For those with more experience in chastity, What are all your thoughts on intentionally cumming in your cage VS having your orgasm being ruined either by accident or your keyholder doing it on purpose (also in your cage)?
Caged orgasm VS Ruined orgasm
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I know you know this CS2, but for those who are just now looking at this thread, I had an accidental ruined orgasm in my cage just the other day and I gotta say... It really sucked! No sense of release at all! There was no drop, instead the horniness and urges got even more intense and yesterday, I was riding the edge for a couple hours while at work and it was extremely difficult to maintain a professional posture on the sales floor. Talk about torture! 
But enough about me... I wanna know what everyone else's experiences are. The more insight, the better.
"Data, data, data... I cannot make bricks without clay!" - Sherlock Holmes
But enough about me... I wanna know what everyone else's experiences are. The more insight, the better.
"Data, data, data... I cannot make bricks without clay!" - Sherlock Holmes
This ^
It's like a ruined orgasm but with a pretty significant drop and I hate it. It's miserable. The "drop" isn't even a horny relief, it's more like it makes you want out MORE.
After several years not being allowed to come any other way, my brain has been rewired, and now my "cagegasms" are amazing, toe-curling, intense orgasms. They may even be better than what I used to have, but I'll never get an opportunity to compare.
I know you know this CS2, but for those who are just now looking at this thread, I had an accidental ruined orgasm in my cage just the other day and I gotta say... It really sucked! No sense of release at all! There was no drop, instead the horniness and urges got even more intense and yesterday, I was riding the edge for a couple hours while at work and it was extremely difficult to maintain a professional posture on the sales floor. Talk about torture!
But enough about me... I wanna know what everyone else's experiences are. The more insight, the better.
"Data, data, data... I cannot make bricks without clay!" - Sherlock Holmes
This basically says it.
This sounds like a worth goal to me, because before going into chastity it would take me watching an “extreme kink” video just to push myself over the edge. After 7 months of chastity play, I’ve become so physically sensitive that I can accidentally push myself over just from adjusting my cage. That’s what happened the other day. I was trying a new cage and chastity strap combo and I ended up with a ruined in-cage orgasm immediately after snapping the lock closed.
I have no idea how long I would last getting an orgasm out of the cage right now. It’s kinda scary tbh.
I’ve had a few different kinds of caged orgasms over the years of cage life, and had both ruins and full.
The wand works pretty quickly and as long as it’s removed fast enough, it’s a ruin just as any other, it just leaves me hornier and more desperate for an erection. We’ve used the wand to give a full O as well, and it does seem to give me worse drop than a full from a handjob.
I’ve also had them from humping on my Wife’s bottom, it’s the same experience as the wand, if I stop moving just before tipping over the edge of cumming, it’s just a ruin, and she’s allowed me to have a full from it once. The drop wasn’t as bad as from the wand, but still worse than from a handjob.
I do not enjoy caged orgasms really, I’m very happy my Wife would rather use her hand to give me any relief. We stopped using piv for any of my orgasms except for maybe on our Anniversary or some random one she may grant me, so I really look forward to feeling her hand on my very erect penis
The wand works pretty quickly and as long as it’s removed fast enough, it’s a ruin just as any other, it just leaves me hornier and more desperate for an erection. We’ve used the wand to give a full O as well, and it does seem to give me worse drop than a full from a handjob.
I’ve also had them from humping on my Wife’s bottom, it’s the same experience as the wand, if I stop moving just before tipping over the edge of cumming, it’s just a ruin, and she’s allowed me to have a full from it once. The drop wasn’t as bad as from the wand, but still worse than from a handjob.
I do not enjoy caged orgasms really, I’m very happy my Wife would rather use her hand to give me any relief. We stopped using piv for any of my orgasms except for maybe on our Anniversary or some random one she may grant me, so I really look forward to feeling her hand on my very erect penis
I agree with the consensus - a caged orgasm is just uncomfortable and not that fun. I don't get ruins all that often, if my cage comes off it's almost always because my wife wants intercourse. But comparing the few I've had to the caged orgasms I've had ... I'd prefer a ruin.
So, based on what you're all saying, plus my own experience, it would seem the main difference of a caged orgasm VS a ruined orgasm is there's little to no drop with a ruined one, where as an intentional caged orgasm has a massive drop. Am I correct?
Interesting to see responses as I can't cum in a cage and she doesn't do ruins or edging. In end though as with most things I don't think there's an one size fits all answer for anyone.
She messes with my cage, my nipples and loves spankings. Seems shocking is her new thing since we tried it first time this week. I get teased just not in a habdjob type way. She likes me caged not out of it. We tried wand on my cage does nothing for me.
Ok, try this then. Stay in the cage as long as you possibly can and have her tease you as often as possible in various ways to find what excites you the most. Also, do discuss being more open about edges and ruins out of the cage. They will definitely increase your levels while locked up and perhaps make it possible for you to cum in your cage. Put simple, find what excites you the most and keep going it as often as possible and it'll build up and build up and eventually, it'll make you burst.
She wouldn't go for it and she is charge. It tends to be more of a hurting me thing which we both enjoy. I've edged myself a few times with permission don't see the appeal. I/we like pain I guess not frustration.
I think that's why you can't cum in your cage... You're focusing on the wrong thing. If you were focused on frustration & desperation, not pain, that might change everything.
I'm frustrated enough being locked all but basically 24 or so hours a month. No need to add to it. And again not her thing. She likes me caged not out of it.
There's other things to try that don't require unlocking, but you do you... If you don't wanna cum in your cage, then keep doing what you're doing. If you want to try it just to see how it feels, then a different approach/focus may be needed. Just a thought. 
Just don't find thought appealing and she don't really like me getting off unless its my scheduled day of release. To her the point of being caged is so I can't get off. If I did in my cage it would defeat purpose of it all. What we have works for us. It evolves into ruins etc then she's in charge.
I hate the guilt, ashamed feeling after sneaking a caged orgasm. I rarely do that anymore. I prefer to milk myself anally with a dildo. This method is always sensation free. Ruined orgasms are pleasurable to me because of the wicked smile I get from my Wife/KH afterwards.
I Carnt actually orgasm with a cage on, I can have A or P orgasms but not regular, so it’s ruined for me, plus my Madam loves the frustration of a ruined one.