I thought it was time for an update to our FLR journey.
Here is some background. We have both had prior marriages and have now been together for about six years. There was a lot of honest conversation about our past lives before we decided to become a couple. In a nutshell, she had bad history with men treating her disrespectfully, and I obtain gratification through service and submission. I have also cross-dressed for decades. In other words, I am nothing like any of her life experiences. Our progress is at her pace. She is learning to trust and gaining more confidence in herself. She is amazing, and I try to let her know that in every way that I can. There is so much more history to cover, but I think I may do so only when I need to add context to a recent or current event, if I post anything more.
So, here we are now.
Our sex life focuses on her orgasms and denying mine. I wear a chastity device quite often, sometimes continuously (except for hygiene) for weeks at a time. I started logging our orgasms in March 2024. For the last ten months of 2024, she had 94 orgasms, and I had 13 for a 7:2:1 ratio. As of this writing, in 2025, she has had 26 to my 4. I am down to once per month at most. Her pace is down this year because of real life interferences (illness, family stuff, etc.) but I hope we can help her get over 100 for the year, while I stay at not more than 12. I like being denied; it keeps me motivated.
She allows me to wear lingerie to bed when we make love, and like how it looks and feels on me. I shave my entire body below my eyebrows, and paint my toenails in winter. We got into pegging last year, and I hope to experience it more often. However, I have had difficulty getting prepared well enough for it to be a good experience. It's something I have to figure out. We also use several dildos, including a large black one that we've named. I like watching her fuck "him" and she like watching me suck "his" cock. We talk a lot during sex about having other men join us, in every sort of way you might imagine. Part of me really wants it to happen. I've never been with a man and never would unless it was part of a three-way with her.
I am retired, and my wife still works. I have taken over grocery shopping, meals, cleaning, and laundry in addition to any sort of maintenance and repair that is needed. The exceptions are whenever she feels like doing any of those (e.g., she loves to cook and she is fantastic). I like to do these domestic tasks while dressed in one of my maid uniforms, which range from functional to full-on French sissy maid styles. My wife accepts my crossdressing but doesn't like to see me fully en femme, so I often dress for most of the day and then change before she gets home.
I handle most of our finances, because I have more time, and I like it. I summarize everything and present her with reports of how our budget and retirement accounts are doing. I don't spend money on myself without asking her, and she spends as she pleases.
I would like to see things continue to progress. I could use more reinforcement to ensure my service is up to her standards. She is tolerant if I fail to get the floor cleaned or make her bed, for example. I've pointed her to a number of FLR resources. I feel like if she started punishing me for substandard performance that I would respond well to it and elevate even more. Also, if my orgasms or other rewards were based on merit instead of time passing, I think my eagerness to go above and beyond would increase.
But, here's the thing. In an FLR, it's her choice, not mine. I'll continue to try to do my best, and if the conversation arises, I will let her know that more discipline and higher standards would be welcome. I don't know how far I would want to go, but to date we are not close to my limits.
I welcome any thoughts you may have. Thank you for reading.
