Time, that is.

The longest time I've been caged since I started experimenting with chastity is 32 hours. But the BAWR testcage fits me so well that I have kept it on since Wednesday afternoon, hence it is now 48 hours and counting (although I have taken it off to shower in the mornings). I don't know how long I will keep it on - tomorrow is a heavy workout day (moving my sister to another apartment) and probably Sunday too, so it might have to go off for that. Time will tell.

I am beginning to feel a lot hornier than normal. Those nighttime erections really push the limit and they are getting worse. My body apparently didn't get the memo about chastity cages controlling your erections.

But it is funny to experience the emotional changes that people here on CM write about - now they are happening in my mind and body.

So time to tick off another first:

• Caged for a full day at the office: Check

It wasn't quite without challenges - the BAWR testcage really isn't ideal when you have foreskin, so had to adjust things a couple of times to avoid excessive pinching. Look forward to my Looker 02 with the domed cage head. BAWR's BA-06 also looks interesting.

(And no, I will not be circumcised. Even though I can see it makes wearing a cage a lot simpler).

I also recently did first full day at the office. It was a big turn on having this thing on me that no-one else would even suspect of me.

I enjoy peeing too - it’s a reminder just when I’ve got so comfortable in the cage that I’ve almost forgotten it’s there. And I’m forced to sit down (I’ve always hating peeing in a urinal.)

I also find that I’m having to pee less, not sure why, I just seem to be able to hold it better.

I share your thoughts about circumcision. It would be easier, I’m forever adjusting my foreskin. But I just carry a wooden lolly stick with me and whenever I pee, I just push that skin back down where it belongs. It also gives me another reminder when the end of my dick pokes out the end of the cage and rubs on my pants!

 

[nohair]

Splat!​

I've read here on CM that peeing can be difficult, because it is difficult to control where the pee goes - hence the advice to sit down when doing it.

I always sit down - even before starting chastity - so it hasn't been an issue for me. Until today.

As I wrote yesterday, the plan for today was to move my sisters belongings to her new apartment. And I did wear the cage while doing so, and it gave me no problems whatsoever. But with all the bustling around, bending down, stretching out, reaching for the top shelf etc, it all caused my foreskin to curl up inside the cage, so there was no way out for the pee when I finally did sit down.

However, no matter what - given enough pressure, fluids will leak in whatever way is possible. In this case, upwards.

And what goes up, must come down - on the floor and on my pants. Fortunately I had returned home, so I could easily change into some clean clothes.

Another lesson learned in the life of a cage-wearer.

PS: Still locked, 3 days and counting. And now on chastitytracker.

 

[Pandy06269]

I found the same in my first day in the cage. Started off carrying cotton buds to push the skin down, now use a lolly stick. I carry it with me always and push that foreskin down to expose the urethra before I pee.

It’s still a bit messy but I also wear pee pads in my pants to catch any leakage after.

Yay, another chastity tracker sharer now!

 

[nohair]

Finished moving my sister's things today. Same problem with foreskin, but this time I was prepared and caught the yellow stream before it went astray!

Close to 4 full days locked now. Have an appointment tomorrow with my chiropractic - don't think I need to unlock for that. My target now is a full week, ie. until Wednesday afternoon.

 

[nohair]

Close to 4 full days locked now. Have an appointment tomorrow with my chiropractic - don't think I need to unlock for that. My target now is a full week, ie. until Wednesday afternoon.

Okay, I jinxed it. Woke up at 4:50 AM with one of my piercings really painful due to nighttime erections, so I had to unlock. Decided that with my chiropractic appointment later, it was probably better to let everything rest for the day.

Nonetheless, four and a half day for the first serious lockup? Beat my own initial expectations, so not bad at all.

 

[nohair]

Locked again.

 

[nohair]

It's been a bit of a rollercoaster currently. Lock - unlock - lock - unlock - lock.

I locked up Monday evening, but could only do 1 day before I had to unlock - something was rubbing the top of my penis and making it feel sore.

24 hour rest and I am trying again. This time with a slightly smaller base ring (42 mm instead of 45) - will see if that works better for the nighttime erections. With the 45 mm ring, the cage is pushed quite far down the shaft when I have an erection, and from my reading of the wise people of CM that points to the base ring being too large. Even though it is only a 3 mm difference, it feels much tighter than the 45 mm ring. So far - 6 hours in - I think it is okay. I am about to go to bed, so will see how things work out during the night.

It seems odd that I now have the same size base ring and cage - both are 42 mm. But I need the bigger cage to accommodate my piercings. If they were not there, something like 35-38 mm would probably be a better cage size. It probably means that being caged will not prevent me from getting an erection. But that is okay.

I haven't quite worked out why being caged appeals to me, and what it is that I want to achieve with it. Yes, I have a submissive streak in me, but my husband being dominant? No way! He might become my keyholder, but only because I ask him to - it won't be because he wants to determine when, how, or with whom I will be having sex.

Nonetheless, one goal for me is to have more sex with my husband and less sex with myself (a.k.a. masturbating). Not that I wank off twice a day, but enough that it dulls my desire for being with him. Another is that when we have sex I want to turn the focus a bit away from me getting the orgasm and onto him getting pleased - he deserves it, but has never asked for it. If he cannot touch my dick, maybe he will allow me to turn the spotlight onto him?

Love. Life. It's complicated, right?