Chastity Contracts

Badbob said:
Here is one I like for a female led marriage. It provides what I think of as a reasonable basis for changes in the contract and control while still maintaining her in a superior position.

Contract of Service

This Contract of Service (Contract or Agreement) is entered into voluntarily by both parties without duress of any kind. This Agreement is by and between ______________ (Wife) and _____________ (Husband).


Article I Recitals

1.1 Whereas, Husband acknowledges his deep need for loving female authority, and guidance.

1.2 Whereas, it is in the interest of both parties to have a strong and loving marriage.

1.3 Therefor, Husband, desiring to improve himself and the marital relationship, has wisely concluded that he should agree to a Contract of Service for the benefit of Wife, in which substantially all control of the relationship is in her hands. Wife, in exchange, offers to fulfill Husbands need for loving female authority under this Agreement.


Article II Definitions

2.01 Abrogate the Contract The rejection by the Husband of the Contract, leaving the marriage without any terms other than the original marriage vows. Permitted at only one time a year.

2.02 Chastity Device A locking device for preventing both erection and Orgasm, but allowing for urination and reasonable hygiene. Currently the CB2000.

2.03 Orgasm (male) An ejaculatory release of semen.

2.04 Prostate Milking The massage of the prostate gland in such a manner as to release ejaculate and/or other accumulated fluids without an Orgasm.

2.05 Punishment Period of Denial A period of time in which Husband is denied an Orgasm for punishment, as opposed to ordinary periods of denial.

2.06 Regular Duties A list of chores, duties and responsibilities and their frequency of performance.

2.07 Review A regular meeting in which performance under this Agreement is evaluated. This is also the time when Husband should make any confessions of infractions of the Rules. Husband will be offered an opportunity to express comments, concerns and thoughts for the Wifes consideration.

2.08 Rules In general, this Agreement in its entirety, as well as any Special Duties, Programs, Rules or requirements Wife may impose at any time.

2.09 Special Duties A list, though it may not be in writing, of tasks, chores, duties, actions and responsibilities to be performed, typically of a limited or non-recurring nature.

2.10 Special Programs Actions to accomplish a specific goal, e.g. weight loss, stop smoking, eat healthier, etc.

2.11 Unauthorized Orgasm Any Orgasm Husband has by any means that occurs without Wifes specific permission.

2.12 Unauthorized Sexual Contact Any contact with Husbands genitals, by anyone without Wifes specific permission, regardless of whether an Orgasm occurs or not.


Article III General Terms

3.01 Husband will always treat Wife with the utmost respect and affection in and outside the home.

3.02 Husband agrees to cheerfully and without complaint immediately comply with all of Wifes requests.

3.03 Husband agrees, if after full discussion no consensus is reached, to defer to her decisions in all matters.

3.04 Husband agrees to accept without complaint or argument her evaluation of his performance under this Contract.

3.05 Husband agrees to accept any punishments she may decide to impose for breaches of the Rules or this Contract.

3.06 Husband agrees to perform Regular Duties to the best of his abilities as detailed in Exhibit A.

3.07 Husband agrees to perform Special Duties as Wife may require of him from time to time.

3.08 Husband agrees to take all necessary steps and follow direction to accomplish the goals Wife sets out in Special Programs.

3.09 Husband agrees to promptly and completely confess all infractions of the Rules or terms of this Contract.

3.10 Husband agrees to provide sexual services to Wife at any time, in any manner and under any conditions she desires. Including, but not limited to, providing her with as many orgasms as she desires regardless of whether or not he is permitted one.

3.11 Husband agrees to accept without complaint, both verbal or through physical demeanor or facial expression, Wifes decisions regarding any sexual contact he may have with her.

3.12 Husband agrees that even during sexual relations with Wife, he must seek permission for his Orgasm before it is inevitable.


Article IV Chastity

4.01 Husband surrenders complete control of his Orgasm to Wife. She alone has the power to permit him an Orgasm.

4.02 Husband shall not seek, nor permit, any unauthorized sexual contact, as defined in 2.12.

4.03 Wife has graciously decided that Husband will not be kept in a Chastity Device permanently.

4.04 Wife has generously decided that Husband will not be punished for an Unauthorized Orgasm, provided that it:
is confessed to her no later that the first Review following its occurrence,
has been at least 30 days since the last Unauthorized Orgasm,
did not occur during a Punishment Period of Denial, and
did not occur during a period in which his performance of Regular and Special Duties was less than acceptable.

4.05 Wife decides the method, manner and severity of punishments for Unauthorized Orgasm.

4.06 Wife may choose to conclude that an Unauthorized Orgasm has occurred solely on the basis of slipping performance of Regular and Special Duties. In this event, she will pick the date from within the last Review period to be deemed the date of the Unauthorized Orgasm.

4.07 Notwithstanding other punishments that she may impose, Wife has determined the minimum punishment for an Unauthorized Orgasm to be:
confinement in a Chastity Device for a period of not less than 30 days,
a Punishment Period of Denial of 30 days to run concurrently with Chastity Device confinement, and
30 spanks on the bare buttocks with the implement of her choice.

4.08 Wife acknowledges that for the general health of Husband, if he has not been permitted an Orgasm for 28 days or more, including during Punishment Periods of Denial, that his prostate will be milked no later than 35 days from his last Orgasm or Prostate Milking.

4.09 During periods of enforced chastity, Husband will be allowed out of the Chastity Device for routine cleanings and teasings, at times and under conditions to be determined by Wife.

4.10 While confined in a Chastity Device, Husband will always have access to an emergency key, which will be in tamper evident packaging. The unopened package must be shown to Wife upon her request, and returned following the end of his period of enforced chastity.

4.11 Unauthorized removal of the Chastity Device is a punishable offense. In addition, there will be an immediate presumption that an Unauthorized Orgasm occurred. Furthermore, the provisions of 4.04, exempting certain Unauthorized Orgasms from punishment, will not apply in this case.


Article V Punishments

5.01 Husband surrenders to Wife the complete discretion to determine the manner, form and severity of punishments.

5.02 Punishments may include but are not limited to:
extra duties or chores,
denial of other forms of affection for a specified period of time,
extending the period of Orgasm denial, such extension known as a Punishment Period of Denial,
confinement in a Chastity Device for a specified period of time, and
spankings, strappings and canings.

5.03 Wife, in her sole discretion, may offer Husband a choice between two or more punishments.


Article VI Privileges

Wife, in her kindness and wisdom, grants the following privileges to Husband:

6.01 Husband may masturbate to the edge of Orgasm as often as he desires, when not confined in the Chastity Device. Privilege to masturbate is not approval for Orgasm, and Husband assumes the full risk and responsibility for even an unintentional Orgasms, which will be treated as Unauthorized.

6.02 Husband may initiate a request for sex with Wife at any time, and cheerfully accept her answer, or her terms under which it will occur.

6.03 Husband will not be required to disclose the contents of this Agreement to anyone.

6.04 Husband will not be required to wear the Chastity Device for medical checkups or procedures, or in other circumstances where exposure is unavoidable. Husband may agree to wear the device in such circumstances.

6.05 Husband may offer ideas and suggestions, especially in anticipation of her needs, on any matter that may arise between them.

6.06 Husband will not be humiliated or belittled personally or in front of others in any fashion.

6.07 Every Sunday at a time of Wifes convenience, a Review will be held. This will cover the following items:
Husbands performance for the week
Husbands confessions of infractions of the Rules
Husbands comments, concerns and thoughts are offered for her consideration. Husband must not state these as requests, merely express his desires and feelings. Wife, being the fair and loving person she is, will take these under consideration. Her decisions about his comments will be final. Inasmuch as these are not requests, she is under no obligation to respond to them at the time of the Review.


Article VII Amendment and Renewal

7.01 The term of this Agreement is a calendar year, January 1 through December 31. The Agreement may be extended and renewed indefinitely.

7.02 Wife has the full authority to amend this Agreement at any time, not only in the addition to Regular and Special Duties, but also in any other aspect.

7.03 Wife expresses the opinion that more restrictive is not necessarily better, that her objective is not to merely increase rigidity or severity of control; but rather to improve the marital relationship. Therefore, Wife has generously decided of her own accord that such amendments during the course of the calendar year will not materially increase the restrictiveness of the terms of service. Wife has the sole discretion to determine whether or not such changes constitute material increase in severity.

7.04 With the exception of the first Review of the new calendar year, Husband will graciously be permitted to propose changes to this Contract and his reasons on the first Review of a calendar quarter. In order to preserve the final authority of Wife, this is not a negotiation, Wife has final authority to accept all, some or none of the changes proposed by Husband.

7.05 The first Review following the start of the calendar year, is special as it sets up the renewal of the Contract of Service. It is the one time when Husband has the most freedom, essentially to accept or Abrogate the Contract. Husband must do one of the following:
Accept the then current Contract (with changes made during the course of the year, including those which may have been made specifically for the new calendar year),
Accept With Concerns that certain provisions may be so restrictive that he fears he may Abrogate the Contract, or
Abrogate the Contract in its entirety.

7.06 Abrogation of the Contract does not mean the end of the marriage, but such decision should be viewed as of similar magnitude. Husband pledges not to attempt to use this privilege as a negotiating ploy, but to do so only in the most extreme situation.

7.07 In the event that Husband Accepts With Concerns, the Contract as currently amended by Wife is renewed for a period of one month. On the first Review of February, Husband must select either to renew the then current Contract for the balance of the year, or to Abrogate the Contract in its entirety. Wife may, of her own decision, choose to amend the Contract he is presented on the first Review of February as the one to be completely Accepted or Abrogated. The Contract he is presented in February has only two options for Husband; Accept or Abrogate.


Agreed to this date _________________________

Husband: _________________________________


Wife: ____________________________________





Exhibit A Regular Duties

Husbands Regular Duties are as follows, subject to amendment without notice:

<fill in what you need>

Exhibit B Rules

In addition to the entire Contract, Regular and Special Duties, and Special Programs, the following Rules are prescribed:

<fill in what you need>
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This is fantastic. Thank you. I am definitely going to draw inspiration from this as I write my own to present to a woman I’m hopeful will be my Mistress.
 
sonhee said:
Below are our "rules" (not really a legal contract because that's a turn off). It's partly based on the contract posted on the first page here.

This is fantastic. Thank you. I am definitely going to draw inspiration from this as I write my own to present to a woman I’m hopeful will be my Mistress




  • Satisfying the Wife: The Husband agrees to satisfy the Wife by whatever means she deems necessary for sexual gratification.


  • Initial lock-up period: There is an initial lock-up period of at least 3 months, during which the Husband must not be unlocked by the Wife. During this period, the Husband is not allowed any sexual release, and the Wife cannot unlock the device for intercourse. The Wife can extend the initial lock-up period at her pleasure, up to a maximum of 12 months.


  • Releases: After the initial lock-up period, the Wife is given sole discretion of how often the device will be unlocked, and how often and in which manner the Husband is allowed sexual release. The Husband agrees that sexual releases may be accompanied by being restrained as determined by the Wife, and that the Wife may release the Husband for the means of sexual play but that no orgasm is permitted until the Wife permits one.


  • No begging: The Husband will not ask or beg for a sexual release. During intercourse, the Husband will not ejaculate or ask whether he can ejaculate until the Wife proactively permits it.


  • Ejaculation warning: During intercourse, sexual play, or teasing, the Husband will announce when he is close to ejaculation, so that the Wife can decide whether she will stop stimulation or allow the Husband a full or 'ruined' orgasm.


  • Playing along: The Husband will not resist a re-locking of the device after removal. Furthermore, the Husband will not attempt to defeat the device in any way.


  • Keyholding: The Wife will retain the key to the chastity device and will not leave the key in a place easily accessible for the Husband.


  • Emergency key: The Wife will make one emergency key available to the Husband for use in medical emergency, doctor appointments, medical or extreme discomfort issues, and any similar situations in which the device needs to be removed for a limited amount of time. The emergency key will be sealed in a tamper-evident way. The Husband agrees that in such situation he will notify the Wife immediately and that no sexual release is permitted. Once the situation has rectified, the Husband will re-secure device immediately and the key will be sealed as soon as possible.


  • Hygiene: The Husband is responsible to keep his genitals as clean as possible and to shave his pubic hair regularly. In the event that the chastity device needs to be unlocked for the purpose of a 'deep clean', this has to be done under supervision of the Wife, and the Husband agrees that he will immediately re-secure the device afterwards.


  • Punishments: Breach of contract by the Husband, such as asking for release or the unauthorized removal of the device, will be handled at the discretion of the Wife and may result in punishment, including but not limited to additional periods of lock-up and denial for Husband, submissive acts such as consumption of ejaculate, or physical punishment of the testicles or bottom.


  • Outside the bedroom: The fact that the Husband is wearing a chastity device will be kept confidential. Both parties agree that every day life decisions such as child development, household finances, and other marital decisions outside the bedroom will have no effect on terms of this agreement, and that such decisions made can have no impact on the terms of this agreement.
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xcitex2 said:
Our first Contract

Below you will find a copy of our most recent contract, literally just finished this weekend. It is by no means an end all contract but it was important to both of us (My Wife and I) to keep some of the vanilla elements in here until we can establish a longer term arrangement.


Enjoy and feel free to use any part of this for your needs.


Chastity Contract


Definitions 


CHASTITY BELT Any lockable wearable device designed for continuous wear to prevent masturbation, infidelity, control sexual urges or aggression, or sexual intercourse. 


USER The individual who will wear the device, hereafter referred to as the HUSBAND. By definition the HUSBAND has granted the control of his sexual organs and services to the KEYHOLDER. 


KEYHOLDER The individual who will hold the key and the control for the device, hereafter referred to as the WIFE. By definition, the WIFE is the individual entrusted to have absolute say in the use of the user�s sexual organs and services.


Term

� Husband will wear said device for a period determined by Wife.


Hygiene

� Husband is responsible for daily cleaning of device.

� Husband will notify the Wife immediately of any concerns regarding function or cleanliness of device.

� The Wife will permit at least one removal of device in a seven-day period for cleaning and shaving.

� Husband agrees that such release may be supervised and agrees to all terms of release as set forth by Wife, including restraints if deemed necessary.

� Husband agrees that during release for cleaning he will shave accordingly to keep genital area free from hair.

� Husband agrees that he will immediately re-secure device after all cleanings.

� Both parties acknowledge that a release from device may be permitted for medical or extreme discomfort issues. However during such release no sexual releases are permitted and husband agrees once medical condition is rectified immediate return of the device will commence without delay.


Keys

� Wife will retain all keys to said device.

� Wife will carry one key on her person at all times.

� Husband will not attempt to defeat the device in any way.

� Wife will make one emergency key available to Husband for use in medical emergency, doctor appointments, and any other situation in which excessive bodily harm may be present to Husband.

� Husband agrees that in such emergency he will notify Wife immediately and that no sexual release is permitted. If self-release is attempted and/or carried out, punishment as outlined in the contract will be applied.

� Husband agrees that once medical condition has been rectified Husband will re-secure device immediately and notify Wife of said action.




Sexual Release

� Wife agrees that husband will be entitled to at least three releases in any sixty-day period. Releases will be for a period of no less than 8 hours but no more than 24 hours.

� Wife is given sole discretion of how releases will be carried out. At least two of the three releases will be by means of sexual intercourse.

� Husband acknowledges and agrees that Wife has certain sexual needs that may need fulfilled and such releases for Wife do not constitute a release for Husband.

� Husband agrees to satisfy Wife by whatever means Wife deems necessary for sexual gratification.

� Husband agrees that sexual releases may be accompanied by being restrained as determined by Wife.

� Husband agrees that Wife may release husband for the means of sexual play but that no orgasm is permitted until Wife permits one.

� Husband agrees to use any sexual aids such as (but not limited to) strap-ons, vibrators, dildos, and other artificial aids to satisfy Wife.

� Husband agrees that Wife may use devices mentioned above in addition to other restraints on Husband and Husband will have no say in objecting to such devices. (Although begging up to a point will be allowed, once Husband is told by Wife to stop, the expectation is compliance. Failure will result in punishment both immediate and future.)


Non-Sexual Releases

� Husband agrees that Wife may release Husband out of good nature and that such a release from device is not grounds for sexual release.

� Husband agrees to abide by all directions from Wife during such releases.

� Husband agrees to re-secure device upon command from Wife.


Attire

� Husband agrees that Wife may require certain clothing to be worn by Husband, including but not limited to feminine clothing such as heels, hosiery, and other items. In such cases Husband agrees to follow directives as set forth by Wife.

� Wife agrees that she will not require clothing that would be detrimental to normal public wear or that would otherwise affect public opinion, interfere with work duties, or that would cause public humiliation for Husband.

� Husband acknowledges that Wife may adorn herself in various clothing to tease and/or torment Husband and that Husband is not entitled to a sexual release because of such adornment.


General Understandings

� Both parties agree that every day life decisions such as child development, household finances, and other marital decisions outside the bedroom will have no effect on terms of this agreement, and that such decisions made can have no impact on the terms of this agreement.

� Husband agrees and understands that Wife may use various methods to tease and torment Husband at any time. Further more, Husband understands that he has no say in such teasing and that Wife may continue at will.

� Wife understands that she is free to receive any form of sexual gratification needed from Husband during periods of confinement.

� Husband is aware that rewards � up to and including sexual release � are given for good behavior including but not limited to pampering, dinner dates, gifts, massages, and other ideas Husband comes up with.

� Both parties agree that modifications to this agreement may be needed during the period of this agreement and that such modifications can be made as long as both parties are in agreement.


Penalties and Punishments

� Both parties agree that deviation from contract will result in either cancellation of contract or punishments to correct errant behavior.

� Breach of contract by Wife will constitute a cancellation of contract.

� Cancellation of contract will result in immediate release of Husband from device.

� Breach of contract by Husband will be handled at the discretion of the Wife as outlined below.

� Unauthorized removal of device will result in a thirty-day period of lock up and denial for Husband. Absolutely no sexual releases will be allowed for Husband during this penalty period.

� Unauthorized removal of device that includes a sexual release will result in a forty-five day period of lock up and denial for Husband. Again, absolutely no sexual releases will be allowed for Husband during this penalty period. Additional punishment may be added as determined by Wife

� Husband agrees that additional restraining, flogging, private humiliation, servitude, and any other means of punishment may be administered by Wife to correct or punish infractions from contract.

� Husband agrees that failure to accept terms of punishment for infractions is means for immediate termination of this agreement and that such refusal could lead to other detrimental behavior on part of Wife.





Wife Signature____________________________________Date_ _______________


Husband Signature_________________________________Date____ ____________


Upon signing of contract Husband is to immediately secure said device and hand over keys to Wife. Terms of this contract commence upon transfer of keys.
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This is fantastic. Thank you. I am definitely going to draw inspiration from this as I write my own to present to a woman I’m hopeful will be my Mistress
 
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Mistress Watchful said:
Would those of you who are willing to share please post a copy of your contract in the thread below?

It is a topic that comes up frequently, and although contracts are personally tailored to your requirements, others may find them helpful in creating their own.

Thank you. :xd:
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This OP is very hard to read because it's in dark text and I use the Nighttime theme. 🌙
 
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Mine is based on the contract @slutsarah posted. Still need to edit more for stuff that feels a bit redundant and some of the wording feels off . Working on some addendums as well. Both of us are on the spectrum, so this is beneficial for us as it breaks down and organizes everything we have talked about. None of this was a surprise to my wife and she agreed to it without changes. We both fall around heteroflexible / pansexual. I'm also more of a nurturing dom outside of the bedroom. She has absolutely no interest in an FLR and her personality really isn't suited for it. She does want a more active sex life and this is helping with that.

Permanent Chastity Contract

Preface
Husband has acknowledged that he is unable to control masturbation under his own volition. Chastity has proven to be effective in moderating behavior and focusing attention on wife. This agreement is at Husband’s specific request. This contract serves to provide guidance and boundaries.

Definitions

CHASTITY BELT
  • Any lockable wearable device designed for continuous wear to prevent masturbation, infidelity, control sexual urges, or sexual intercourse.

PERMANENT CHASTITY
  • Idea that the keyholder controls all access. Explicit is the understanding that the device will be removed as needed and not be rendered unremovable. An eventual move to “pussy free relationship” is on the table, but this does not equate to an intimacy free relationship.

USER
  • The individual who will wear the device, hereafter referred to as the HUSBAND. By definition the HUSBAND has granted the control of his sexual organs and services to the KEYHOLDER.

KEYHOLDER
  • The individual who will hold the key and the control for the device, hereafter referred to as the WIFE. By definition, the WIFE is the individual entrusted to have absolute say in the use of the users sexual organs, services, and anything else She determines.

HARD STOP
  • This immediately pauses all aspects of contract and evaluates further use of contract. To be used when there is principal loss of trust between Husband and Wife. Can be used to address spiraling behaviors or dangerous situations. Resumption of contract may require conditions or reparation.

Safe word
  • Expected to be used as necessary
  • Green used by Wife and acknowledged by Husband.
  • Yellow used by husband to slow scene progression at discretion of Wife or Domme.
  • Red full stop and immediate private discussion between Wife and Husband. Potential for Hard Stop.
  • Alternate non voice signals to be established in advance of any scene.

Hygiene

  • Husband is responsible for daily cleaning of the device.
  • Husband will notify the Wife immediately of any concerns regarding function or cleanliness of the device.
  • The Wife will permit at least one removal of the device in a seven-day period for cleaning and shaving.
  • Husband agrees that such release may be supervised and agrees to all terms of release as set forth by Wife, including restraints if deemed necessary.
  • Husband agrees that during release for cleaning he will shave accordingly to keep genital area free from hair.
  • Husband agrees that device will be immediately re-secured after all cleanings.


Keys

  • Primary key will remain in lockbox, stored in bedroom closet. This key will be used for all non-emergency releases. At keyholder's discretion, a third party may be granted access under conditions set by keyholder.
  • Wife will make one emergency key available to Husband for use in medical emergency, doctor appointments, and any other situation in which excessive bodily harm may be present to Husband. This key will be kept in Husbands control and have a numbered security seal that will be broken if access is required.
  • Husband agrees that in such emergency he will notify Wife immediately and that no sexual release is permitted. If self-release is attempted and/or carried out, punishment as outlined in the contract will be applied.
  • Husband agrees that once medical condition has been rectified Husband will re-secure device immediately and notify Wife of said action and provide photo of device and new seal.
  • Both parties acknowledge that a release from device may be permitted for medical or extreme discomfort issues. However during such release no sexual releases are permitted and husband agrees once medical condition is rectified immediate return of the device will commence without delay.

Sexual Release and Practices

  • Wife agrees that Husband will only be released when She feels like it.
  • Wife is given sole discretion of how releases will be carried out.
  • Husband acknowledges and agrees that Wife has certain sexual needs that may need fulfilled and such releases for Wife do not constitute a release for Husband.
  • Husband agrees to satisfy Wife by whatever means Wife deems necessary for sexual gratification.
  • Husband agrees that sexual releases may be accompanied by being restrained as determined by Wife.
  • Husband agrees that Wife may release husband for the means of sexual play but that no orgasm is permitted until Wife permits one.
  • Husband agrees to use any sexual aids such as (but not limited to) strap-ons, vibrators, dildos, and other artificial aids to satisfy Wife.
  • Husband agrees that Wife may use devices mentioned above in addition to other restraints on Husband and Husband will have no say in objecting to such devices. (Although begging up to a point will be allowed, once Husband is told by Wife to stop, the expectation is compliance. Failure will result in punishment both immediate and future.)
Spanking
  • Spanking exists as both punishment and funishment.
  • Punishment spankings will be specifically stated and followed by appropriate corner time.
    • No warmup is expected for punishment spankings.
    • Attitude adjustment is a valid reason.
  • Both parties agree that Husband will receive regular and scheduled maintenance spankings.
    • Maintenance spanking will address accumulated infractions and include a warmup.
    • To be followed by corner time.
  • Husband retains power to discipline Wife under specific conditions outlined in separate mutual spanking addendum.
  • If Wife feels Husband needs a spanking, She should say so and do so.


Hard limits
  • Outside of expected occasional messiness of anal play, SCAT play is not allowed.
  • Permanent damage leading to loss of function or appearance of either party.
  • Blood play excluding the occasional break of skin as a result of rough play.
  • Any play that affects employment
  • Neglect. It is the responsibility of either party to voice concerns of needs not being met. Negative response by either party will constitute a hard stop until both parties are satisfied.
  • Loud play at residence, if it can be reasonably expected to be heard outside, it's too loud.

Third Party Participation Upon agreement by Wife and Husband, third party play will be allowed.
  • Usage of safe words to be agreed upon by all parties in advance of play.
  • STD testing required before any exchange of bodily fluids.
  • Cuckolding by Wife is conditional.
    • Opportunity sex: one off situations where Husband is informed immediately before or after the fact.
    • Long term partner with agreement of Husband.
  • Play partners as agreed by all parties.
    • All play by Husband without Wife in attendance will be agreed upon in advance.
    • Under no circumstance will penis be released for purpose of penetration without wife in attendance.
    • Spanking rights to be granted at Wife’s discretion.
    • Release by third party for purpose of tease and denial at Wife’s discretion and at request of third party only.
    • Oral privileges only to be granted with current active consent of Wife.
  • Group play.
    • Wife has ultimate control of all scenes
    • Unless contract is amended there will be no M/M anal penetration without wife in attendance.

Non-Sexual Releases
  • Husband agrees that Wife may release Husband out of good nature and that such a release from device is not grounds for sexual release.
  • Husband agrees to abide by all directions from Wife during such releases.
  • Husband agrees to re-secure device upon command from Wife.


Attire
  • Husband agrees that Wife may require certain clothing to be worn by Husband, including but not limited to feminine clothing such as heels, hosiery, and other items. In such cases Husband agrees to follow directives as set forth by Wife.
  • Wife agrees that she will not require clothing that would be detrimental to normal public wear or that would otherwise affect public opinion, or that would cause public humiliation for Husband.
  • Husband acknowledges that Wife may adorn herself in various clothing to tease and/or torment Husband and that Husband is not entitled to a sexual release because of such adornment.

Chores
  • To be addressed under mutual spanking addendum.

General Understandings
  • Both parties agree that every day life decisions such as household finances, and other marital decisions outside the bedroom will have no effect on terms of this agreement, and that such decisions made can have no impact on the terms of this agreement.
  • Husband agrees and understands that Wife may use various methods to tease and torment Husband at any time. Further more, Husband understands that he has no say in such teasing and that Wife may continue at will.
  • Wife understands that she is free to receive any form of sexual gratification needed from Husband.
  • Husband is aware that rewards up to and including sexual release are given for good behavior including but not limited to pampering, dinner dates, gifts, massages, and other ideas Husband comes up with.
  • Both parties agree that this is a living document and as such, modifications can be made as long as both parties are in agreement.

Penalties and Punishments
  • Both parties agree that egregious deviation from contract by either party will result in either cancellation of contract or punishments to correct errant behavior.
  • Cancellation of contract will result in immediate release of Husband from device and likely be followed up with couples counseling.
  • Breach of contract by Husband will be handled at the discretion of the Wife as outlined below.
  • Unauthorized removal of device will result in a thirty-day period of lock up and denial for Husband. This will include cancelling any third party play. Absolutely no sexual releases will be allowed for Husband during this penalty period. Additional punishment may be added as determined by Wife.
  • Husband agrees that additional restraining, spanking, flogging, private or public humiliation, servitude, and any other means of punishment may be administered by Wife to correct or punish infractions from contract.
  • Husband agrees that the Wife may choose to inform others of Her control over him via chastity cage. The Husband will have no say in who the Wife chooses to share with.
  • Husband agrees that failure to accept terms of punishment for infractions constitutes a Hard Stop.
Wife Signature

Husband Signature

Upon signing of contract Husband is to immediately secure said device and hand over keys to Wife. Terms of this contract commence upon transfer of keys.
 
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People seem to love these in no way enforceable pieces of paper with thousands of words. When a simple conversation over dinner will do and be more meaningful.
 
Mr_anonymous said:
People seem to love these in no way enforceable pieces of paper with thousands of words. When a simple conversation over dinner will do and be more meaningful.
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“Both of us are on the spectrum, so this is beneficial for us as it breaks down and organizes everything we have talked about. None of this was a surprise to my wife and she agreed to it without changes.”

I am autistic and adhd, I had and continue to have issues with cognitive distortion. If I don’t write something down, I will not remember it clearly and will quite possibly develop a different understanding than had been intended. I write and use procedures extensively in my professional life, for tasks and situations that could harm or kill others. Misunderstandings where there is no room for them, cause harm. I do my best to apply at least the same level of care to my wife that I do to my coworkers and community.

Context matters. It’s be argued ad nauseum that these contracts are unenforceable, don’t think there’s any disagreement. It could just as easily be said that these are rules that we have chosen to apply to our relationship and have had each partner sign in acknowledgment that there is a clear understanding. I don’t know about anyone else here, but there have been plenty of arguments in my marriage over misunderstandings over inconsequential things, having a clear set of rules applying to a range of activities that could destroy our marriage if either party wasn’t in clear agreement before performing an activity comes across as a pretty good idea.
 
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I agree very much establishing guidelines, boundaries etc is important. Contracts are helpful in that aspect. Its when owner/slave terms etc come to play it just becomes silly for me. If a misunderstanding over a kink can threaten a marriage. Perhaps the marriage isn't strong enough for kink.
 
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I agree very much establishing guidelines, boundaries etc is important. Contracts are helpful in that aspect. It’s when owner/slave terms etc come to play it just becomes silly for me. If a misunderstanding over a kink can threaten a marriage. Perhaps the marriage isn't strong enough
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Owner/salve just boils down to pronouns, not terms I would use and I feel would diminish the importance of our personal agreement, but to each their own.

As far as misunderstandings over a kink threatening a marriage (or relationship), I think kink offers a broad range of activities from inconsequential to life changing. Escalation from a hairbrush spanking to a belt spanking without discussion is one thing. Having a man fuck me without my permission when I am tied up just because I like getting pegged while I am tied up is a whole different ball game.

I honestly get where you are coming from, but I would say that perhaps the marriages are strong enough for kink because care has been taken to put guard rails in place. Ultimately, any discussion without documentation, never took place.
 
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People seem to love these in no way enforceable pieces of paper with thousands of words. When a simple conversation over dinner will do and be more meaningful.
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It makes for nice fap material though? "Oh noes, I am bound by this legal sounding paper to stick my dick inside a padlocked tube, forever!" 😂

The best kind of fap is one that removes all responsibility for the fantasy, and this makes it feel like the wearer no longer has a choice but to submit to the experience.
People really should have been edged for a week and then handcuffed to the radiator before being made to sign it... 😲

Pedantically, many of these contain flaws where the wording is contradictory, and open to misinterpretation or "abuse" by the wife.
It's a good idea to run it past ChatGPT and ask it if there are any logical flaws or loopholes. AI excels at legal contract interpretation

Like not accounting for prostrate stimulation, or engineering a breach of contract and thus a release, would be possible with at least one of these contacts
 
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horse said:
It makes for nice fap material though? "Oh noes, I am bound by this legal sounding paper to stick my dick inside a padlocked tube, forever!" 😂

The best kind of fap is one that removes all responsibility for the fantasy, and this makes it feel like the wearer no longer has a choice but to submit to the experience.
People really should have been edged for a week and then handcuffed to the radiator before being made to sign it... 😲

Pedantically, many of these contain flaws where the wording is contradictory, and open to misinterpretation or "abuse" by the wife.
It's a good idea to run it past ChatGPT and ask it if there are any logical flaws or loopholes. AI excels at legal contract interpretation

Like not accounting for prostrate stimulation, or engineering a breach of contract and thus a release, would be possible with at least one of these contacts
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I can see having a contract for some fun and sexiness of it. Oh no paper says I must be caged and spanked, not the briar patch lol. Some people take them so seriously though. Like anything on them can actually be enforced by law. I had to suck that dick the contract said I must obey my wife. Think in end it alleviates guilt to do things you always wanted to.
 
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Owner/salve just boils down to pronouns, not terms I would use and I feel would diminish the importance of our personal agreement, but to each their own.

As far as misunderstandings over a kink threatening a marriage (or relationship), I think kink offers a broad range of activities from inconsequential to life changing. Escalation from a hairbrush spanking to a belt spanking without discussion is one thing. Having a man fuck me without my permission when I am tied up just because I like getting pegged while I am tied up is a whole different ball game.

I honestly get where you are coming from, but I would say that perhaps the marriages are strong enough for kink because care has been taken to put guard rails in place. Ultimately, any discussion without documentation, never took place.
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I agree with a lot of this. I love being pegged but bring a guy in picture im filing for divorce and pressing charges. As long as you don't take them too seriously they can be a good thing. In our case we just talk and decide each others roles no pen and paper needed.
 
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